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How often do you change your hair colour?

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bettydraper31 Mon 12-Mar-18 20:49:15

I had highlighted blonde hair for about ten years, but stopped dying it when pregnant with DD1, and for the first time it was thick and long and lovely. It’s naturally light brown. I’ve never really liked my natural colour as I have fair skin and very fair invisible eyebrows so feel the blonde suited me better.

Not long after DD was born I got bored and had it highlighted again and low and behold after 6 months or so it was damaged and thinning, I even had to cut it shoulder length as the damage was bad (less budget now not working with DD at home!).

Soooo now I’m pregnant again and it’s grown out about 5/6 inches so covered the grown out bleach with a home dye to match my roots and again it’s thick and shiny BUT I just can’t get used to my natural colour!!!

I’m stuck between longing for thick long hair which I have with my natural colour but deep down I really don’t like it.

What colour is your hair? Do you often get bored and change?

Notcontent Mon 12-Mar-18 22:27:17

I am naturally a dark blonde so anything other than blonde highlights would look hideous on me! I think brunettes have more options...

Btw, I really don’t think colouring would have been the cause of your hair thinning - it’s more likely to be hormonal changes and very common after having a baby.

bettydraper31 Mon 12-Mar-18 22:35:06


It was one experience with a hairdresser, I could see she was overlapping the bleach on top of old bleach and not just on the roots. I mentioned this to her as she was doing it but unsurprisingly the damage was done and a lot broke off due to that angry

Bluesheep8 Tue 13-Mar-18 07:09:16

I've never coloured my hair (I'm 44) hair is naturally almost black with no grey. I kind of wish it would go grey tbh! Never coloured it as am sure they'd have to bleach it first as It's so dark. Would love to try different colours

Ragwort Tue 13-Mar-18 07:15:43

After one disastrous experience as a teenager dyeing my own hair (over 40 years ago grin), I have never, ever changed my hair colour.

I have been grey for a few years now, I am perfectly happy with 'natural' coloured hair.

1moreglassplease Tue 13-Mar-18 11:57:41

I've been with the same hairdresser since I was 19, and am now 49. I have exactly the same colouring as you and have been everything from platinum blonde (short and spiky) in my early 20's to red, blonde, blonde highlights, russet and my current dark brunette bob.

I haven't seen my natural mousey colour since the age of 20 and he tells me there is a small amount of grey in it. Am not tempted to rock the natural look just yet smile. Not sure I have another colour change in me but you never know!

youvegottobekidding Tue 13-Mar-18 16:58:30

Well I'm an absolute kameleon when it comes to hair colour! I'm so bad for it!

My natural colour was like an auburn colour, until I was about 15 & I dyed it black! Then at 18 I had it bleached peroxide blonde!

Pretty much since then (I'm early 40's now) it's been either auburn, dark brown, brown or blonde highlights. I've only had blonde a few of times though as I really really don't suit it at all. Never gone back to black but have been dark brown which I think looks the best on me. I was a vivid auburn for a while which I liked & have had periods where I've let my natural hair come through & not dyed it for some time.

Wish I hadn't started dying it really, would've been in better condition & really long by now! To be honest, it's not in bad condition considering what I put it through!

When my roots come through now, they look a mixture of light brown, grey & light auburn! And are very very resistant to dye! At the moment & for quite some years now my hair has been just brown (although I did have a mad moment a few weeks ago & have an ombre effect done - didn't like it & re-coloured over it) it's a bit 'meh' in places ss well so I'm on the hunt for a rich dark, but not too dark, chocolate brown dye, one that has to be able to cover my roots.

Evie3210 Tue 13-Mar-18 16:59:44

I’ve been bright pink for years now

Bluntness100 Tue 13-Mar-18 17:02:26

I usually use a box dye just to cover the greys and keep it to as close to my natural brunette colour as possible, however I've recently had it ombred (you know graduating lightness to blonde at the ends, my hair is quite long) could you try that? You then keep the dark hair at the top but lighten the bottom third basically.

Bluntness100 Tue 13-Mar-18 17:06:05

Like this,

bettydraper31 Tue 13-Mar-18 19:53:07

That’s not a bad idea bluntness. I’d not thought of doing that before, it looks really nice.

MillyChantilly Tue 13-Mar-18 19:56:05

I've got naturally dark blonde/mousey hair so have always had it lightened. I like being blonde and suit being blonde and it's pretty low maintenance for me. I have a goth friend who's naturally fair but dyes her hair jet black a la Dita von Teese. It looks amazing but requires so much upkeep because it's so far from her natural hair colour. I'm too lazy for that!

VileyRose Tue 13-Mar-18 20:52:43

I dye mine way too often. In a year been blue, purple, mermaid colours, pink, Brown, auburn, red, white and now pink.

Wish I stayed brown!

Laiste Tue 13-Mar-18 21:00:48

I go through a rough 5 year cycle. Blond then back to brown. (natural mouse)

When i'm dark brown it's in better condition, but gradually i get colour build up till it's too dark for me. I get sick of looking in the mirror and feeling i look boring and go back to blonde.

When i'm blond i get worried about the damage. Farting about with toners and deep conditioners - getting picky about how yellowy it might be getting (i look awful with anything yellowy) Overtoning at home and DH telling me off for 'going grey again'!

When i'm pregnant i like to be brunette (4 DCs). When i'm loosing weight and feeling like i need to be more noticed i like to be blonde.

Annabelle4 Tue 13-Mar-18 21:05:08

I'm 35 and have been getting various shades of blonde highlights since I was a teen 😳

I went very dark brown at one stage in my early 20s and bitterly regretted it and it took a year or so to go back to blonde. I'm pale and naturally dark blonde/light brown.

For the past 5 years I've been getting a bleach highlight and a toffee colour lowlight.
I fancied a change the last time so got a dark blonde/golden highlight and a dark brown lowlight. It looks really awful IMO, really streaky and not at all natural looking. I'm going to give my hair a complete break for a few months (hopefully until the Summer) and go back to the bleach highlights. I know what you mean though OP about bleach on bleach, I hate the buildup. Just ask for a scatter of highlights or t bar.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Fullfatlatte Tue 13-Mar-18 21:18:15

I have the typical mousey brown hair & fine. I used to have blonde highlights in the summer months then go darker for autumn/winter. I then switched to Clairol Nice & Easy to cover the greys (was fed up paying salon prices). I then stopped & went back to the salon! I’ve now decided to have a couple break from having a glossing treatment (to cover greys & tone down the redness in my hair). I’m currently using the Charles Worthington blue shampoo a couple times a week. Any other suggestions for toning down warmth in hair would be appreciated 😊 Has anyone tried the Redken equalizing glosses?

userofthiswebsite Tue 13-Mar-18 21:29:37

Gosh I love changing hair colours.
Naturally dark blonde which does me no favours.
Spent most of my time being highlighted but also tried mid blonde all over, brown, dark red and at present platinum.
Though the platinum is more yellowy at the moment as Provoke Purple shampoo doesn't seem to be removing the yellow tones.
The dark red was stunning as always caught the sunlight even though I am extremely pale skinned. Very high upkeep though as the red used to leach out of my hair so badly.

INXS Tue 13-Mar-18 21:36:05

I'm just like you OP - periodically decide it's time to give my hair a break, let my roots grow out, then wander about feeling shit for a few months wondering why I look crap. Eventually twig that it's my hair that's the problem, get foils done, feel instantly refreshed and prettier.

I used to think that, despite trying allllll the colours under the sun (except green), my natural shade would suit me best - I just didn't want it because it was boring. That everyone was sort of "designed" to suit their own colour best.But I don't believe that anymore... I think us mousy types really benefit from something a bit more definite. When my hair is blonde my skin looks better, my eyes bluer and makeup looks great.

INXS Tue 13-Mar-18 21:36:40

user have you tried Lee Stafford Hot Shots? They're pretty good.

bettydraper31 Tue 13-Mar-18 23:04:30

This is exactly how I feel INXS! But my hair is SO much thicker and shinier without the bleach... I know I’m pregnant so it’ll be thicker anyway but with my first daughter is stayed thick and long until I bleached it again! And it’s sooo expensive in my area (London outskirts). £100 ish for full head of highlights unless I go for a mobile hairdresser which is where it all went wrong last time ie overlapping the bleach.

I’m really going to try sticking to my natural colour this time. Hoping I’ll learn to love it in the end! But it’s true, I feel sooo much better with blonde hair but I just don’t think I can justify it any more.

INXS Wed 14-Mar-18 17:28:46

OP check out “Organic Colour Systems” and see if any salons near you offer it. It’s not bleach as such and may be gentler on your hair.
Other suggestion is to concentrate the blonde by your face and move towards darker at the back. Not a Ginger Spice tendrils thing but something more subtle! Should work as your hair is not that dark.
A t-section (rather than full or half head) would do it. Cheaper and gentler.
One final idea is to go a little darker with a sort of wash-out dye, or even a pinky sort of colour. Add a little condition to the hair (though it doesn’t sound like it needs it) and add something colour-wise.
I really agree though, those dark blonde / light brown shades can be really draining.

Laiste Wed 14-Mar-18 17:57:34

Anyone needing to tone yellow down at home - try Touch Of Silver shampoo. I'd been buying ££ branded toning shampoos and getting frustrated with them.

It's worryingly cheap (£2 in Savers at the mo) and looks old fashioned - but boy does it work! It's VERY strong looking out of the bottle, but don't panic. I read some where that if a 'toning shampoo' has gone white or very pale by the time it's gone on your head then it's not going to do much. Makes sense. 99% of the ££ ones i've tried seem to do just that.

Leave it on for 5 mins or so first time and see what it does. Longer next time if necessary. At that price you don't need to be precious with it!

INXS Wed 14-Mar-18 18:05:37

Laiste that’s the one that’s no longer working for User - Provoke, Touch of Silver, they’re one and the same.

I’m not enjoying my colour much at the moment either - realised today it’s because I want a gorgeous creamy blonde, not yellow or ash. Moon on a stick?

Laiste Wed 14-Mar-18 18:25:24

Oooh sorry i missed that. user have you tried leaving it in longer? Grasping at straws.

INX it's a really fine line isn't it? I scowl at my hair when the tone isn't perfect. DH and grown up DDs sort of nod and smile along. They can't seem to see the dreaded yellow like i can!

Frankiewears Wed 14-Mar-18 18:56:56

Op why don’t you just have some lighter bits put around the front to frame your face?

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