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Toning down a (sexy) black dress

(15 Posts)
Bambi75 Tue 06-Feb-18 10:35:47

I have a small dilemma. I have a ball (not black tie) coming up for which I’ve found a black lace cocktail dress that fits me perfectly. It fits brilliantly and is lined so gives a smooth silhouette.

The problem is that I’m just over 40, although a slim, toned size 10. Im brunette. The dress is not short - it hits at the knee - but it is body con with thin straps and a low-ish v cut. As such, it is a sexy dress, there’s no getting around it.

I don’t want to look cheap and tarty. At the same time I don’t have the time really to go hunting for something which doesn’t fit me better/I might not find. So, do I:

A) wear the dress but find a capelet or shrug to tone down the top half

B) try and find another dress


FritzyMousey Tue 06-Feb-18 10:42:09

If it suits you stick with it, just go a bit more subtle with hair, make-up and jewellery. What shoes would you wear? Have you tried some different bras with it?

Mulberrysilk Tue 06-Feb-18 10:47:24

Do you have a link to the dress?

Mulberrysilk Tue 06-Feb-18 10:48:37

Also, is the ball work related?

Bambi75 Tue 06-Feb-18 10:53:03

Thank you for replying.

I don’t have a photo because the dress is in the cleaners.

I don’t need to wear a bra because the dress has in built support.

I will wear small diamond studs and small diamond pendant. Not other jewellery apart from wedding rings. Hair down to my shoulder. Mid heeled (6cm) black simple strappy sandals.

It is not a work do but it is a pta parents party at a swish venue.

Skyllo30 Tue 06-Feb-18 10:57:30

Im sure it’d be fine but if you’re self conscious, what about this?

WildCherryBlossom Tue 06-Feb-18 11:02:11

The Jenny Packam shrug is beautiful. At the opposite end of the spectrum, I quite like dressing down a girly dress with a denim jacket or similar.

RatherBeRiding Tue 06-Feb-18 11:06:37

Option A definitely. The dress sounds lovely.

SleepingStandingUp Tue 06-Feb-18 11:09:05

That shrug is divine.

arousingcheer Tue 06-Feb-18 11:10:28

Will sleeves help?

Bambi75 Tue 06-Feb-18 11:11:10

That black embellished shrug is stunning !

Do you think that would work better than something like this..?,mon_1.5/4400214661

SleepingStandingUp Tue 06-Feb-18 11:15:10

Yes, go with the shrug up thread. It looks like something you keep on not something you should take off

Bambi75 Tue 06-Feb-18 12:54:42

Thanks everyone, I feel reassured and will definitely go for the shrug option ! x

HairBlues Thu 08-Feb-18 00:00:33

I wouldn't wear strappy sandals with a strappy dress unless I wanted to look sexy. I think open feet shoes and open shoulders dress show off too much all together IYSWIM. When I want to tone a dress down, wear court shoes (pointed and thin heel though).

I would probably wear nude or black courts with a pointy toe and a mid heel.

OutyMcOutface Thu 08-Feb-18 00:05:35

Find a different dress. Nothing worse than too much cleavage unless it is matched with lace.

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