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I suddenly look so old!

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reallyneedmoresleep Sun 05-Nov-17 15:11:29

I’m 43 so not a spring chicken but I suddenly look old. I’ve lost a bit of weight recently and I feel like my face has sort of collapsed and looks especially wrinkly around my mouth.
What magic potions can I put on my face to help please?

zippyswife Sun 05-Nov-17 16:33:45

Hi. I have no advice but just wanted to say there’s been a few of these threads recently- one of which I started. We’re all in the same boat! It’s shit isn’t it? But I bet it’s not nearly as bad as you think. You’re probably just being harsh on yourself. flowers

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 05-Nov-17 17:55:23

I’m no expert, I’ll get that out of the way right now. I’m 49, been around the block and love skincare so I’ll tell you what I’d do.

Drink a lot of water every day.
Double cleanse with an oil then a nourishing cream or balm.
Use flannels to clean off the product.
But a decent acid toner ( I use pads) then spritz with a hydrating one afterwards.
Massage in a serum and top with an all round moisturiser.

Gingernaut Sun 05-Nov-17 17:58:57

I've just taken a screenshot of your advice, StillStayingClassySanDiego grin

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 05-Nov-17 18:03:58

Sorry, posted too soon.

What’s your budget?

I’m a massive fan of NIOD, I’ve said it on another thread today , I really rate their products.

Vichy do good stuff , a serum they do is particularly good for dry and dehydrated skin. Superdrug are also producing very good skincare at very reasonable prices if your budget is tight.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 05-Nov-17 18:08:16

Ginger smile there are posters here with a more in-depth knowledge than me.

OP, eat more watery food too; cucumber, beansprouts ,melon and lots of spinach.

Themummy76 Sun 05-Nov-17 18:19:54

Factor 50 on your face - every day

NellMangel Sun 05-Nov-17 18:37:32

I hear you OP. 41 and single parent to toddler. Prior to child I was always told how young I looked. People couldn't believe my age. Now? Greys that dye can't keep up with, hair looks thin, odd vertical eye wrinkles, saggy tits.

Tits aside I think lack of sleep is the culprit and that is beyond my control.

I've started taking boots skin hair nails multi vitamin, using sanctuary hot cloth cleanser and lacura caviar serum. Think my skin looks bit better.

I'll be taking note of any advice you get .

Gingernaut Sun 05-Nov-17 18:41:33

Thanks StillStayingClassySanDiego

I'll lurk with NellMangel wink

Dustbunny1900 Sun 05-Nov-17 19:07:09

Plenty of potions or procedures you can do..retin A, red light therapy, micro needling, acid peels, and of course lots of heavily moisturizing oils and creams and sunblock.

But loss of facial fullness (in the temples, upper cheeks, lip area) it appearance of Jowls ages you more than wrinkles. You mentioned losing weight, so I’d look into fat transfer or fillers.

Dustbunny1900 Sun 05-Nov-17 19:07:43

And ** not it

Blondielongie Sun 05-Nov-17 19:14:37

I've aged since having a child and I'm only late 20s....

lottieandmia22 Sun 05-Nov-17 19:18:41

Caci treatments will help to stop your face from sagging.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sun 05-Nov-17 19:27:35

I'm early forties and since last week I've noticed my face looking positively elderly.

I'm telling myself it's an illusion in the harsh winter light but have also started using No. 7 perfect and protect serum which claims to make my skin look younger in 14 days.
I'm on day 3 and no difference so far.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Sun 05-Nov-17 21:50:06

Another vote for CACI facials if you have the budget for them. @StillStayingClassySanDiego which toning pads do you use please?

reallyneedmoresleep Sun 05-Nov-17 22:32:47

Thanks for the replies - sorry to sound like a dimwit but do you use serum and then moisturiser on top? I always thought it was either/or.
Also, please can someone tell me more about what CACI facials are? I will google but always useful to hear first hand experiences.
Tits - ha! I swear when I lie down they slope off round my armpits now. I bought a couple of rigby & peller bras (£££!) which help when I’m wearing clothes but I do worry about bruising my knees when I take the bra off...

oldlaundbooth Mon 06-Nov-17 01:46:00

Dunno anything about the facials or serums but you should eat good fat, salmon, almonds etc. Plump your skin up.

IvorHughJarrs Mon 06-Nov-17 01:48:32

Bear in mind that skin takes a while to shrink after you lose weight so you may find things slowly improve. I was told it can shrink for up to 2 years after loss

Good hydration, good fats in diet and good skincare will all help

ShovingLeopard Mon 06-Nov-17 01:55:29

Another 43 year old here, whose looks have gone south (quite literally in the case of my jaw line) in the last couple of years since having a baby.

Wrinkles-wise I'm ok, but what on earth can I do about the jowls? I'm in danger of becoming a looky-likey for the Churchill dog!

Bimbop5 Mon 06-Nov-17 02:00:54

Argh I feel your pain! I'm 42 and I'm shocked by my jowls and eye bags. And then I have stupid allergies that puff up my eyes in all the wrong places. I keep thinking I should just gain 10 lbs and see if it helps. I'm 5'6" and 120 lbs. I used to be 160 and now I'm so saggy even with jogging 3 times a week, grrrr. I've been using Andalou products and sometimes when my skin is really dry I use La Rochs Posay Lipikar butter. But I don't think these products are helping enough!

princesscasino Mon 06-Nov-17 02:29:17

For making the eye area look younger and tighter I was really really impressed with (deep breath) " Clarins Extra-Firming Tightening Lift Botanical Anti Ageing Face Serum" (I know, it's a bit of a mouthful to say) - having tried lots of under eye firming potions including the Ren one and some others, this was by far the best. It's not cheap so I am hoping someone will buy me a new one for xmas. BTW I also rate this as much better than the Clarins Double Serum and the results are instant.

zippyswife Mon 06-Nov-17 07:27:10

Noooooo don’t put on weight to puff out the wrinkles. I tried this recently. The weight went on in one place- to form a sporan like flesh apron- c section overhang. It did not puff out my face or wrinkly sagging boobs. I would definitely urge against this plan. I am now trying to lose the flesh sporan!

Helena17 Mon 06-Nov-17 09:46:56

Putting on weight won't help getting rid of your wrinkles. drink lots of water and avoid oily food. Apart from cosmetics, It's good to be healthy inside and have an optimistic outlook. I suggest yoga as a good thing to try as well.

chocdog Mon 06-Nov-17 10:02:21

My advice is don't look and don't obsess.
Yes, it's a good idea to wear sunscreen, but however much you spend on products, you are just going to look older and older as the years go by, like everyone else.
The only thing that could change that is expensive top-quality surgery. And that just looks weird in real life in my opinion.
I am much older than you and I just don't scrutinise my face. At your age everyone's eyesight starts to f up anyway so in everyday life, friends your age won't see what you can see in your well-lit bathroom mirror.

Don't let the minute changes in your face get you down. They are inevitable.
- Wear clothes and makeup that suit you.
- Have fun and enjoy your life.
- Get softer lighting in the bathroom.

chocdog Mon 06-Nov-17 10:11:10

If you do look a bit gaunt after your weight loss I bet this is only temporary. (Well done by the way!) I have noticed this on friends who have lost weight and their faces seem to fill back out again naturally after a few months.

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