Help me find an un-weddingy wedding dress please

[IsleofGoats]

We’ve decided to get married and are doing it in January. Small do, registry office, family only etc etc But I need some help because I’m panicking and can’t find anything suitable. I’m usually very good but I don’t know what it is about this that’s causing me some kind of brain freeze

I do not want to wear a traditional style wedding dress - they’re just not for me. I’m looking for something special though.

HAS to have sleeves/hide the tops of my arms, calf/midi length preferably, (though I’m open to getting something altered) and doesn’t have to be white, but don’t want to stray too far from white/cream/very light grey/blush

I typically like drapey (as my BF calls it), asymmetrical style things
To give an idea, I love these dresses but for the colour
www.rolandmouret.com/product/autumn-winter-2017/allerston-dress/blue

www.rolandmouret.com/product/autumn-winter-2017/wren-dress/blue


Can I please ask the mumsnet vipers to help before I burst my iPad off the wall?

[TimbuktuTimbuktu]

Ooh fun! What’s the budget?

[BigBairyHollocks]

How about something like these?

[BigBairyHollocks]

They're all Una Rodden Coture in Belfast.not too weddingy I thought.

[TimbuktuTimbuktu]

No sleeves but could maybe be altered/ worn with shrug?

www.harrods.com/en-gb/31-phillip-lim/asymmetrical-feather-embellished-dress-p000000000005765496

Not sure about this but right colour

www.selfridges.com/US/en/cat/roland-mouret-tetbury-asymmetric-crepe-dress_417-2001420-S0074F0020/?previewAttribute=Ecru

www.selfridges.com/US/en/cat/maticevski-in-flight-asymmetric-stretch-crepe-midi-dress_238-3004586-DR388017W/?previewAttribute=White

www.selfridges.com/US/en/cat/antonio-berardi-asymmetric-ruched-jersey-gown_238-84019603-BPL474A/?previewAttribute=Azzurro+chiaro

Not sure any are quite right but see what you think.

[ShiftyMcGifty]

Love the ecru dress in Selfridges. Imagining Claire underwood wearing that to her registry wedding

[sashh]

I always suggest this - have a look at sari shops

www.mirraw.com/designers/online-hub/designs/white-georgette-embroiderd-semi-stitiched-salwar-with-dupatta-party-wear-salwar-kameez--6?country_code=GB&utm_source=google&utm_medium=scpc&utm_campaign=Shopping-Salwar-UK-PLA-intl&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIq5eTttye1wIVygrTCh2uFwCiEAQYBSABEgJh3fD_BwE

www.sareeka.com/alluring-white-salwar-kameez.html

[FlorenceandtheWashingMachine]

Vivienne Westwood www.viviennewestwood.com/en-gb/shop/womens/clothing/dresses/virginia-midi-dress-white

[IsleofGoats]

Oh my word - thank you all so much! How I couldn't find these myself is a mystery to me

I LOVE those Una Rodden ones BigBairyHollocks - exactly the type of thing I'd wear. Will get investigating her immediately

I tried on that Roland Mouret one but it just swamps me - I have a couple of his dresses and love them, but that one just wears me as opposed to me wearing it, if that makes sense

I like the Westwood as well - will check out where i can try her stuff on (not near London)

I've no budget - as in, within reason, but willing to spend/invest to get the right one.

[FlorenceandtheWashingMachine]

Good luck! Let us know how they look :-)

[OlennasWimple]

What size are you, OP?

[OlennasWimple]

Drapey sleeves

Full length Oscar De La Renta

Full length Roland Mouret

Temperley

Off the shoulder

Emilia Wickstead 70s style (but wool so warm!)

[IsleofGoats]

Thank you Olenna! I’ve tried on that and the other Mouret’s, but they don’t like me unfortunately 😟 I was full sure I’d find something of his and just buy it and everything would be fine, but it’s just not happening for me now. Typical!

I’m an 8 on top, 10 bottom. 5’5” but I can do heels

A footnote - that blue Mouret that I linked in the OP - there’s a picture online of Conor McGregors GF wearing it recently and I don’t mean to be unkind, but it doesn’t look as great on as I thought. I think it’s a tall girls dress

[MinesaPinot]

What about something like this?

www.tedbaker.com/uk/Womens/Clothing/Dresses/BEGONI-Neapolitan-frilled-neck-midi-dress-Ivory/p/155570-IVORY

It's in the window of the Ted Baker store near us, and I thought immediately how nice it would be for a registry office wedding or similar