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Fat, 50 and going clubbing . Help 😱

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MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 20:14:05

0ff on hen weekend soon. Will be mainly very lovely 20 somethings with a sprinkling of oldies. I fall into later category. Fat and 50. Going to wine bar and then off to club, it has been decades since I went clubbing and very rarely get out to wine bars these days.

Can I get your thoughts on this outfit, is it ok so out of touch. 5'8" and size 18/20.

These trousers in black www.baukjen.com/uk/shop/baukjen/jumpsuits/liana-jumpsuit-darkest-navy.htm with this top www.mintvelvet.co.uk/product/yolanda-print-cowl-neck-tee/10594, these shoes www2.hm.com/en_gb/productpage.0355417001.html#Black and this jacket www.marksandspencer.com/ruched-sleeve-blazer/p/p22504316?image=SD_01_T59_3500J_K0_X_EC_90&color=CREAM&prevPage=plp&pdpredirect and this clutch www.houseoffraser.co.uk/bags-and-luggage/michael-kors-jetset-travel-crossbody-clutch-bag/d778825.pd#264076502.

Is this ok or am I on wrong track all together.

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 21:03:17

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LadyBundleBrent Fri 19-May-17 21:20:15

I think that looks like a gorgeous outfit! are you comfortable in those (lovely) heels if dancing all night? I'm useless so end up wearing flats on nights out when I'm on my feet (am 5'8" too so not too short without heels).

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 21:35:56

I guess the heels are a bit impractical I'm thinking they may slim me a bit but happy for ideas for other more comfortable flats

Lucked Fri 19-May-17 21:44:21

What colour for the shoes? Although I think black and navy can work I am unconvinced of black shoes with navy jumpsuit. The grey or red might be better but may get not work with the blazer.

I have a bit of a thing for navy and pink and topshop has lots of pink shoes at the moment.

NashvilleQueen Fri 19-May-17 21:48:56

Im 44 and fat and I think that's a great outfit. It's cool and timeless.

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 22:08:50

Thanks just feel so out of touch and obviously can't and don't what to compete with the gorgeous 20 something but have a real fear of being frumpy. Funny being old doesn't bother nor if I'm honest does the fat that much either ( got no one but myself to blame for that) but by god the frump factor is a real worry.

I was thinking of a navy jumpsuit as well ordered this one www.baukjen.com/uk/shop/baukjen/jumpsuits/liana-jumpsuit-darkest-navy.htm but as hold weight round my middle thought I might be a bit of a telly tubbie in it.

charliethebear Fri 19-May-17 22:18:25

I'm confused? Are you wearing a t-shirt over a jumpsuit? Or did you mean to link some trousers? I like the idea of the first outfit but I'm not a not a fan of the top, I think that would look a bit frumpy sorry, I like the shape but I don't like the pattern. I love the jacket, shoes and clutch!

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 22:21:33

No the jumpsuit was just an alternative. To the trouser top and jacket. I know what you mean about the top but I can't find anything else in my size that isn't completely sleeveless or cold shoulder both of which not a good look with my upper arms

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 22:23:36

Clutch was a real bargain only got it this week. Reduced from £155 to £86. Thought it was a good buy. Not normally a Michael Kors fan but really liked it.

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 22:45:03

What do you think of this top as an alternative? www.mintvelvet.co.uk/product/rafia-print-cowl-neck-tee/9250

Clarabelle40 Fri 19-May-17 23:03:23

You have linked to the jumpsuit instead of trousers in your first post, which is why we are confused!

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 23:08:38

Sorry not sure what has gone on there bit of a glitch it is these trousers www.boden.co.uk/en-gb/womens-trousers-jeans/trousers/wm453-pnk/womens-navy-with-mid-pink-tipped-richmond-7_8-trousers. Or maybe black slim jeans

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 23:10:20

Sorry not sure what happened to the first trouser link it seems to have got corrupted when I posted the jumpsuit link later on.

Clarabelle40 Fri 19-May-17 23:14:46

It works now smile
I like the trousers and the jumpsuit, but personally I would go for trousers to avoid any unfortunate loo incidents! blush

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 23:19:37

Know what you mean although as jumpsuits go it seems quite easy to get out off but who knows what it will be like after a few drinks.

Really stuck on a top though.

charliethebear Fri 19-May-17 23:26:37

I see what's going on 😊 I prefer the second top to the first one. And i like the jumpsuit too! But I think jumpsuits are definitely something you have to try on yourself and see if they suit 😊

PurpleMadness Fri 19-May-17 23:40:01

I think you're close on nailing it, if not already so. Like the jumpsuit and jacket. In the end, at these types of events, people check you out from the chest up, because you're probably sitting behind a table (at a bar), or standing in semi-darkness (club).

Have you taken the likely weather conditions into consideration with your choice of style/fabrics?

I would ditch the shoes and get something solid but glam that you can walk/dance in. And I don't mean sparkly Fitflops! :-) Maybe get some cheap pumps and shove them in your bag. Or this folding ones by butterfly or whoever.

Have you got your makeup and jewellery sorted? And hair? A basic outfit 'dressed' right could be the clincher. Good underwear too?

Can you ask one of the youngsters if you are on the right track? After all there are all kinds of clubs, but I guess you're going to something mainstream with a glam dress code. But, reckon you've got it pretty sussed. Get the outfit sorted and concentrate on getting trashed having fun. Can I come too?

Clarabelle40 Fri 19-May-17 23:42:10

How about just a plain silky t-shirt with the trousers? I don't think you would want anything to 'compete' with the ruched sleeves on the jacket, if you know what I mean?

MeMyElfandI Fri 19-May-17 23:49:52

Thanks ladies. make-up sorted have spent a small fortune lately on Charlotte Tilbury and Laura Mercier. Think of keeping it quite low key as don't want it to settle into the wrinkles but concentrating on eyes. Also was thinking of getting some of those fold up pumps as well.

Hair is basically a blonde bob and can't do much with that but could try maybe to do something with straighteners to make it a bit choppy.

Jewellery I'm at a bit of a loss.

Wish I could find a plain black silky t shirt in my size. Have already scoured internet with few options all either all polyester and Bardot or cut out shoulders or very mumsy.

Clarabelle40 Fri 19-May-17 23:58:56

Just had a quick look and bloody cold-shoulders everywhere! Sorry for not being much help.
Make-up sounds lovely smile

MeMyElfandI Sat 20-May-17 00:03:02

Thanks for trying Clarabelle. I will keep trying but if not top 2 will have to do.

PurpleMadness Sat 20-May-17 00:27:12

Try John Lewis. Lots came up when I searched for silk tops. I liked your jumpsuit tho. Top 2 dodgy if you are apple-shaoed IMHO.

I think jewellery trend amongst younger age group is for chockers and/or multi strand fine chains with charms or small pendants. I cld b wrong. Check out Grazia may or try booking a stylist apt. I tried JLs and Debenhams. Latter fab, but depends on luck with getting compatible stylist.

Your main aim is to have fun. Are you the Groom's Mum?

RonaldMcDonald Sat 20-May-17 01:21:18

Do you mean clubbing or on to a cheesetastic wine bar style disco?
This makes all the difference.

Love the cowl top
Wear with some waxed skinnies and boots/trainer boot!
Loads of sparkly Charlotte tilbury eye
Dry hair 3/4 then pin it and leave until you go out...upside down spray and go

SashaSays Sat 20-May-17 01:43:10

I would go for jumpsuit. With a pair of cream shoes, as it would match jacket and clutch. A shoe with a wedge could work well as it be easier to walk and dance in.

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