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My lovely FIL died yesterday of cancer and his funeral is next week I have my DS clothes sorted (jeans and a shirt) but I have no idea what to put on DD. She's 10 and normally lives in leggings and Tshirts. She hates skirts/dresses. All the stuff in next/Debenhams is either summer dresses or school uniform and my head is all over the place looking. We've planned a humanist funeral at a crematorium so not a stuffy church affair.
Who do you need to please with the outfit? For example, would your MIL or DHs family feel it was disrespectful to have less formal dark coloured clothes, or is the intention that it is a colourful celebration of life?
My FIL died this year. My 2 DDs wore navy & white, smart shoes. They wore dresses (Debenhams & M&S) but trousers, jumpsuit would have worked. I hated dresses and skirts as a kid too.
Funerals don't have to be all black these days. Black, grey or navy leggings and a plain tunic in grey, blue or lavender or similar, or a discreet floral pattern - anything as long as it's not too bright and 'in your face' would be fine I think.
My DD is also 10 and had to do similar recently for her great grans funeral. I got her plain black dress from River island with black tights and black ankle boots and black short jacket from Next. Think it's quite informal for kids xxx
Well, dd is old enough to understand that sometimes you do have to put your own preferences aside so as not to upset someone else, and this is one such occasion. But a plain dress or tunic over leggings would seem to be a good compromise.
Mine have been to lots of funerals (sadly). Clothes were really the least important thing...dd would have worn leggings and tops at 9/10/11...the most recent 3 funerals she has worn jeans. Nobody could care less to be honest with you..