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DH's hair is really thinning. He's asked me to ask you lot for help...

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DoItTooJulia Mon 24-Apr-17 19:27:06

He's 36 and has a family history of baldness, although his dad hasn't gone bald both of his grandfathers did.

He's always had thick, lovely hair but the last 3/4 months he's noticed it getting a lot thinner and he doesn't want it to.

He's wondering about special shampoos/supplements or any top tips really.

I think he's a bit upset because he has a beard and thinks he's going to have to get rid of that if he does end up bald.

I've told him bald isn't the end of the world and can be very sexy but he's not there with it yet. He just feels too young. He's only just come to terms with how grey his beard has gone in the last 12 months! And he's hating the in between stage too-this thinning stage iyswim?

Any ideas?

SweetChickadee Mon 24-Apr-17 19:30:18

I'm not aware of any shampoos that actually help - but if it's on the way out my only advice is to shave it off, don't try and disguise it.

DH started having a # 2 cut at about 32 if I remember right. He's never been bothered that he's balding, and I don't give two hoots. He's just as handsome.

and use sunscreen grin

LettuceMash Mon 24-Apr-17 19:31:30

I did a product test for some thickening shampoo recently and it really worked. It was a john frieda one, shampoo, conditioner and serum. I'll look and see what it was called.

WorknameJimEllis Mon 24-Apr-17 19:34:51

Shave it off

Much better all round.

In my experience baldness it otherwise make no difference to the attractiveness of a man to women. The big turn offs are ponytails, comb overs and really desperately trying to hang on to a rapidly thinning hairstyle. All of which suggests someone clinging to the shreds of youth via a mid life crisis The confident sexy chap embraces it and does a no1 all over.

Beard and bald is fine btw. My DH totally rocks beard and bald.

Dailymaildailyfail Mon 24-Apr-17 19:37:51

He needs to go to Boots and join their hair retention programme. It's free and he can see a specialist in hair retention. They'll probably recommend he starts taking Propecia which is proven to help stop hair loss in men, it's on private prescription (£90 for 3 months supply) but he shouldn't take this if you're planning on TTC as it can be dangerous.

Let me know if you need any more help- my DH has been through this and went for a hair transplant 3 years ago and the difference in his hair and his confidence is outstanding.

DoItTooJulia Mon 24-Apr-17 19:43:56

Wow-that was quick, cheers!

He desperately wants to avoid the comb over/looking to disguise that it's thinning. He takes good care of himself and goes to a Turkish barbers regularly to get his eyebrows,ear hair and nasal hair done while they trim and hot towel his beard. He does keep his hair fairly short anyway.

No TTC-we have two DCs and we're done!

Yes please to the shampoo name-it's got to be worth a shot. And he does love a product!

I didn't know Boots did anything like that Dailymail no doubt he'll be checking it out!

Thanks again, he'll be chuffed I posted!

DoItTooJulia Mon 24-Apr-17 19:49:13

I've just read all this out to DH and he is really pleased.

He was especially happy with the recommendations and the news that beard and bald is rockable.

For a hirsute man this has been a bit of shock, and a couple of things lately have made us start to feel our age in a way we just haven't before smile

Imstickingwiththisone Mon 24-Apr-17 19:56:56

I feel for men who are insecure about losing their hair. It's so easy to dye over grey as a woman.

IMO 36 isnt a really young age for it to start to thin though. I agree with shaving it off, it can look really good and definitely works with a beard.

Have you seen those glue on wigs? They're quite expensive but so authentic. Not sure how well they work in every day life though,but the photos are fantastic

DonkeyOaty Mon 24-Apr-17 20:06:15

Jools I've sent you a PM.

DoItTooJulia Mon 24-Apr-17 20:16:53

Cheers Donk-pinged a reply back!

SnoozeTime Mon 24-Apr-17 20:21:33

A lot of the products are just gemics. Wayne Rooney and a lot of other men in the public eye got hair plugs

Theworldisfullofidiots Mon 24-Apr-17 20:25:46

My dh gets his hair cut short short and it looks better.
My bill went bald early and started shaving off what was left in his 20s. The upside is he is now late 40s and seems to have hardly aged a day....

elevenclips Mon 24-Apr-17 20:29:31

My H gets hair shaved to grade 3.
Best to "own it" imo.
wish both men and women would look real like they really are.

BahHumbygge Mon 24-Apr-17 20:30:02

Have a look into 5 alpha reductase inhibitors, which block the conversion of testosterone into its turbo charged form, and leads to excess body hair, balding and prostate enlargement. Either herbal like saw palmetto or pharmaceutical.

Innermagic Mon 24-Apr-17 20:33:12

Forget the gimmicks,
The only product scientifically proven is minoxidil (regaine) but it has to be used continually and may get worse before it gets better.

Goldfishjane Mon 24-Apr-17 20:33:56

Qvc do this
And there's a headset version!
Money back guarantee.
No pills
No idea if it works!

Believeitornot Mon 24-Apr-17 20:36:48

Is he actually thinning or is it paranoia?

toffeeboffin Mon 24-Apr-17 20:38:28

Bald and a goatee is very, very sexy I find.

skincarejunkie Mon 24-Apr-17 20:41:26

Rock the bald look! Bearded, even better!

ArseyTussle Mon 24-Apr-17 20:43:15

Oh yes, bald and a beard is very pleasing to the eye. smile

MorelloKisses Mon 24-Apr-17 20:45:07

Hello. From experience I know it's very distressing for men and can cause a lot of emotional turmoil, especially those for whom it comes on quickly, or who have a father who didn't lose a hair! A lot of men also do not suit or desire a bald head. There are however some solutions. First is a drug called finasteride (propecia is one brand of this drug), which blocks the hormone that causes hair loss. This is essential to keeping the hair he already has, and prevent more loss. It does however need reading up on a some side effects can be serious. There's also minoxidil (Regaine), which helps the supply of blood to the hair cells. This is also really helpful at preventing the loss. Further to this there's concealers such as nanogen. These are really great for thickening the appearance of your hair, covering thinning spots and more. The last solution is a hair transplant. These take a lot of research and it's essential to find a reputable and world class surgeon. A good transplant can be life changing and is the best solution depending on the type of loss. The best thing to do is to join some of the hair loss forums, where you can read up on the drugs, concealers, transplant experiences and get an idea of where you are and where you are heading. It usually takes a number of approaches to get a grip on hair loss, but it can be done and it's better to act sooner than later.

Twixes Mon 24-Apr-17 20:46:06

On what dailymail recommended above- propecia tablets, quarter a day stops hair loss in its tracks. But just to say there's absolutely no evidence that men taking propecia has a teratogen effect to embryos/foetuses.

I feel so sorry for men whose self esteem is impacted by hair loss, it's so unbelievably cruel and unfair to lose your hair

ThreeFish Mon 24-Apr-17 20:46:26

Oh I agree, hair trimmed number 2 or 3 and a well trimmed beard.

Goldfishjane Mon 24-Apr-17 20:52:14

Believeitornot "Is he actually thinning or is it paranoia?"

Is it just me who heard that in a cartoon villain voice? grin

Joking aside, is it def male pattern or could it be stress? I lost hair due to stress but it grew back.

Chottie Mon 24-Apr-17 20:56:39

I don't know where you live, but Philip Kingsley trichology in London is great. There is lots of information about hair health too on the website.

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