Have you tried the Fudge Hair Shaper? It's pricey but it controls my thick, wayward hair without turning it to concrete. I sometimes find one application lasts a few days if I don't wash my hair. (Sorry if that's too much information.) My hairdresser uses it too. www.fudgehair.co.uk/core-fudge-range/fudge-hair-shaper
They also do a putty but that doesn't hold as well.
Both my brothers also use it. You can get it online from ASOS or Menkind or in Selfridges. Your hair does need to be completely dry before you put it on, but because it's also a bit like a dry shampoo it gives a great matte texture.