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Short hair in your 40s? Advice welcomed!

(33 Posts)
Teaistheanswer Tue 03-Jan-17 11:18:35

A bit of background, I currently have fine, just-above-the-shoulder hair in a bob style. I look after my hair and have it cut regularly but just lately it seems a bit frizzy and flyaway.
Was watching some home videos with the family last night in which I had short hair. It looked really nice and it started me thinking would it be a good idea to chop it off and start again! Although, I was obviously 15+ years younger so am worried that my 45+ hair wouldn't look that good!
Any advice welcomed smile

slug Tue 03-Jan-17 11:48:45

I'm 51 with what is almost a buzz cut. I love it and, after getting over the shock, most people admit it suits me.

I have my hair this short because, frankly, I can't be bothered looking after it. It takes minutes to try, requires no styling and if you fancy changing the colour, there is no waiting for it to grow out. Currently I'm sporting a bright auburn but this is being removed with my next cut and I think I'll go bright red for a while.

Teaistheanswer Tue 03-Jan-17 12:20:42

That sounds great slug! Especially the easy to care for part! I spend ages blow drying mine only for it to look like a frizzy mess as soon as I go outside grin How long was yours before you took the plunge?

Newbrummie Tue 03-Jan-17 13:03:36

I think it depends on your face, I look like a man with short hair but if you are pretty you can pull it off

Teaistheanswer Tue 03-Jan-17 13:08:55

Oh dear new that could be a problem! grin

ladylambkin Tue 03-Jan-17 13:10:23

I'm 45 and have short hair I love it and people comment on how lovely it is smile

niminypiminy Tue 03-Jan-17 14:01:56

You don't have to be 'pretty' to have short hair- I'd certainly be buggered if that was true! I give you Jamie Lee Curtis - a very handsome woman, but not pretty or petite or feminine. And she looks awesome with short hair (+ grey hair + glasses).

Newbrummie Tue 03-Jan-17 14:14:53

I'll rephrase that .... Attractive then. Not like a man as I would look

Teaistheanswer Tue 03-Jan-17 14:18:20

A very good point, she always looks good. She certainly rocks the grey (another thing I have now that I didn't have before when my hair was short hmm ) Thanks for the advice everyone. I will let you know if I take the plunge. Good luck with your new year style ideas!

MrsArthurShappey Tue 03-Jan-17 14:28:08

I'm 40. Last year I had my hair chopped to look like this (except mine's a natural brown now mostly grey). I luuuuuurve it, it's taken years off me, and is very flattering to my chubby face and double chin. And it's so easy to manage. My hair, which was always longish, naturally curly and a beautiful glossy brown, had just turned awful in my mid-late 30s. I just couldn't make it look good, even with a really good cut. Now, it's no effort to look really good! Some mornings I literally just run my fingers through it and I'm away. And it looks flat if I condition it, so I'm saving time and money too! (although it does need regular trims)

Best thing I ever did smile

Teaistheanswer Tue 03-Jan-17 16:54:09

MrsArthur you are definitely selling it to me now! I would love to not have to spend ages faffing about with my hair! I think the only concern I have left is that because it is fine will it look like I suddenly have hardly any hair shock although it's certainly not baby fine and being one length doesn't help with volume.
Maybe this year is the one to take that step. Thanks again for all the positive advice smile

Stradbroke Tue 03-Jan-17 17:21:30

I have short hair and love it. I am neither pretty or look like a man.

LockedOutOfMN Tue 03-Jan-17 21:11:24

MrsArthurShappey Great hair! How can you be 40?!

CauliflowerSqueeze Tue 03-Jan-17 21:17:49

She looks LIKE that. She's not the person in the photo

LockedOutOfMN Tue 03-Jan-17 21:18:34

Sorry, Cauliflower. I misread.

justkeepongoing Tue 03-Jan-17 21:19:34

I'm the other way I had an extremely short hair (urchin cut ) until I hit my forties and then I grew it. Had it varying long lengths for nearly 12 years. I think that I look younger with longer hair but it's all subjective. I'd go for it if that's what you fancy. A change is as good as a rest!

roundandroundthehouses Tue 03-Jan-17 22:14:50

I'm 47 and just starting to find that short hair isn't working for me any more. My hair is still mostly dark but the grey is increasing, I also have glasses and have put on weight lately, as well as starting to look my age when for years I looked a fair bit younger. Basically, I'm nowhere near as attractive as Jamie Lee Curtis and the whole combination has started to look decidedly frumpy.

So I think it just depends on your own particular style and features. I had my short crop for 10+ years and it's only really the past year or so that it's stopped looking good. I think now that I'm older I'd have to look more generally 'groomed' and neat to carry it off, and I've always been a bit more, ahem, casually presented wink.

MrsArthurShappey Tue 03-Jan-17 23:01:36

cauliflower ssshhhhhh! Thank you lockedout I am veh veh beautiful and youthful grin

tea if you go to a really good hairdresser you trust they'll know a way to cut it so it doesn't look too thin. Mine is a miracle worker! And there are lots of good 'texturising' products out there.

CauliflowerSqueeze Tue 03-Jan-17 23:10:10

Ha! Your secret is out mrsarthur !
locked - no problem - sorry if my response came across a bit snippy - not meant at all.

Teaistheanswer Wed 04-Jan-17 16:55:07

Thanks MrsArthur I think you make a good point, a good hairdresser will know the best way to cut it short. I think a bit of colour might be in order too. In for a penny and all that grin

GatherlyGal Wed 04-Jan-17 19:04:22

I've had short hair for a couple of years now. I took the plunge when allergic reactions meant I couldn't keep covering up the gray. I decided that nicely cut greying hair was better than long and straggly.

I love it and frequently get complimented on it.

A fantastic hairdresser is key.

ConkerTriumphant Wed 04-Jan-17 20:32:19

Love love love short grey hair! I'm mid-40s

MrsArthurShappey Wed 04-Jan-17 21:07:00

Ooh conker that's a great cut, love it. I've been getting increasingly short back and sides with each trim, as I'm getting braver 😃

Teaistheanswer Wed 04-Jan-17 22:15:49

Wow conker that is a great cut! It's really great to hear all your experiences and advice. I'm going to have a chat about going short with my hairdresser on my next visit. She's been cutting my hair for years so knows it really well but has never yet cut it short for me...I think she'll think I'm having a mid-life moment! grin

CoffeeDiamonds Sat 28-Jan-17 18:07:59

Did you do it?!

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