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2016 has been shit. I now face 2017 as a separated, fat, frumpy, 49 year old. I live in jeans, shapeless tops and flat shoes. I rarely wear makeup. When I look in the mirror I feel sad. I look like I've given up (I have).
So, on the basis of new year, new start - where do I start? I intend to overall myself but haven't got a clue. I'm a size 18-20 and big everywhere.
Please please please help me find some more stylish clothes to wear during the day.
I live in jeans and flat shoes too. Last year I got myself a few long sleeve good fabric breton tops, and some good leather ankle boots and I practically live in them, with a couple of scarves to make different. I'm not at the forefront of fashion nor do I want to be but I value a few timeless items now that make me feel smart and therefore better about myself. As for makeup, I'm lazy and hardly ever wear it but feel so much better when I smooth a bit of BB cream, a touch of blusher and a quick whoosh of mascara. Less than a two minute job.
Why don't you concentrate on changing one thing per month in 2017? Write down 12 things...For example, January start exercising for 10 minutes a day, 5 times per week, February start a skin care routine, March 5 fruit and veg a day, April wear a little makeup every day etc Making one little change at a time until it becomes a habit will make it easier to stick to. Imagine how much better you will feel this time next year
Definitely read the thread Gruach linked to. 6 months ago I was definately where you are. I was dressing out of mountain warehouse, and looked and felt a total disaster. I committed initially to perfume, mascara and earrings every day, then I ordered masses (and I mean masses - I needed an excel spreadsheet to track my returns) of clothes, and built up a decent basic wardrobe. Maybe not super stylish, but all things I felt good in. I bought a lot of stuff from a Boden, Poetry, Wrap and the odd thing from independent shops and Monsoon. My wardrobe isn't huge now, but everything fits and I enjoy wearing it - mainly trousers/Bretons/cashmere jumpers/wrap dresses and tunic dresses.
Sorry to hear that you have had such a difficult year, OP.
I hit rock bottom in terms of S&B a few years ago, after a long period of PND. I found that, as I started to pull things back together, quick wins were really important - it's vital to see immediate results when just setting out, IMO. For me, that meant putting together a manageable makeup routine (to begin with, just BB cream, mascara and a tinted lipbalm), getting a load of pretty earrings from ebay and also a few colourful, vaguely trendy outfits from Primark (didn't want to spend much because I had 3 stone to lose). I also joined Slimming World. I hated the idea of having to go to a slimming club, but it turned out to be transformative. The weight came off really quickly, but even after the first week or so, I felt so much more body-confident and in control.
Good luck, OP. I hope you really enjoy re-discovering your style and giving yourself some TLC.