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So I've ascertained I'm REALLY not a dress person... opinions on my plans for posh dinner, please?

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SomeDayMyPrinceMightCome Thu 17-Nov-16 12:10:53

I posted the otehr day on here about my FIL's 70th dinner.

I am NOT a dress person. I knwo this now.

Lovely advice and gorgeous suggestions were given to me. I ordered several. The gorgeous dresses all looked and felt awful on me.

It has confirmed what I suspected. I wasn't really a dress person before I had DD, and I'm CERTAINLY not a dress person now that I'm no longer remotely body-confident!

So, here is my alternative plan for tomorrow night's dinner and I would LOVE opinions.

Smart black cigarette trousers, black strappy silk cami, men's-style crisp white shirt worn unbuttoned over the top as a 'jacket'/ to cover my awful arms, extremely high pale grey heels, clutch bag and dramatic jewellery.


If I could copy any celeb's style it would be Charlize Theron and I think (I hope??) this sort of outfit is a bit like her style.

I feel it is dramatic/bold enough to not make me feel like a frumpy mum and is in its own way like the way I used to dress (albeit in the olden days the trousers might have been shorts or something).

I could do a pencil skirt instead of the trousers but I love the insousiance of a cigarette trouser and heels.

aaaaarrrrgh, is this going to look OK?

The occasion is a smart dinner, I suspect most of the otehr women will be in LBD-type dresses at their smartest or skirts/tops if not (many are older as it's a family do)

Thanks hugely!!

SomeDayMyPrinceMightCome Thu 17-Nov-16 12:12:31

Oh, the otehr option for a cover-up/jacket is an actual jacket, I have a black blazer but it's not really quite tuxedo-y enough for the look I'm going for iyswim

SomeDayMyPrinceMightCome Thu 17-Nov-16 12:13:46

Argh sorry, this is the most drip-feedy-est of drip-feeds!

I am getting my hair blow-dried and a manicure so I'm hoping the grooming will add to the general effect.

margaritasbythesea Thu 17-Nov-16 13:12:12

Sounds really nice.

BumbleNova Thu 17-Nov-16 13:20:33

Whilst I absolutely appreciate the look you are going for, white shirt and black trousers may make you look like a waitress?

any other options for a cover up?

sortthetacheoutbernard Thu 17-Nov-16 13:24:35

Sounds great. I think a nice jacket would look great instead of a white shirt though

Harriedharriet Thu 17-Nov-16 13:33:03

Love the idea but for it to work in real life you need a silk (or silk effect) shirt and NOT white - white. Choose one with a soft ish collar and good reveres. Unless of course you are actually 6ft tall with baby blonde hair and the body of a godess. I stood beside her one day in a carpark. Humbling grin]

missfliss Thu 17-Nov-16 13:33:59

I am planning on nearly the exact same outfit for my 40th.
I'm just wearing leather leggings and leopard heels instead, with drop earrings and red lipstick instead.

I have this lovely jacket from monsoon - a shorter tuxedo with a satiny lapel. its lovely, and a bargain at only £59,mon_1.5/1426330108

missfliss Thu 17-Nov-16 13:40:08

this is the cami I'm going for - black silk and lace.

also not good at dresses, I feel too self conscious and exposed in them

I'm pretty much attempting to channel Stella Gibson from The Fall in this pic

PussyPatches Thu 17-Nov-16 14:52:21

Sounds like a great outfit but I agree that something silly might be easier to carry off as a jacket. Grey silk shirt would be good.

Liiinoo Thu 17-Nov-16 16:15:27

Sounds very chic.

StillMaidOfStars Thu 17-Nov-16 18:32:25

Jacket rather than shirt, IMO. Something tux like, with the satin stripes and shizz.

SomeDayMyPrinceMightCome Thu 17-Nov-16 19:09:39

Thanks all!

Ah, harriet, if ONLY I was 6 foot tall with the body of a goddess... grin

Have a major girl crush on Charlize though! I like to feel she's how I would look if I was a few inches taller (actually I'm almost 5 foot 9 already), a few hundred degrees more facially stunning and if I was willing to spend roughly 6 hours a day in the gym. I love her athletic look as I have the same broad shoulders, angular body type etc, it's just that mine is all hidden beneath a more shall we say comfortable layer of insulation grin

So, on the advice from here, I am wondering about changing tack very slightly and going for the same cigarette pants, either the same black cami or a cream/off-white one and, instead of the white shirt, a rather fab thick silk Chinese-collar black shirt I've owned for years but only bring out occasionally. It's such heavy silk it's almost more a jacket than a shirt and I LOVES me a Mandarin collar (I always wear my hair up so it works for me)

Does that sound a good option?

Thanks SO much again. I have totally and utterly lost my mojo, along with my body shape, so this advice is all terrific and thank you. I feel so un-toned and because I SHOULD have an athletic body type, being u-toned just makes me look relaly crap. I wish I could do curvy but I can't.

PussyPatches Thu 17-Nov-16 20:12:11

That black shirt sounds fabulous and, just as importantly, it sounds as if you feel really happy it in.

Great outfit. You'll rock it!!

user1471503992 Thu 17-Nov-16 20:16:36

Both of those sound amazing! Any chance of a photo?

ConkerTriumphant Thu 17-Nov-16 20:28:22

Chinese top sounds perfect!! Pics please!

Dingarees Thu 17-Nov-16 20:32:38

I think that sounds great. The couple of tweaks I would make:

Grey silk cami to match shoes and break up head to toe black.
Good jewellery as outfit not too feminine.

Dingarees Thu 17-Nov-16 20:34:25

I would go with a sheer silk white shirt if you can find one I think white by the face is more flattering.

SomeDayMyPrinceMightCome Thu 17-Nov-16 20:44:10

thanks all!!

Wish I could do pics but am hopeless on tech front plus lighting in my bedroom is DIRE, these awful energy-saving bulbs... even if I knew how to upload a pic all you'd see is a dingy blur.

Gteat suggestion re breaking up all the black with a grey cami... having a look online now to see where might have one that I can get tomorrow if I have time. Am somewhat obsessed by grey so I don't know why I haven't got a grey cami in my wardrobe...

Good jewellery also a good tip, I have a couple of lovely necklace options that are fairly feminine. I will also wear one of my beloved scarves (never get a chance ot wear any of my nice ones anymore) as we arrive so if I'm feeling too stark or drab I'll keep it on for a bit...

Thanks so much, I can't tell you how much I appreciate the confidence boost!

Harriedharriet Thu 17-Nov-16 21:04:25

Let us know how it goes?

SomeDayMyPrinceMightCome Thu 17-Nov-16 21:05:10

I will harriet and thanks so much to everyone who posted on this thread and my last one flowers

Bluntness100 Thu 17-Nov-16 21:09:10

I'd also kill the white shirt, they always look great on models but hard to pull off in real life. The black Chinese jacket sounds much better,,,

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