Would I be nuts to get my big, bushy, frizzy hair lopped off into a bob tomorrow?

(24 Posts)
feesh Sat 20-Aug-16 17:54:58

Inspired by the tousled bob thread - I just booked in with the hairdresser tomorrow. I've got an overwhelming urge to get my slightly below the shoulder length hair lopped off into a jaw-length bob.

I ALWAYS tie my hair back. Literally, every single day. It's normally in a bun - I hate the feeling of having it down and I don't think it suits me down.

I've been trying to grow it out for more than a year, as I thought the extra weight would help it to hang more nicely, but it won't go any longer than it is now.

But I also hate that it looks so lazy and ungroomed like this. And I'd like something a bit edgy, and something which will force me to wear it down.

I thought a tousled bob would be quite quick to dry and I could do what's been suggested in the other thread to tousle it.

However, my hair is actually curly, which I am in TOTAL denial about - I hate seeing it curly and on the very rare occasion that I ever do wear it down, it's straightened to within an inch of its life. It looks like a frigging bush otherwise. Weirdly, the front and my fringe are completely poker-straight though. If I had a tousled bob, I would actually straighten it first before tousling it, otherwise I would just look like I'd escaped from a horror film set.

I have a very blunt Dawn O'Porter style fringe which will also need to be grown out a bit to make a bob work.

So would a bob actually be a nightmare? I've got such a strong urge to just do it!

ChessieFL Sat 20-Aug-16 17:56:58

Sounds like it would be a lot of work each day to make it look good - as long as you don't mind that, go for it! However, if you can't be bothered faffing with your hair every day, keep it at a length you can tie up easily.

feesh Sat 20-Aug-16 17:59:14

OK, this is how in denial I am.....I am thinking just a quick blast with my Parlux, then section it, twist it, and leave it to dry while I sort the kids breakfast out?

Too optimistic?

feesh Sat 20-Aug-16 18:00:07

I have spent my entire life yo-yoing between growing my hair out, and then getting pissed off with it and lobbing it all off again. You think I'd have learned, but no :D

Saladfox Sat 20-Aug-16 18:03:46

I also have hair that it just about shoulder length and is naturally curly with a tendency to bushiness, and if I cut it into a bob length, it would stand out horizontally around my head and make me look electrocuted.

My hair has been transformed by finding a hairdresser who herself has curly hair and understands curly hair - her cuts have made a huge difference to the way mine hangs, even on bad hair days - and it sounds to me as if you need someone similar...?

feesh Sat 20-Aug-16 18:36:30

Salad, do you wear it curly then? I honestly can't stand mine being curly - it actually makes me cry! I have fat hamster cheeks and I look utterly ridiculous with curls and I just look a bloody awful mess. Honestly. The first hairdresser who ever diagnosed me as a curly was a celebrity one, and he spent loads of time with me cutting it, styling it and giving me lessons - I still hated it. The first time I ever wore it curly, after a visit to see him, I went and met some friends in the pub and literally nobody said anything. Not a single comment on my wildly different hair. I took that as confirmation that it really didn't suit me!

Saladfox Sat 20-Aug-16 18:51:29

No, I don't - it's a rather 'rough' curl that looks quite ungroomed/unkempt if I leave it to dry naturally, unfortunately. However, as the curl is what gives it its body, if I were to blowdry it straight, it would sit flat on my head like the world's thinnest hair, and look equally awful!

What I do is to let it dry by itself till almost dry, put some styling cream in it and go over briefly it with a blow drier and a large round brush, so it smooths the hair surface but gives it more of a loose wave - which looks more groomed, though not straight. But having a good haircut still makes a huge difference - and in fact I noticed it even this summer when I was in a humid place on holiday, so my hair reverted to curl. The shape was far better.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sat 20-Aug-16 18:58:51

Nooooooooo , it'll go curlier shorter !

Gatekeeper Sat 20-Aug-16 19:00:41

God nooo!!!! you will end up with a Crystal Tipps wedge head

hollinhurst84 Sat 20-Aug-16 19:02:14

I have really curly hair and have it in a short inverted bob

Wolpertinger Sat 20-Aug-16 19:48:27

It will be higher maintenance to straighten it everyday shorter - curly hair loves being short as the curls bounce even tighter.

On the other hand if you could learn to love your curls, short curly hair is amazingly low maintenance.

I doubt v much you look ridiculous with curls - you just hate what you have and prob have a cut that doesn't suit them and don't know how to handle them. I spent years fighting my hair but when I finally made peace with it, my curls really do suit me and life is much much easier.

specialsubject Sat 20-Aug-16 20:15:45

Dont do it! Get wella straighten it done. There is an escape if you have curls and dont want them.

Lasts nearly a year if done properly.

Swish. . smile

specialsubject Sat 20-Aug-16 20:16:37

I also look much better without curls. Some of us do.

KatieScarlettReregged2 Sun 21-Aug-16 09:12:34

I have a no fringe, side parted, invert chin length Bob.
Left to itself I look like crystal tips. Very thick, think pubic.
GHDs are my friend.
As is dry shampoo.
And argon oil.
And getting it cut and foil highlighted every 6 weeks.
Then and only then does my hair look fabulous.
Unless you are willing to do the work, don't bother.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sun 21-Aug-16 13:27:38

I have thick curly hair and have had it cut into a short bob several times.
It really only looks good straightened. If I leave it, it looks ok ish when wet but as it dries it gets bigger and bigger until I look absurd, like I have an enormous head. I think you need to be prepared to put the work in styling it.

If you can afford it, how about a Brazilian blow dry? That would permanently straighten it for around six months.

INeedNewShoes Sun 21-Aug-16 13:34:00

Salad who/where is your hairdresser if you don't mind me asking? I go to a fab stylist in Surrey but it's a bit of a trek!

BobbinThreadbare123 Sun 21-Aug-16 18:37:28

I have thick, curly hair and only ever have a bob. I do absolutely nothing to it, bar a wash each morning. Maintenance and effort free! It is liberating. I used to have immensely long hair, always tied back. Boring and not good for your hair to have bobbles cutting into it. I say go for it. Embrace the curly!

feesh Sat 27-Aug-16 18:59:38

I did it! The day after I posted this thread, I went for it. I'm loving it! For the first time in my life, I wear my hair down every single day. It's so easy.

I should say, I did go back the next day and had a Brazilian Blowout done (for half price), which has made all the difference - my hair is basically straight now. I've been blasting it with the hairdryer and then running it through my curling tongs if I can be bothered, to give it a bit of a wave.

It's been life changing! I actually LIKE my hair!

Gobbolinothewitchscat Sat 27-Aug-16 19:07:50

Pic please grin

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sat 27-Aug-16 19:17:24

So pleased for you. You sound elated and it's making me really want a Brazilian Blowdry. smile

Oh2beatsea Sat 27-Aug-16 21:34:50

Fresh do you mind me asking you what the Brazilian Blow dry was like please? What do they do / how long did it take / how much did it cost? My hair is fine and frizzy and I'm debating having it done if I can find a hairdresser to do it!! How long will it last? And do you just wash n dry it normally? Sorry - intreigued to know!!
Glad you are pleased with the cut - makes all the difference to how you feel too I bet.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Sat 27-Aug-16 21:56:14

Pic!!

feesh Sun 28-Aug-16 17:36:58

No pics, sorry, I am not a looker by any means and you will all just be completely underwhelmed by it!

Oh2 it wasn't the nicest experience, I have to say! The formaldehyde was a lot stronger than I was expecting (and I am the sort of person who is really paranoid about environmental chemical exposure!). I had to wear a surgical mask, which I don't actually think would have done anything as they are designed to block out germs, not chemicals....anyway....and then I was given goggles as my eyes were absolutely streaming.

So I am trying to not think about the chemical exposure when I stroke my lovely new hair!

All in all it took about an hour. They shampoo you, apply the carcinogens chemicals, blow dry it and run the straighteners over it.

I bought the official Brazilian Blowout shampoo and conditioner, which is a MASSIVE rip off. But in the past I had a Brazilian blow dry and it didn't actually last that long, so this time I decided to give it the best possible chance. It's sulphate-free, but they try and convince you that the official shampoo is much better than other sulphate-free ones on the market because it has the correct amino acids....I am dubious but also massively gullible

I'm expecting it to last about 12 weeks in all. I would like to get it done again after that, but will see how it goes.....I'm not thrilled about the chemical exposure from doing it. Not to mention the ethics of inflicting it on my lovely hairdresser.

feesh Sun 28-Aug-16 17:40:05

The cost was kind of irrelevant as I live in the Middle East, but if I convert to UK money it was about 80 quid (but got it half price due to a special offer, so it would normally have been about 160 squids, and longer hair would have cost more as well). But they make their money back on the shampoo and conditioner which were about 40 quid each!!!! I stupidly didn't check the price before I agreed to buy them......

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