Ive had my first ever bra fitting and I can't breath in my new bra!

(35 Posts)
WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 12:16:47

Ok, slight exaggeration but I don't like it!!!

Gone from a 40c to a 38dd and I just feel so constricted. The underwire at the front feels like it's digging in when I sit down. The back band feels tight and pinches slightly at the sides.

I went to an independent fitter that my friends rave about and im sure she's very good and thag it's the right size. No tape measure, just uses her eyes/fingers. She was saying all the stuff ive read about on bra fitting threads here. She scooped a load of boob from under my arm pit and stuck it in my bra cup. Showed me how on my old bra the band was too loose, she could pull it away and when I lifted my arms up it moved up, etc.

This does look like it fits better but I just don't like a good fitting bra. She said wear it for a short while at home with the tags on and if I hate it to take it back. Do I persevere? It cost me over £40. It's a fantasie Rebecca if that means anything. Will it stretch a bit? It also has little lacy edging under the band at the front which is prickling my skin and I don't like!!!

Undertheboredwalk Wed 13-Apr-16 12:20:14

I always feel a bit uncomfortable in a new properly fitted bra for first few days. I think they need breaking in smile if you're sure it's fitted right though I'd persevere, a good fitting one is well worth having!

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 12:41:06

Thanks, will persevere. I don't really want to go back to baggy bras as they can't be doing my boobs any good so I need to get used to this!

KatharinaRosalie Wed 13-Apr-16 12:46:23

another thing is that the bra might simply not be the right brand or style for you. For example, I happily wear Freya/Fantasie/Fauve, but whenever I buy a Panache, it will pinch and poke, even if it's the right size - just different shape of wires. A lot of people find that the opposite is true for them.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 13:54:01

I think it's going to have to go back. Took it off about 30 mi s and I had red indentations everywhere, where the underwires were, where the back band was, round the sides......that's not right is it?

HeyNonnyMaybe Wed 13-Apr-16 13:58:13

My experience is that bras that hold everything up properly and fit correctly do leave marks where the back band and the shoulder straps are, but not where the wires are.

Petal02 Wed 13-Apr-16 13:59:11

I'm usually quite happy in a 34D, however when I was 'properly measured' the size came out as a 30E (wtf??) - and not only is it almost impossible to find a 30E, but I came close to doing permanent damage to my internal organs whilst trying to fasten it ........ I certainly couldn't sit at a desk all day in it. I had great trouble trying to explain to DH that I couldn't walk in my new bra!!!

hollinhurst84 Wed 13-Apr-16 14:00:20

Marks are fine, it's like sock marks. It needs to be tight enough to do its job. So red marks ok - bleeding not ok

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 14:09:12

I don't think I care about my boobs enough to put up with red marks. grin

MrsT2007 Wed 13-Apr-16 14:53:03

Yes I'd persevere.

I thought I was 34dd years back.

Oh no. 30G. Now a 32G.

You feel like a trussed up turkey until you get used to it and you 'break it in'

Think of it as like a new pair of shoes. They need a bit of wear before they're comfy.

But yes, I like certain 'makes' as they fit better eg the Freya seem to suit my shape.

DerelictMyBalls Wed 13-Apr-16 15:02:53

Could you get a bra extender (haberdashery dept) until it stretches out a bit?

fieldfare Wed 13-Apr-16 15:08:39

Take it back and find something else that fits your boobs.
Red marks are normal as it needs to be snug to do its job, not painfully so though.
Different brands and be shapes suit different shaped breasts. There was an article I read this morning about there being 7 "types" of breasts, their position etc all slightly different.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 18:01:58

Might need to try a few more styles on as well then. Thanks.

DPotter Wed 13-Apr-16 18:06:25

I had one of these type of fittings a while ago, put me down 2 sizes to a 36. Was told to stick with it as the bra would give over a few days. Didn't wear the bra again after the 2nd day as it had drawn blood! and I don't agree bras should leave a red mark - to me that shows its too small and a red mark means the skin is being damaged

FelicityR313 Wed 13-Apr-16 18:06:35

I had similar and it literally ate into my skin. Couldn't bear it. My boobs looked fab, but I'm a bit long in the tooth to be putting up with torture for the sake of aesthetics.

Mrsmorton Wed 13-Apr-16 18:08:36

I've just changed sizes and it was fucking sore for a few days, even hurt me to let my rather tiny boobs out at the end of the day. Now it's great, fits nicely and i have a much better profile than previously.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 18:11:43

I'm umming about ordering bra extenders but then am worried the underwire wouldn't fit right.

Queenbean Wed 13-Apr-16 18:16:49

I feel like I have got hideous back fat in an "Mn properly fitted bra"

Doesn't anyone else feel like this?

Sidge Wed 13-Apr-16 18:24:54

Marks from a bra are like marks from your socks - if it doesn't leave marks then the elastic is too loose and it's doing the square root of bugger all. Mind you the marks should be from the band around the ribs and not the straps - the band should take the weight of the boobs and not the straps over the shoulder.

I find I can't wear 'plunge' bras and am better in balconette ones; plunge ones just aren't comfy because my boobs are fuller underneath and so plunge ones just push them together too much.

Maybe try some different styles in a similar size?

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 18:39:18

I get slightly pink sock marks but these bra marks were bright red lines which looked a lot worse than sock marks.

Dreamqueen Wed 13-Apr-16 18:49:27

I went from a 34c to a 32f. It was uncomfortable at first. I tried on loads of different brands & styles until the fitter said i was in the right one for my breast shape. Did you try on other brands? Maybe a different make might suit you better. I'm glad I persevered because My shape is now better. I stick to Panache or Cleo because they suit my shape. Curvy Kate or Freya did nothing for me. Good luck!

mudandmayhem01 Wed 13-Apr-16 18:56:47

I don't like the sound of this at all! Its put me right off bra intervention. For me comfort is far more important than appearance. I tend to wear crop tops and sports bras most of the time though ( 32 A on an old style measurement.)

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 18:59:11

Id guess an A cup can maybe get away without bra intervention more than a DD can. grin. Especially at my age....im worried by boobs will be by my waist without proper support before long.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Wed 13-Apr-16 19:00:49

I only tried one size of bra on in two different sizes.

First tried a 40d and IT felt better than what I ended up with. Fitter said it was ok but the band was a bit loose so then tried a 38dd which she said was better. I want to swap it back for the 40d.

TheToys Wed 13-Apr-16 19:05:45

Well, bra intervention never worked for me. My boobs look fine in a 36C and am v. comfortable. I will not torture my modern self and my boney torso with vintage corset like contraptions!

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