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Funeral outfit for an autumn.

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Karcheer Mon 28-Mar-16 19:09:04


Can someone help me find a funeral outfit. I'm an autumn and rid my wardrobe of everything black, I don't really want to buy anything black.

Something I can get online would also be useful...

Thank you.

hugoagogo Mon 28-Mar-16 19:12:53

Have you tried kettlewell?

MrsLettuce Mon 28-Mar-16 19:16:53

So, what colour are you after? Brown? Maybe navy? A dress with sleeves might be best, in terms of value for money, or do you have a jacket or something that might work? What sort of budget?

Karcheer Mon 28-Mar-16 19:39:06

I think probably dark brown, is going to be the most sober colour isn't it?
A dress with sleeves would be good. As it's still pretty cold and the only coat I have is a puffa so not really funerally either :/

If it's something I could wear again up anything up to £250. If it's something I wouldn't a guess about £50. I don't work so the only opportunity to wear it again would be out for dinner or something :/

MrsLettuce Mon 28-Mar-16 19:56:24

TBH you'll probably not enjoy wearing something bought for a funeral to dinner (or whatever), IME the funereal feeling seems to stick somehow in those cases. Navy or grey would work, if you can wear them. Black would give you a lot more choice.

This would work well if you're short. The model is 5'10"

happygoluckylady Mon 28-Mar-16 20:02:33

I would probably just wear black or charcoal. I guess it is one of those occasions where if what you're wearing doesn't suit you 100%, it won't matter all that much.

happygoluckylady Mon 28-Mar-16 20:07:00

I'm sorry, made tjd mistake I usually make and didn't read your post properly. As you don't want black, I would go for brown or black. Sorry for your loss.

Favouritethings Mon 28-Mar-16 21:02:56

Hello! I'm a fellow Autumn. Buy yourself a black dress for up to £50 then wear a lipstick in your colour. Possibly a scarf in your colour too. But, I really do think black clothing is the most appropriate colour for funerals (whether it suits you, or not). Sorry for your loss x

misslemonsfilingcabinet Mon 28-Mar-16 21:13:39
In black or navy? I know you feel bound to wear "your" colours but I think you'll have more choice in black. Sorry for your loss

misslemonsfilingcabinet Mon 28-Mar-16 21:15:44

Maybe size up and wear a jacket if you are set on autumn colours?
Not much choice out there, is there!

Jakadaal Mon 28-Mar-16 21:25:12

What about navy? There are a couple of variations of this

Wordsaremything Mon 28-Mar-16 22:24:59

Are you the main mourner?

Karcheer Mon 28-Mar-16 22:27:07

One of the very close family members.

Floisme Mon 28-Mar-16 22:38:17

I've never been to a funeral where black was expected and I've been to quite a lot - some of them very traditional. I normally just wear something sober and unobtrusive e.g. dark grey or navy trousers and a top in a similar colour. The main thing is not to stand out (unless the family have requested otherwise). I'm sorry for your loss.

LagoDiComo Mon 28-Mar-16 23:24:39

I'm an Autumn and keep a few black things specifically for funerals including shoes don't normally wear black shoes either). As I don't wear black the rest of the time, it feels like a real mark of respect and keeps those things just for such a sad occasion.

Pcat Tue 29-Mar-16 00:04:13

Why not ask around friends and borrow a smart black coat? I have a 'good coat' that has been loaned out for numerous funerals. Then underneath wear what suits you for the wake.....

Believeitornot Tue 29-Mar-16 07:28:10

Surely out of respect you'd just wear black instead of worrying about "style and beauty"?

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 29-Mar-16 07:38:44

If it is likely to be quite a traditional funeral as in an older person and everyone is likely to be dressed in black then I too would wear black.

Something like this perhaps.

I would have a good look on john lewis and order a few to try.

Sorry for your loss. Sadly I think a decent dress/outfit for funerals is sort of essential in your wardrobe the older you get.

Floisme Tue 29-Mar-16 07:39:13

When you're bereaved, worrying about what to wear can be a welcome distraction. I've certainly done it.

Bunbaker Tue 29-Mar-16 07:41:37

I have never understood the concept of buying an outfit specifically for a funeral and would just wear a sober colour instead of black. I wore a dark green dress at the last funeral I attended, and a black coat over it.

Can you borrow a black coat, or even buy one from a charity shop that you can donate back when you have finished with it?

Believeitornot Tue 29-Mar-16 07:47:25

Good point Floisme, I guess I've not. when a very close family member died recently, I already had black to was easy enough to find something appropriate

In this case I'd just get a black jacket - plenty of cheap ones around and a simple black dress.

Roseberrry Tue 29-Mar-16 07:51:37

I would have been a bit hmm at this a few years ago but I remember feeling very concerned about what I would wear when my mum died. I wanted to look nice for her.

Op I would go for a black dress in a style you suit and do as a pp said and get a scarf in your colour.

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 29-Mar-16 07:52:24

I try to have various 'outfits' for different occasions in my wardrobe. However the last funeral I went to it was 'no black'.

I think if you work in a formal environment then you probably have clothes that work for a funeral. However I know when I was a SAHM I didn't tend to have much that would have worked for a funeral.

But agree that for some people it is a welcome distraction from the grieving process to go shopping for something to wear to a funeral.

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 29-Mar-16 07:58:54

burgundy although not sure if this is an autumn colour

MrsCampbellBlack Tue 29-Mar-16 08:01:20

Not many dresses around with long sleeves.

I think I would be tempted to go with some slim black trousers like these and then perhaps a black silk shirt.

Or a shirt in an autumn colour and put a thermal on underneath and carry a large scarf in your colours.

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