Stylistas I give you a challenge(50 Posts)
What do you feel like you in? The first thing I'd say is to ditch the leggings and buy some nice jeans - the Autograph black skinnies are excellent.
I'm sure they wouldn't. Must admit though that a personal shopper is my idea of hell.
Have you looked for ideas on Pintrest?
How about starting with:
a decent pair of jeans
some ankle boots in maybe grey or tan as possibly more Spring-ish than black
a jersey blazer
a couple of jersey dresses
Bootcut jeans (and a whole 1970's boho vibe) are supposedly the height of fashion (do with that what you will), personally I only find them flattering with a heel underneath. Try a tan boot for a bit of contrast to break up the plethora of denim below and honestly your proposed uniform of bootcut jeans, a loose top cardi/blazer combo sound perfectly fine if that makes you feel at your most comfortable and will work no matter what season it is. Don't concern yourself with what's fashionable, confidence is far more appealing than some arbitrary notion of what's trendy. Instead focus on good quality materials, fit, and shape. Be prepared to pay a bit extra for that. Don't try covering things up, it only draws more attention to it, instead focus on your best bits and everyone else will too. If you really hate shopping buy a large variation of things that appeal to you online, have a giant fitting session in the comfort of your own home to see what works for you (ask input from loved ones if you like), take breaks in between and mull it all over in flattering light and return what you don't like maybe once or twice a year.
Spanx? Only if you insist on being uncomfortable or intend to wear bodycon dresses....
A good bra makes all the difference (and magically make it look as if you've lost a good amount of weight), if you're pulling out wires you're not wearing the right size. There's a bunch of threads on here to measure yourself properly (bra intervention?) but heading to a specialised shop would be a good first stop for you regardless, invest in your fundamentals and you'll reap the rewards elsewhere.
I think you have to confront your hate of shopping and trying things on. Whichever route makes it least painful for you, in store or online and at home. If you are itching to get home, I think I'd buy lots you like the look of on line, try it all at home with your favourite things and play for a whole day or weekend, and then return everything you didn't love. I quite like shopping at my preferred shops, so would go out (alone) and do it piecemeal, but I often think this is not the right way to buy outfits.
Definitely new underwear. In fact, start with underwear... It makes everything else fit better.
Definitely norks first. Then spanx but only when you're going for va va voom clothes. Then spend a lot of money. Cheap clothes won't cut it. Go to jaeger, jigsaw, whistles, cos. Try everything on that you like the colour of. Ask for help. Don't be shy. The staff are there to serve you. Buy an expensive well made handbag. Save up and buy in the sales. Simple jewellery in real gold, platinum, diamonds. No fake oversized tat.
After 40/45 it becomes more obvious who is doing well in life and who isn't. It doesn't matter so much when you are young, slim and wearing tiny shorts and a camisole. We all looked hot then. We no longer have youth on our side sadly. There are plenty of older bloggers in ripped jeans and trainers convincing themselves they are still young and cool. Don't be fooled. Embrace your age and wisdom!
See, I totally disagree. I will never, ever be a diamonds and expensive bag sort of person - and wouldn't want to be.
I am slightly older than you OP but similar size (although I don't have the norks), right down to the wide feet. I agree with others who have suggested jeans - I am forever searching for my perfect pair but I do agree re Autograph. I have a couple of jersey blazers from Uniqlo in grey and navy like this www.uniqlo.com/uk/store/goods/163338 and I wear them with a shirt or plain t-shirt, jeans and ankle boots, sometimes add a scarf.
I am most definitely not a stylista though so am watching thread with interest
Hair, eyebrows, norks.... all else will follow, and you may well find that you... like Remus and I... are not a diamonds and expensive bag person. Get yourself into a silhouette you can live with, and dress it. Not as if you are always going to a wedding; dressed down, nicely, is an art form all its own, and not easy.
How about just a slightly smarter version of your usual stuff? Good black skinnies, a slightly more fitted grey or black top? Black midi dress and biker jacket?
I'd agree in not going down the diamonds and handbag road, it doesn't sound like you OP. It's great for some but style is personal and that's the fun thing about it. The only universal rule I'd follow is throw out anything with holes or stains (unless they're intentional) and ignore all 'age appropriate' wisdoms.
Anyhow, get the norks in order first (don't be scared to spend all your money there initially, it's worth it). If your natural inclination is steampunk/goth then consider investing in some leather pieces with quality metal hardware, black is predictable and can be a little harsh on some. Tan, brown, and khaki/dark green look far more impressive and work well with most colours but will be harder to find, though lack of choice can be a bit of a blessing sometimes. If you avoid black, you can easily disregard 75% of 'noise' in the average shop.
Uniqlo and Cos are great for basics, you'll need to wrap your head round Cos when you're there, often the things that look awful on a hanger look great on and vice versa. Their staff are well trained and happy to help you figure it out with honest advice.
All Saints will give you some edge and a bit of comfort but it's pricey for what it is (it's all made in China and not the best materials but the designs are differentiating).
2nd Day is great too (especially for their leather pieces) but might be hard to source in a physical store (sorry, not UK based). Their sister brand Day Birger et Mikkelsen is a little bit more 'grown up' if that feels more comfortable. They both have permanent sales on their website ranging between 50-70% off and I always find great unique pieces there.
If it takes your fancy, Acne studios, great for jeans, footwear, tops, and enviable leather jackets. (Pricey).
Rick Owens does that gothic vibe in a grown up chic version very well with impeccable fit. It's way up there in price but worth it in my opinion (and basically what All Saints is ripping off). The Rick Owens Lilies line is the most 'affordable' but it's one I definitely scour for in the sales and rarely buy at full price. Even if you find RO out of budget it might be helpful as inspiration if you like the aesthetic, it's pretty much leggings and comfy tops that are draped at their most advantageous mixed with draped leather jackets (basically it feels like you're wearing pyjamas and people think you look effortlessly stylish) and for a high end designer it unusually goes up to far larger sizes than most and worn more by the 30+ set than the spring chickens.
My grandmother had her shoes stretched all the time by a cobbler, it was very cheap. Buy some of those shoe trees (wooden ones) to maintain the stretch, and it's good practice to care for your shoes like that regardless. There are some that have a mechanism to widen them too but I have no idea if they work.
If you can carry it off (I can't, not that tall with rather large feet proportionally) maybe Dr. Martens boots?
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