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funeral attire

(21 Posts)
hollinhurst84 Mon 08-Feb-16 12:34:35

Is this dress ok? With a dark grey coat over the top of it. It's the long length of the dress (Boden!) so comes over my knees and is darker than pic so more charcoal grey
Dress code is mourning attire (black tie)

BackforGood Mon 08-Feb-16 12:48:42

Yes, of course.

MrsNoraCharles Mon 08-Feb-16 14:24:11

Yes, definitely appropriate.


burnishedsilver Mon 08-Feb-16 15:09:41

Yes, its perfect.

polyhymnia Mon 08-Feb-16 15:13:55

Yes . I actually have that dress and it's certainly OK.

ConesOfDunshire Mon 08-Feb-16 18:33:10

Black tie as in lounge suits and black ties for men, or as in formal black tie?

hollinhurst84 Mon 08-Feb-16 19:17:39

I don't know :/

hollinhurst84 Mon 08-Feb-16 19:19:52

Exact wording is Mourning attire is appropriate (…black tie)

MrsNoraCharles Mon 08-Feb-16 19:24:45

Your dress is perfect Hollin, honestly.

Floisme Mon 08-Feb-16 19:26:10

I've been to a fair number of funerals including some very traditional Catholic services and that dress would have been fine every time.

Having said that, I've never come across 'black tie' in a funeral context. Is it possible to check with someone close to the family?

I'm sorry for your loss.

ConesOfDunshire Mon 08-Feb-16 19:31:22

That's a really confusing dress code. I assume that they mean black TIES for men; I have never, ever heard of a black tie funeral but maybe you could check if it's appropriate? The dress is ideal, but you'd be slightly underdressed in the (highly unlikely) event that it's a black tie funeral.

hollinhurst84 Mon 08-Feb-16 19:47:19

I can't sadly. The circumstances are... Tricky to say the least. Not a natural death
It's titled celebration of life
To me it reads both ways as in "wear a black tie" and also "black tie" confused

ConesOfDunshire Mon 08-Feb-16 20:17:01

Oh no, I'm so sorry.

OK. I think in that lovely dress, plus smart coat, smart heels, with tasteful jewellery and grooming, you'll be set for both eventualities.

I hope it goes well.

hollinhurst84 Mon 08-Feb-16 20:27:03

I have nude heels or black t bars. Or suede dark mink t bars?
Dark grey coat too

Floisme Mon 08-Feb-16 20:27:33

What a sad situation, I'm really sorry.

In that case, I would assume that 'black tie' is an instruction to the men. As 'mourning attire', that dress would be perfectly appropriate for every funeral I've ever been to.

Floisme Mon 08-Feb-16 20:35:43

Sorry I missed the shoe question. Given the ambiguity, I'd go for black.

Yes to the the grey coat. I would make sure you're wrapped up warmly and, if it's a burial, take an umbrella.

MrsNoraCharles Mon 08-Feb-16 20:35:59

I'd probably go with the black shoes. Coat sounds perfect.

hollinhurst84 Mon 08-Feb-16 20:39:39

It's cremation so should be ok. Grey coat is quite warm and dress is too
I can wear black t bar heels and black clutch which should work
Shitty situation

MrsNoraCharles Mon 08-Feb-16 20:40:41

I'm so sorry you're all having to go through it.


hollinhurst84 Mon 08-Feb-16 20:41:53

I'm only a recent friend really so just want to blend in! I think that will be nice and unobtrusive

RonaldMcDonald Mon 08-Feb-16 20:42:13

The black tie mourning attire note is simply advising people that they would like them to make the effort to go dressed appropriately for a funeral
<not ever black tie ie evening jacket>

Nowadays people oftenwear their work clothing or no tie etc
old school would dictate changing and wearing suitably sombre clothing and men wearing a long black tie and suit to show appropriate mark of mourning

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