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People staring, how can I look less mumsy?

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helloelo Fri 22-Jan-16 14:38:08

I felt very self conscious the other day on public transport. I don't like using the stroller with so many people around and stairs everywhere so I had my son in a baby carrier on my back and I was wearing a special black babywearing coat with a panel that gives room for him. I had dark jeans on, Chelsea boots, Breton top. Ponytail, very light makeup. I could definitely tell people were staring. Do you think it makes me look like a hippy earthmother (I might be one anyway...)? I don't know how to look less mumsy sad What do you think?

LimitedSedition Fri 22-Jan-16 14:39:12

They were probably wondering where you got your coat from!

helloelo Fri 22-Jan-16 14:47:23

Oh it's this one, I look a bit less dorky than the picture (but not much)

HoneyDragon Fri 22-Jan-16 14:50:19

It's because your babies cute and you're gorgeous envy

CamdenTownie Fri 22-Jan-16 14:51:32

Sounds pretty similar to the way I dress, I'm not really bothered about other people though , if you're comfortable then don't worry about it.

I love that coat though, what a fantastic idea.

antimatter Fri 22-Jan-16 14:52:03

'cos the never saw babywearing coat?

helloelo Fri 22-Jan-16 14:52:08

It's not me on the picture grin they are the brands' promo
(I wish I looked that gorgeous!)

VimFuego101 Fri 22-Jan-16 14:53:47

They were probably staring at your adorable baby! You look great.

Diddlydokey Fri 22-Jan-16 14:54:03

They're totally looking at your coat thinking, so how does that work then? And, how does she get him on her back? Is he heavy?

I don't think you're stared at for being mumsy, you're generally ignored for looking mumsy! That's about the crux of it isn't it - blending into the background and no identity or style to talk about, that's why it's negative.

helloelo Fri 22-Jan-16 14:54:42

Is that type of coat that unusual? I'm genuinely surprised, how are you supposed to deal with baby in baby carrier when it's cold :/
Maybe I'm a novelty then smile

Solasum Fri 22-Jan-16 14:55:15

What a great idea, wish I had had one. Pretty sure it is significantly people thinking the same

Havalina1 Fri 22-Jan-16 14:55:19

What a clever coat!

You don't sound dorky but it's hard to avoid looking mumsy with a baby on board smile

I know what you mean through. I've avoided those Yummy Mummy brand change bags but with a double buggy it's just impossible!

Solasum Fri 22-Jan-16 14:56:14

I always just wore a normal coat and left it open

burnishedsilver Fri 22-Jan-16 14:56:32

They were admiring the coat, admiring the baby, or both. Seriously.

The coat is a brilliant idea.

70isaLimitNotaTarget Fri 22-Jan-16 14:57:17

I have never seen a coat like that but if I was to stare, it'd be
"How the dickens does the baby stay in there"
"How do I sit down without crushing him"
"Would I be able to get more than 2 days wear before I had to chip off the delightful mosiac of dried baby spit,rusk,snot"

Nothing wrong with being a hippy earthmother IMO wink

Xmasbaby11 Fri 22-Jan-16 14:57:26

I've never seen a baby wearing coat. This would make people look just out of interest.

VimFuego101 Fri 22-Jan-16 14:58:16

Ahhhh it's not you in the pic - well I still think they were probably looking at your baby rather than you. I don't think that coat looks that outlandish or at all hippy-ish!

helloelo Fri 22-Jan-16 14:59:39

My son is 1yo and 1,5st + I'm pg so I can't wear him on my front, it'll kill me!
You're right, people are probably trying to understand how, why, wtf...

magpie17 Fri 22-Jan-16 15:04:23

I carry my baby in a carrier a lot and find a lot of people stare for some reason, I assume it's because (where I live) you don't see a lot of babies in carriers and people find it interesting. I certainly don't think it's because of how I look. My carrier is front facing and has a rain cover, it's not very exciting to me but I always get comments about the raincover as not many slings have one.

I don't think it's you, it's the carrier and the coat!

helloelo Fri 22-Jan-16 15:04:30

Baby carriers are clever, babies can't escape them smile and putting them on your back is actually quite easy after a few tries. If you sit down you just have to remember not to recline, not hard when your baby is playing with your ponytail smile Baby snort is an issue, my coat is waterproof so I can scrap it off but I find the weirdest things squashed on it

helloelo Fri 22-Jan-16 15:05:57

Thanks a lot for reassuring me!

CharmingChampignon Fri 22-Jan-16 15:12:31

Where is the coat from - looks fab!

I got stated at when baby wearing as for many people it's a 'different' concept and one that they're not used to. I sometimes had dd1 on my back and dd2 on my front and my goodness - you'd think I was carrying them by their ankles. People are curious, interested, judgemental sometimes, but I doubt any of them noticed your clothes.

FoodPorn Fri 22-Jan-16 15:54:24

Yes, where is coat from I want one!

madmomma Fri 22-Jan-16 16:29:12

Noone stares at Mumsy people. They're just looking at the baby

BackforGood Fri 22-Jan-16 16:38:05

Agree with everyone else - they would have been looking at either your baby, or the coat. I've never seen anything like that. I suspect they were poing all the questions 70isalimit has typed

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