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Please help me find a hairstyle for my thin hair!

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allegretto Sat 16-Jan-16 15:37:11

Hello. I have very fine, thinning hair (with small bald patches at the front). I also have a long face that looks like an egg without a fringe (being brutally honest here). I have until recently had a fringe but I literally do not have enough hair to have a fringe now - despite well-meaning hairy friends telling me it would really suit me. hmm The whole situation is really getting me down. It doesn't matter how I dress, all you can see is a lack of hair and frankly, I am not a looker. With hair I can look sort of normal, without I look scary. The only way out I can think of is a wig but there is such a taboo about them and I am a teacher - I dread to think of the comments. Help!!!

Ridingthegravytrain Sat 16-Jan-16 15:40:32

This could be a crazy idea but I have seen people wearing fake fringes before (I had no idea btw they were pretty convincing)

Are you able to post a pic (maybe pixel out your face?) so we can give better advice?

user7755 Sat 16-Jan-16 15:43:51

Could you go for a 1960s style headband?

allegretto Sat 16-Jan-16 15:45:44

I have tried the hairband but you really need more hair to pull it off - it just looks like I have put it on to wash my face!

allegretto Sat 16-Jan-16 15:48:58

Sorry I can't post a picture but just imagine a huge forehead with the beginnings of Gordon Ramsay-style wrinkles....

user7755 Sat 16-Jan-16 15:56:12

How long is your hair? Could you use one of those clip in things which gives it a bit of body?
<disclaimer: I am the least style and beauty person ever>

allegretto Sat 16-Jan-16 15:57:03

I have tried a clip but I don't have enough hair to cover it up so it looks really obvious. At the moment it is about chin length.

Ridingthegravytrain Sat 16-Jan-16 16:03:53

Has your hair always been like this? Or maybe get your hormone levels or something checked to see if there is something you can do/take

SoWhite Sat 16-Jan-16 16:07:49

Fringe clip in?

I have one, and it is really real looking. A friend who had only ever seen me with it was in awe when I took it off in front of her.

You'll have to spend a lot for the quality, but I love mine.

allegretto Sat 16-Jan-16 16:26:37

It has always been fine but I used to have a lot more of it. I have had blood tests but told that it is inevitable and probably genetic as my dad is bald - but he is a man!! I am taking supplements (and will continue doing so) but they don't seem to help.

SoWhite - can you suggest a good quality clip?

Oldisthenewblack Sat 16-Jan-16 16:35:56

I've recommended this product on other threads, but I use Toppik hair fibres. They bond to your own hair and cover thinning patches. It sounds like your hair is thinner than mine, but it might be worth looking into. As long as you have SOME hair for the fibres to bond to, it should work. Look it up on youtube, or the Toppik site - they really are worth it for the increase in self confidence.

Oldisthenewblack Sat 16-Jan-16 16:37:36

And since my ferritin (iron) levels have been increasing, my hair shedding has lessened. So if you haven't had your iron levels checked, maybe look into that?

allegretto Sat 16-Jan-16 16:45:51

Oldisthenewblack - thanks. I have tried something similar but the colour match wasn't great and it looked really obvious but I will look into that brand and also get iron levels rechecked.

SoWhite Sat 16-Jan-16 17:13:41

My hair is of afro texture, which I relax, so probably not allegretto. You'd need something entirely different for Euro hair.

Tate15 Sat 16-Jan-16 17:46:41

The most common cause of hair loss in women is post-menopausal female pattern baldness, according to Dr Farjo. Falling levels of the female sex hormone oestrogen mean the male sex hormone dihydrotestosterone becomes more dominant - this hormone causes men's hair to fall out and has the same effect in women.
Baldness is afflicting women of all ages, with Transform reporting that the average age of female hair-loss patients has fallen from 51 in 2010 to 34 in 2013.
Any woman suffering baldness should consult a doctor to rule out conditions such as diabetes, underactive thyroid and polycystic ovaries. The Pill can also cause hair loss.
However the most common trigger for thinning hair in younger women is iron deficiency, which affects 20 per cent of British women aged 19 to 34.
Iron in the body binds to ferritin - a protein involved in the production of hair cells which also guards against hair shedding.


That is from an article about a woman residing to a hair transplant.

Tate15 Sat 16-Jan-16 17:48:23

Expensive upkeep

LettuceLaughton Sat 16-Jan-16 18:02:43

Absolutly agree about having iron, thyroid, vit D, everything (re)checked.

But, how about one of those short hair styles that are long on top and brushed forward from the crown? This isn't the best example but I need to get the DC to bed.

Tate15 Sat 16-Jan-16 18:03:35

As you are are a teacher you are in danger of receiving upsetting comments either intentionally or unintentionally.

If it happens to me I will go for a short layered crop and wear headscarfs.

Wigs can be uncomfortable and hot, something to bear in mind in a hot classroom and as you've said, noticeable.

I've googled head coverings for chemo patients and this is the look I'd go for, a cotton headscarf.

You could go funky and have it shaved and then different zany colours but that may get you the lesbian comments from gobby students.

SmaDizietSma Sat 16-Jan-16 18:08:29

My hair is fine and I have a long bob. I discovered dry shampoo and volume powder about a year ago and they make a massive difference. I use them as soon as I've dried and straightened my hair. It's a revelation, I had to wash my hair daily before.

Tate15 Sat 16-Jan-16 18:13:11

When you say you're not a looker., perhaps you could re. evaluate your face and go to a make up counter and see if they can give you some tips in making the best of yourself. No the Benefit counter or any assistant that looks orange and overly made up. The look you want is to enhance your features not cover them in slap!

Groomed eyebrows are important in framing your face. Are your teeth OK? You don't need expensive whitening treatments, just use a good toothpaste such as oral b.

When you look in the mirror you are zoning in on yourself and unless you are a supermodel then just like the rest of us you will think you are unattractive.

Other people notice kind eyes and a smiling mouth. I have known many not terribly good looking women who look fantastic because they are well groomed and are confident.

You are feeling down about your hair and that air of gloom is noticed and is more unnatractive than having less than desirable hair.

You are a teacher, you are talking and the focus is on your lips and probably your hands. Try out some nice lipsticks and have manicured nails. Our eyes are naturally drawn to attractive things so play up the good.

allegretto Sat 16-Jan-16 20:14:39

Tate - I have a crooked nose and one eye bigger than the other! My teeth, nails and eyebrows are good though and I do look after my appearance. I think I generally looked alright (not stunning but normal) but lately my hair being so wispy means I am really exposed. You can now see all my lovely wrinkles, a huge expanse of forehead and a scar on my head that was once covered by hair. I have gone from being not great but normal to a bit freaky - and I am not the only one to notice this. Comments have been made!

Oldisthenewblack Sat 16-Jan-16 20:18:27

OP - you may have better luck with the shades available in Toppik. I do hope so. I wouldn't be without it now. Maybe I'm lucky as my hair is just a standard brown, but in Toppik they do light, mid and dark, and sometimes you could even try a mix of shades.

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Sat 16-Jan-16 20:20:04

I'd have a look at some short hairstyles if it were me, with some high and lowlights to give the illusion of texture and more hair than there is.

Tate15 Sat 16-Jan-16 20:25:59

Allegretto, all I can visualise now is Marty Feldman in the role of Igor!


Anyone who has made a comment is being unkind. Children say horrible things but if it is an adult then they are putting you down in an unpleasant manner.

I do think you are being harsh on yourself. However, I do understand that you want to feel better about your appearance.

I do not think there is an easy answer, you could waste lots of money here and there by trying all manner of potions, tablets, hairpieces, different haurcuts, hats etc when really you are only temporarily disguising the problem not solving it.

Once any medical condition has been completely ruled out and you are found to just have inherited your hair loss and hair thinning I think your only option is a hair transplant.

Expensive but should solve the problem. Do your research thoroughly.

BorisJohnsonsHair Sat 16-Jan-16 20:26:53

OP, I can't believe people have made comments, how insensitive. Sending flowers as I too have thinning hair, and it makes you feel so unattractive. I've tried the Toppik powder, which helps more if you hair is darker I think (mine is dyed naturally dark brown), so the Toppik makes your scalp darker and helps to blend in more with your hair. Also, I would suggest a shorter, layered cut, to help give height and use mousse, volume powder etc. The L'Oreal thickening shampoo and conditioner will help a little as it seems to coat your hair, making it slightly coarser.

A hairdresser could probably suggest lowlights/highlights which would also help to make it look thicker.

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