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Help! What do middle aged women wear to an evening do?
Just properly looked at the invite to my dh's Xmas works do this Thursday. Turns out that instead of a quick bite to eat down the pub its a 3 course meal plus dancing in a posh venue, dress code "party wear".
So.... I literally have nothing to wear. I'm a SAHM / student who has one pair of jeans I wear every day with alternating tops. I don't have any dresses, party shoes or boots. I am middle aged and a bit podgy. 5'7". Had a style day a couple of years ago and was advised not to wear anything with defined a waist as "why draw attention to something you don't have". Lady had a point. Small boobs. I look like a boy at the best of times - straight up and down. Black looks dreadful on me.
Any ideas would be fantastic. I really don't know where to start.
This is where Marks and Spencer comes into its own - it's everywhere and full of reasonably priced stuff that you can wear out. Don't listen to people who say it's all horrible, that's quite untrue.
Personally I would choose something like slim black trousers and a top such as this with sequin bomber jacket but there are lots of very wearable choices on their partywear page - and many are reduced.
What are your arms like? If they're still good, I'd go for trousers and a sleeveless sequin top. There are lots of them around: quite high necked which would probably suit you if you've small boobs and the sequins mean they're quite forgiving of lumps and bumps.
Or if your legs are in better shape than your arms (as mine are) I'd try a sequin skirt - A line mini if you can carry it off or otherwise a knee length pencil shape.
I wouldn't spend a lot. It's a party; the lights will be low; most people will be pissed; no-one will remember.
I'll be wearing a knee-length sequin skirt (cheap from H&M), but they had loads of cheap party wear that was great, and a black top for Xmas parties this year. I'm very boyish in shape, and try not to wear black too often, but...I'd go for something high-necked (looks good on small boobs) and a bit floaty. What is your style?
I'd probably wear a sparkly mini-ish skirt, black top, black opaques and heeled shoes or ankle boots. Otherwise I'd do slim black trews, a silk shirt and heels, or same trews, a silky cami and a fabric biker plus heels.
I'm with Nettle. Can't wear even smart black trousers on a night out as they remind me of work wear and therefore are boring. I don't suit jeans and the never feel dressed-up enough anyway. The only trousers I do wear on a night out are my disco pants - obviously not work wear. I suppose coated skinnies would give a similar look and feel.
So I'd go for the dress or skirt options outlined.
46 here and this is a dilemma I have every Christmas. My husband's office do is always somewhere fancy, and I don't do fancy!
Last year I decided to give up trying to find the perfect dress (which I'd never wear again) and bought some black coated skinnies and wore them with a red sleeveless top and black jacket which I already owned, along with stiletto ankle boots. This year I've gone for skinnies again and running through Tesco a couple of months ago I spotted a lovely sheer and floaty teal coloured blouse which I can put a cami underneath. Just to bling it up a bit I've ordered a black sequinned clutch from Ebay which was only around £4.
First, thanks for all the advice, conflicting as it was.
I have spent the morning scouring the shops, bearing everything everyone said in mind, going into shops I literally haven't visited for 10 years. I looked at sparkly tops, sparkly skirts, sparkly dresses and I was just about to give up when TKMax came up trumps.
It's surprisingly flattering for a middle aged woman with a boyish figure. And also ridiculously cheap which was an added bonus.