on bras

[lorelei9]

just musing
I am the sort of person who doesn't notice a lot about appearances tbh
so when my friends say "ooh that woman's got the wrong bra on" I really won't have noticed

I am quite well endowed and deliberately don't hoik my assets up because I feel it draws attention to them and makes them look even more prominent, which I hate.

I noticed someone on another thread saying how much better she looks since sorting out a bra and now has her chest "defying gravity". I get that for an evening out but I don't want to walk around looking like on an ordinary day IYSWIM.

Mine aren't hanging around my waist, but I wear a minimiser bra and don't hoik them up high. Is it just me? When I do stop and notice it, I have a couple of friends who are "defying gravity" on a daily basis as well. It does mean they are the first things you notice if you are looking....just curious to know what others think.

I am in the process of losing weight and really hoping the chest reduces with everything else....

[confusedandemployed]

Speaking personally, I'm a 34G (probably FF now) and I feel that my norkage not only looks better, but looks smaller when in a 'proper' bra. I used to wear a minimiser too, but I found that they made me look even dumpier than usual because they were flattened to somewhere around my waist. In a bra that lifts and separates, my waistline looks far better and my boobs are comfy and not squished.

[KatharinaRosalie]

By hoiked up, do you mean a push up bra and lots of cleavage? I rarely walk around like that, but I do like my boobs supported and lifted, and not flattened by minimiser. As said above, I find that if I tried to flatten and hide my boobs, it just make my figure look dumpier.

[lorelei9]

I'm a DD and I find the minimiser, or a good sports bra, has uplift but not in an exaggerated "defying gravity" way. I don't find that the minimiser flattens downwards but this might be a case of how much you have.

one of the reasons I posted was it occurred to me that women might be thinking "ooh lorelei needs a proper bra"!! Beginning to understand why some wear scarves in all weathers. My boss is one of those and she hides her frontage as much as she can - she just told me yesterday it's because she can't face wearing what's considered a "proper" bra. I know what she means.

[GoneAndDone]

I agree with confused, after I had the MN bra intervention and went from a 34DD to 32G (now in a 30F after weight loss), my boobs looked a lot smaller!

I do notice when women wear the wrong bra, mostly because of all the bounce! Even as a 32G I could run in a normal bra (to catch the bus or something, not go out running) without any bounce when my bra fitted well.

[GoneAndDone]

Now taking bets that you're not really a DD...

Try thebetterbracampaign.blogspot.co.uk/p/fitting-advice.html and tell us your measurements for an intervention...

[lorelei9]

Katharina "By hoiked up, do you mean a push up bra and lots of cleavage?"

sorry, we cross posted. Yes, some of my well endowed friends might be wearing push up bras since they are defying gravity. But from some of the bra threads I've seen on here, some people define "properly supportive" as also "held up"?

but it could be that I've got used to hiding mine and am just noticing others more because of it.

[lorelei9]

GoneAndDone - that is how my bra is sized - I didn't know there was another way!

I don't have bounce. I don't want to be running for the bus and have lots of bounce!

[KatharinaRosalie]

I also suspect you might not be a DD. I'm in a 32GG at the moment and don't think that this is that large, certainly not causing any traffic accidents or massive amounts of unwanted attention, even when 'hoiked up'

[lorelei9]

Katharina - why do you think I might not be a DD? I am measured the bra guru way after all

I used to be flat chested and I guess I'm just nostalgic, you don't really have to think about bras or spend money on them when you haven't got much to put in.

[hollinhurst84]

A DD cup isn't large. Unless you're maybe a 38-42DD its average cup size

I don't like the look of minimiser bras but they don't do them in my size so not an option anyway! I guess I prefer mine more cleavage and also quite rounded (not pointy)

[KatharinaRosalie]

only because generally, a DD cup should not make you feel like you have prominent assets that you need to hide. But of course it's all relative.

[lorelei9]

Katharina, yes, it's relative - I have a friend who was a ballet dancer and is constantly on about how she hates the B cup she has after having children. She bangs on about her enormous chest when it's her size I want to go back to!

[StatisticallyChallenged]

What are your under and overbust measurements? I think people are questioning because dd isn't massive when fitted properly and isn't generally in the territory where you would feel you needed to always wear minimises.

I look smaller in a good bra because you can see my waist