Buying quality items.(44 Posts)
If you buy quality over quantity. Don't you get bored of wearing the same things.
My DH has always advocated buying one quality item rather than bags full of cheaper clothes.
I have been trying to do this but haven't really succeeded.
DH bought me a lovely knitted dress last autumn from phase eight. I'm wearing it today thinking "God I've worn this a lot" and wishing I had something new to wear.
I have money to spend this weekend and know I should just buy one or two quality items and that's what DH will be pressing for too. But my hearts not in it and I already want to come home with bags and bags of high street things.
How do you get past the thought of wearing things over and over again?
I buy quality items cheaper on eBay! Best of both worlds. I choose carefully and most items I buy really look like new.
I haven't a clue what to look for on eBay. I'm not sure what suits and need to try things on and sizing is a nightmare. I'm all different sizes in different shops.
Phase Eight is a good start, loads of lovely stuff on ebay and you know it fits.
I do the same as stripytees.
and that's what DH will be pressing for too.
Will he be wearing the clothes?
If not I don't see any need for joint decision making about what goes onto your body. (Regardless of who's paying, unless your bulk purchasing is having a seriously adverse effect on family finances.)
It depends really. <Helpful> Some people hate a bulging wardrobe and find it impossible to dress well when there's too much choice. Obviously that's not you.
A fairly easy compromise is to spend more on tailored items and then throw in an ever changing stash of cheap t shirts and vests.
But if it's just the acquisition of lots of new things - arriving home with bags and bags that drives you - it might be worth thinking about that.
For me, it depends upon what I will use the clothes for. If I'm spending lots of time with the kids I don't want expensive clothes that may get stained with paint, ink, tomato sauce etc. On the other hand, if I am buying clothes for work I'm quite happy to spend more for quality.
Just having a mooch through eBay now. Might have to go and try things on and then I'll know my size for eBay.
wolfie girl thats exactly what I did. i know what size I am for certain brands and I have developed a bit of an ebay problem... Its great though, I got a brand new boden cashmere jumper for £20 instead of £100.
I don't have the budget or lifestyle for an expensive wardrobe and I shop on the high street.
I do have a couple of quality items, which I wear regularly, but not every day and i do feel good when I use them.
I want to get some more expensive items, but things that won't date eg a fab pair of jeans, cashmere and silk tops.
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I think you need two weeks' worth of outfits- so if you work full time, ten sets of work clothes and four of casual- to not feel you're wearing the same things over and over and get bored. There's obviously room for some rotation in there- I'd class a cardigan that works with three different dresses as three outfits, and the same with a pair of jeans and three tops. So I think the "quality over quantity" thing works, but only up to a point. I'd rather have fourteen lovely outfits that made me feel special than forty less nice ones, but four wouldn't be workable. Plus all that advice to buy very little but spend a lot on each ignores the fact that anything that has to be washed twice a week is going to last less long, so it's not quite as cost effective as they like to make out.
I buy quality items on e bay frequently from the brands I like , Baukjen, Whistles etc. I also buy high end items in the sales and never pay full price for anything. I don't follow the latest trends though and keep my clothes for ages as they are classic styles. For example today , I wore an Lk Bennett silk skirt bought with labels brand new on e bay for £40.00 , full price £195.00 , LK Bennett black cardi again from e bay brand new £25.00 full price was £70.00. ( had this at least 3 years).
I could probably not buy anything for years and still have enough clothes except I have gone from a 14 to 12 to a 10 in the past couple of years, so some of my things are too big.
I'd rather have fewer things that last well. I don't mind repeat wearing - would rather have 6 things that are perfect and suit me, than 26 things that's aren't/don't. I get my 'variety fix' in charity shops, and then return them later. I try not to buy cheap throwaway fashion.
It's perhaps easier because I have quite a 'uniform' so don't mind looking samey a lot of the time. Even if I bought loads, they'd all be similar shapes, colours and styles so nobody would really notice anyway!
I have a huge amount of stuff collected over the years. A real mixture of cheapish and more expensive (all high street). I have no uniform, I like choosing from lots of different styles - makes getting dressed more interesting! I prefer spending a bit more on shoes but actually everything lasts for years hence the vast collection.
I think you should do what you want to do and not be influenced by your husband.
I find shopping on eBay a waste of money as even if I know my size, the fit, look or colour is often not right. Why don't you buy a mixture of stuff on your next shop - couple of lovely wool sweaters but with a few £10 tops for every day. It's possible to do both
I don't mind repeating too, I've always been this way, once you start buying fewer items your wardrobe looks more neat and put together, you spend more time considering a purchase, and you become more focused on what works for you, I like it this way.
I hate this disposable clothes culture, in the long run its useless and costly,
I like a mixture. My wardrobe's probably about 75% cheap and cheerful and 25% better quality. But not all my so-called quality buys have turned out to be good investments e.g. my shape changed after the menopause so some stuff just doesn't suit me any more. I also sometimes get bored. But equally I have some cheapy stuff that I've loved and worn for years.
Some of my better quality things are from charity shops. I have bought good stuff that's lasted from some of the high Street shops. I do avoid Primark though. I expect things to last a reasonable length of time but not too long or it can start to feel dated anyway, even if it's not high fashion.
I tend to spend more on a better quality coat or jacket or something I know I will wear loads - the cost per wear thing.
I find a mixture of both works best for me
Therefore I will spend more on quality items which are classic or just versatile such as plain courts, boots, coats and jackets, black trousers, jeans, plain cardigans and cashmere sweaters
I then mix these with cheap tops, shirts, dresses, skirts, scarves and things I may get bored of
By cheap sometimes I mean eBay or charity shop, other times high St or even supermarket
I think you need to shop according to YOUR personality, not your DH's.
Thanks for all your replies. I think I gave the impression my DH bossed me around
He doesn't. He would just rather I bought quality items. I do for him and the DC. But feel a bit guilty if I buy for myself. Silly I know.
I'm having a look at eBay. What brands are best to look for? So far I've got some items in my watch list from:
And I've had a look at the debenhams discount shop too.
I am a 14-16. Hourglass. 5ft 5.
I have started to buy my shoes from Clarks. They are far more comfortable than other shops. I've also had a look at some boots on eBay. Not sure though?
I tend to buy a lot on ebay from brands which I couldn't afford new and where I know their sizing. And if they don't look quite right I take them to a charity shop so at least someone benefits. I like to go round the shops though to get ideas on different ways of putting things together and occasionally pick up some cheap things that work really well - I got a dress from H&M last spring that I wore loads.
I think your approach re focusing on quality is sensible.
So on that point, just back from having a chat with my cobbler, who thinks all modern shoes are cheap tat.. but pertinent to your thread OP he rates Clarks & Gabor for durability.
Gabor have an excellent outlet, got some brown knee boots for 75£ so half off, and having worn my last pair for 5 years think they fit the quality criteria. Clarks are durable for the price paid too I think
Ps. Some items you pay a lot for and they are shoddy. This is the most disappointig of all. I find knitwear can be very hit and miss unless you treat it lovingly (who has the time?!) Tk maxx great for decent quality at reasonable prices.
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