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I have hankered after this dress for ages but it was a bit pricey, I wasn't sure I would have many occasions to wear it and there was a niggling doubt that it would fit me as I'm not a stick insect.
Anyway. It appeared in the sales, I have an event in November for which it would be perfect and I gave in and ordered the largest size.
Needless to say, it doesn't fit. I'd estimate I'd need to lose about 1.5 stones for it to fit me. Normally, I would never ever keep clothes that don't fit as that way self-hatred, madness and an overdraft lie, but:
a) the dress is really really beautiful, unusual, and I doubt I'd find one like it again.
b) I have been losing weight, though have stalled in the last four months for reasons.
c) If I can't lose enough weight by the event time, I will need to buy another dress anyway which is not a huge issue but irksome nonetheless.
So, should I keep the dress and use it as an incentive or send it back?
FWIW, it's a style and shape that would suit and flatter if I was thinner - I've worn similar dresses in the past. I could get it on but not do it up (even breathing in really hard). It came from Plumo who do some lovely stuff even if their sizing is fucked up.
After seeing it on site I would send it back. It's not cheap (no idea how much you paid for it though) and I think with the back like it is and the sleeves (which I really dislike) it isn't going to be the easiest dress to carry off. It could look rather frumpy, in my mind
I've done the same - bought items in the hopes of losing weight. Some I fit into, some not. I know my answer's not helpful. :D
But you seem to really like it. I agree, if you can afford to have the money just lying there (I personally think it's too expensive a risk, but expensive is relative), keep it and let it motivate you.
I would send it back. There'll be hundreds of dresses around in November for the Xmas season.
It's too much money to lose if it doesnt fit. It's only saving grace is that it's long and you could shorten it and get someone to remove the zip, put in two back panels , replace sip and make it bigger if you don't lose the weight but it's a lot of work.