I'm In my mid forties. I have stunning younger sisters, eight and sixteen years younger than me. Whenever I've introduced them to partners or prospective partners it's always been tense for me as my sisters are quite gregarious and dress to show of their beautiful bodies. They are both dark skinned, big boobs,slim waist, taller than me and of course younger.
I am short and over weight, mainly because of mobility issues and medication side effects.
Every time anyone meets them for the first time they tell me how stunning my sisters are. I am not ugly but age has caught up with me, plus disability and two pregnancies,I barely recognise myself. Due to my drugs I cannot lose weight, they're neuropathic drugs and apparently alter the way the body stored fat. I have been tapering off them but the weight isnt budging.
I know I can be pretty but I really have to make a lot of effort now not to look rough.
So I am seeing a new man who is besotted by me.
My family and I spend a lot of time together, out and about, on the beached so it's a natural progression that my new man will be joining us on said trips sometimes or even when everyone just hangs out in my garden (I am the only one with a garden in our family)
So today there were loads of fb pics of my sisters on the beach, neon bikinis, perfect figures etc and my jealousy, anxiety etc came steaming in.
I have been out with guys before who either avert their eyes in an obvious manner or I catch surreptitiously looking at my sisters or totally lapping up the gorgeousness. All the guys say how lovely they are, and they are.
But how to deal with this jealousy? I don't feel too self conscious on the beach normally but next to them and with a new an I know ill just feel like a lump of lard and lose all my sparkle. I dont want to be mardy and moody on the beach it Ihave gone that way before.
Has anyone else dealt with anyone like this and how to deal with it?
I have self esteem issues and have worked on them which is how I became confident in starting a new relationship but now it's all coming back, why does he like me when there's younger, slimmer, fitter, bigger boobs etc etc, disastrous self talk, please help!!!
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alongcamespiders · 20/06/2015 18:22
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