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Help tash looking more obvious

(22 Posts)
Brighteyes27 Sat 03-Jan-15 01:40:29

I have used JOLEN bleach on and off for years and also plucked an odd hair on my upper lip but recently close to fifty I have noticed it seems to be getting more noticeable and I seem to need to use the bleach more frequently say every 4-6 weeks. I have looked through some past threads on here and want to avoid looking like a male German porn star and I am hoping I don't already look like this!!!!! Bleaching used to make it much less noticeable but now I'm not sure if the effects aren't too yellowy/attention grabbing???

I am a bit scared of threading after a scary experience with a young probably trainee girl in a well known department store on my eyebrows which hurt like hell and didn't produce good results. And I am also wary of a rash or reaction in that area from waxing lasering or more technological treatments and being more embarrassed to go to work school etc etc.

Plus now I have the odd one or two stray darker longer hairs under my chin which I can pluck out as their aren't many.

mummynanny67 Sat 03-Jan-15 01:47:39

I've had all sorts of treatments over the years and I now just shave the area every four to six days. I truly wish I had done it sooner. I have photos of a younger me wearing red lipstick with a white bleached moustache I looked like Santa ! Now it is smooth and so cheap maintain.

VenusRising Sat 03-Jan-15 01:48:51

Try the threading again, but go to an Asian place this time.
Sounds like you had a bad experience last time, but don't write threading off- you just need to have someone competent do it.
Bleach always looks bad imvho - it's very Viking.

Have you had a chat with your GP about your hormones? I have a lovely little whisker on my chin, but I think it's grey blush certainly my cat likes to groom and nibble it.
My GP says once you're over 35 you're in peri menopause, and to "get ready" for the next phase.
Blood tests and keeping a diary / journal are useful tools to figure out what's going on.

Brighteyes27 Sat 03-Jan-15 02:05:49

Thanks but no Asian threaders in our area. I shaved my long but fine blonde leg hairs years ago and they ended up much darker and thicker. Sadly I fear I may have the viking/German porn star look already. I am getting blood tests done next week for another health condition so I will ask them to check for peri menopause but don't know if GP could offer a solution to dark hair problem? I haven't had a period for 4 months so it could well be the dreaded next stage of life.

I have a friend with jet black hair and she has always been bothered by facial hair I am sure she has tried pretty much every treatment going (over the last two decades) including the supposedly permanent ones but nothing has worked (but maybe she has hasn't had the full course). I don't see her often face to face but I better ask some trusted local friends with brown hair for any locally recommended solutions now the Viking/Porn star look seems to be no longer working for me. Dark hairs, Viking/porn look or poss rash on top lip its a tough call. confused

bonzo77 Sat 03-Jan-15 02:06:45

I'm 37 and have a full on tache that I have waxed or bleached weekly since aged about 15. It sounds like what you have is much less than this. The veet strips work a treat and are cheap.

DrLego Sat 03-Jan-15 03:57:38

veet facial wax strips give me a rash.. I normally have my moustachio threaded, but I have been leaving it longer because of hectic schedule recently jolen-ed it for first time in years. I guess veet strips could work but I'd definitely recommend threading- only every I don't know, 3 weeks or something. They can't mess up your upper lip in the same way someone awful can wreck an eyebrow. It just all comes off, no shaping required.

trader21c Sat 03-Jan-15 04:11:00

Threading but in an Asian place - great results, quick, and hurts less the more you have it done

Brighteyes27 Sat 03-Jan-15 10:19:52

Think I'm going on the hunt for an Asian threaders ASAP. I am feeling self conscious of my darker moustachio but and can't risk the porn Viking look. Thanks all.

Aridane Sat 03-Jan-15 11:27:52


TheReluctantCountess Sat 03-Jan-15 11:31:40

I've found the simplest and best solution! It's a little battery operated trimmer and it does the job superbly. Once a week is enough. I'll see if I can find a link...

TheReluctantCountess Sat 03-Jan-15 11:32:44


BetweenTwoLungs Sat 03-Jan-15 11:44:31

Does that ^ not make it come back darker though? That's what I'd worry about.

TheReluctantCountess Sat 03-Jan-15 11:50:21

That's not happened to me at all, and I've been using it for about six months. I used to painstakingly pluck and the hairs would come back thicker and darker from that, but the trimmer doesn't seem to have any adverse effect at all for me.

mummynanny67 Sat 03-Jan-15 20:16:26

Has anyone used the Nono device ?

Hoppinggreen Sat 03-Jan-15 21:58:05

I shave mine every other day, it's totally invisible, do my chin as well.
I've tried lots of things and it works best.

Deux Sat 03-Jan-15 22:19:39

Ladies, there is nothing that you can do to hair on the outside to make it grow in thicker, faster or a different colour. Hair grows from follicles deep within the skin and shaving won't change the diameter or the follicles or the colour of the hair. That's all myth and nonsense.

Shaved hair grows in feeling thicker because it has been cut bluntly. When you shave it you cut off the tapered end. The bluntness rubs off into a taper and the tapered end therefore has less dense colour in it.

At the end of summer if you shaved off your arm hair it would grow in and you might think it was thicker (see above) and darker. It would be darker as it hasn't been lightened by the sun.

Anyway, I get my upper lip threaded or if I leave it too long between appointments I just shave it off.

CocktailQueen Sat 03-Jan-15 22:24:30

Wax! The strips from Veet work well. I do mine last thing at night and by morning the redness has gone...

Brighteyes27 Sat 03-Jan-15 22:49:53

Tried threading today. I found it very painful and it brought tears to my eyes. It stung for a little while afterwards but no rash and above my top lip is now smooth and hair free (for as long as it lasts). Heres hoping it lasts awhile, regrowth less noticeable and won't hurt as much next time. It was very cheap only £5. If no less painful next time I will try other options suggested here. Thanks all.

VenusRising Sun 04-Jan-15 03:19:16

Glad you found the threading good. It's painful for the time, but I find they get all the little ones, and it's worth it.

Good luck with the GP tests, sometimes hormones like testosterone can make hair grow and skin get oily, but the meno imbalance can make things seem worse. Hrt might seem a bad idea, but if you're under 50 and your GP advises it, it's important to take it to keep hormone levels up to make your bones strong for the 40 or so years of life after menopause. Good luck.

mammmamia Sun 04-Jan-15 09:12:33

Threading is painful but with someone good its so fast and worth it.
I read about the epistick on here and I use this in between threading. Search for it on amazon. So cheap and once you've got the hang of it - life changing for people like me with dark hair and fair skin!

cedricsneer Sun 04-Jan-15 09:17:34

Waxing or laser may leave a very temporary rash but that is so so preferable to the Santa/viking look. Don't go out for a couple of hours afterwards. If you are really concerned do a patch test first, but it is the glaringly obvious, easy to maintain, do it at home option amongst these.

namexxxchangee Sun 04-Jan-15 12:04:22


I wish I'd done it years ago. You have to commit to it and depending on how visible your moustache is you'll need to go once every couple of weeks for about 6 months - a year. But once it's done, it's done. No more bleach; no more removal cream; no more waxing. Best thing I ever did.

Honestly, it is life changing. I never did it before because I was sceptical about whether it would work and had read horror stories on the internet about scarring etc.

The most important thing is to go to a qualified practitioner.

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