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If ever there is a year I need to look good for the xmas party its this one!

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OohMrDarcy Wed 05-Nov-14 20:24:48

I have had a complete SHITTER of a year topped off with my not-so-wonderful 'D'H fucking around and effectively ending our marriage. I kicked him out at the start of September, work is chaotic (but should calm down a little by then) and god damnit I NEED to feel good about myself...

Now I am large... 18/20 sad I know - quite probably linked to the shitter of a marriage / year... however am working on that... I do have dresses that fit - but you know what, for the first time ever I want a new dress... just because I do!

I have a gut, a wonderful c-section overhang and thighs as thick as trees.... someone please help me look and feel good in a dress at Christmas! There is a free bar, free hotel overnight and I want to have fun and make the most of it!

<quietly goes back to feeling shit about everything and trying to be positive>

Charitygirl1 Wed 05-Nov-14 20:30:58

For some reason this appeals, unless you're v tall?

I am rubbish at this but I hope somebody finds you something perfect for FUN!

googietheegg Wed 05-Nov-14 20:31:25

Good on you! I vote for a fabulous but plain new black or navy dress and then have awesome makeup and bright red nails. Maybe a sparkly necklace too.

John Lewis is a good place for a frock - something that holds you in and makes you feel great.

Charitygirl1 Wed 05-Nov-14 20:32:19

Not super exciting but depending on where the ruching and draping hits , it coud be flattering on the problem areas.

omletta Wed 05-Nov-14 20:35:41

I love that Phase8 dress - that sort of cut looks fab on a larger women, especially if you have good legs.

Please keep positive - you are clearly well rid of your crap H.

omletta Wed 05-Nov-14 20:36:27

The first one!

OohMrDarcy Wed 05-Nov-14 20:36:35

ooh I have replies already! Thanks smile

some useful info would have been handy I guess! I am 5' 4" and have dark hair and eyes... navy is often a good colour on me - had a lovely midnight blue type dress I wore years ago...

thanks for the links charitygirl.... the flowery one isn't really me (don't hugely like prints I'm afraid) and the other one, love the colour - but don't think it would work with my shape? <please correct me if I'm wrong - I am generally shit at dressing for my current shape>

A wide-leg playsuit like this with heals made me feel fab at a Christmas party a couple of years ago. playsuit

moonshine Wed 05-Nov-14 20:48:08

I am a very similar size you to (just 2 inches taller smile) and without doubt this shape is my most successful and admired as it skims over my big belly, doesn't have too much material in it and it creates a shape. I have a midnight blue from last year but they usually do several colours so it's worth looking on their website/in-store for other ones.

heels, even!

redautumnleaves Wed 05-Nov-14 20:56:15

There are some amazing and beautiful dresses here.

I hope you find something - I am sure you will.
And I am sure whatever you choose it will look gorgeous on you!

catslave Wed 05-Nov-14 21:06:50

Couple more questions - do you have a waist, or are you more 'up and down', and do you have yellow or pinky skin - can you wear white (not that I'd pick something white, but it will be easier to find a colour that suits you if we know this!)...

OohMrDarcy Wed 05-Nov-14 21:16:05

Saga - weirdly I don't think I'd like the idea of a playsuit - I would feel quite exposed in one... no idea why I wouldn't in a dress... may go try one on to be sure

Moonshine - I like that style dress actually - though would prefer slightly shorter sleeves probably - 3/4 or something?

thanks for the link redautumn - will have a nose for some ideas on there

castlave - I kind of have a waist... but its straight beneath my bust (I think hence the skater style being quite good), skin has more of a yellowy tone I guess and have no idea if I can wear white - don't think I ever have, would naturally lean towards cream does that help at all?!

SelfLoathing Wed 05-Nov-14 21:18:10

Pepperberry go up to a size 18. Eg:

See generally here:

OohMrDarcy Wed 05-Nov-14 21:18:54

forgot to say - I also feel more glam in a longer dress, but no idea what length to stop at without making me look

a) even shorter
b) sack of spuds!

MrsLettuce Wed 05-Nov-14 21:22:43

This is a great dress, model is 5'10" so it'd be about the length I think you're after too. Is black OK?

catslave Wed 05-Nov-14 21:26:54

Very helpful! Don't hide that waist...

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Not your best colour, but with a bit of green, red or gold jewellery and nails you'll look fab:,default,pd.html

OohMrDarcy Wed 05-Nov-14 21:34:15

catslave - I love the first two (and exactly the colours I go for) but not sure I can justify anything quite that expensive in my new single parent life... any chance of finding something similar but under £100 ? <hopeful>

Mrsgrumble Wed 05-Nov-14 21:36:34

I think this is a real 'wow' dress and very flattering and pretty

OohMrDarcy Wed 05-Nov-14 21:40:19

I think black looks a bit harsh on me so tend to avoid

MrsLettuce Wed 05-Nov-14 21:45:00

this is (pretty much) the love child of the kaliko dress and the AP dress you liked. Much kinder price. It's out of stock ATM but they re-stock very regularly - if you mail thm you may well find they have it.

munchkin2902 Wed 05-Nov-14 21:45:08

What about a structured corset style top and some nicely cut wide legged trousers? And killer heels.

tethersend Wed 05-Nov-14 21:55:52

black with leopard collar

googietheegg Wed 05-Nov-14 21:59:38

Ms Lettuce that dress is awesome!! Op you'd look fab in it - heels, red lipstick, flicky eyeliner...shock

tethersend Wed 05-Nov-14 22:01:22


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