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Lambzig Wed 19-Mar-14 14:08:21

Sorry another "help me dress as a wedding guest" thread, but it am finding this one a bit challenging.

I had a thread in AIBU, here but thought I need some specialist S&B advice.

The dress code For women is white evening dress, which is hideous as I don't suit white. My budget would ideally be £200 as I will never wear it again, but want something nice, so may have to go higher and sell it afterwards. I am a size 10/12 and 5ft 3, so can't have anything too wide.

I have trawled my usual sites, but can't seem to find anything, so any help would be appreciated.

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 14:11:50

This is over budget but a nice shape I think. With big Zara colourful necklace you could avoid washed out feeling?


I've not read all the other thread - apologies if duplicating idea

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals Wed 19-Mar-14 14:14:45


Lambzig Wed 19-Mar-14 14:29:51

Hmm, I am reading evening dress as long, especially as the men are in black tie. Do you think I am reading that incorrectly?

PrimalLass Wed 19-Mar-14 14:32:17

Would you get away with a v pale grey?

PrimalLass Wed 19-Mar-14 14:33:08

JohnCusacksWife Wed 19-Mar-14 14:33:55

if I was never going to wear something again my budget would be �20 not �200!! And nothing would induce me to wear white as I look like a ghost in it. Why don't you bend the rules a bit and go for ivory or cream or even monochrome - at last way you'd tone in with the dinner suits.,153&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=200&sort=-1&clr=Cream,153&Rf1012=4461&Rf-200=20&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=200&sort=-1&clr=Ivory

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 14:34:00

It really depends.

If it's a white tie do I think that means long formal dresses. Black tie just formal evening dress.

Whistles have got long pale pink dress but £275

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 14:35:16

Wear a wedding dress. That'll teach her to be so restrictive about what her guests have wear!

Lambzig Wed 19-Mar-14 14:36:16

I think they mean long. The bride was talking ages ago that she wanted a glamorous evening party with everyone in long dresses.

It is a late afternoon wedding and evening reception.

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 14:38:10

So everyone in long white dresses? Isn't that the absolute opposite of what you should wear to a wedding.

Poor you Lamb I would be quite fucked off

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 14:39:32

way over budget but could you eBay it?

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 14:41:57

Could you check with other guests / bride first before you spend your money? There are hardly any long white evening dresses - seems such a narrow dress code. Everyone will be in the same thing. Seems nuts to me.

Sorry can't help more.

specialsubject Wed 19-Mar-14 14:42:27

how bizarre.

several of the charity shops in my town have wedding dresses for sale. Doesn't have to be the full meringue, can be just a white/ivory dress with a bit of sparkle in places.

cheap as chips.

FairPhyllis Wed 19-Mar-14 14:51:01

Are you sure the bride doesn't mean a 'white tie' dress code? That just means the most formal level of dress - long evening dresses for women - rather than wearing white specifically.

Seems bonkers to tell your guests what colour they are allowed to wear.

Lambzig Wed 19-Mar-14 14:52:09

I think I need to ask the bride and then confer with a few of the women going.

I can only think they are envisaging some sort of Elton John Black and White Ball type scenario.

FairPhyllis Wed 19-Mar-14 14:54:30

If it does turn out to be 'wear white' rather than 'white tie' then I would just buy whatever the cheapest Monsoon wedding dress is.

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 15:01:26

Yes white tie Elton John stlye party can be any colour. Get yourself to Zara / Monsoon!

householdchorewhore Wed 19-Mar-14 15:04:31

Try Wish Want Wear

Some lovely stuff and you hire it, rather than buy

You need to sign up so I can't link to an individual frock but it's worth a look

For what it's worth, if I got that invite I would either decline or ignore the white rule. I'm overweight and there is no way I would wear white

LadyVetinari Wed 19-Mar-14 15:06:12

If I were you, I'd pick a nice sewing pattern, get some silver-grey or ivory silk (if you prefer either of those colours to white), and pay a seamstress to make it up for you. If you ask her to use silk thread then you'll be able to dye the dress to a colour you prefer after the wedding. That should cost less than £200 and mean that you'll have something that fits perfectly, is exactly to your taste, and can be worn again.

Some ideas:

Side slit;


Empire line;

[[ Backless].

You can usually find local seamstresses through Gumtree,, etc. I get my patterns from and my fabric from ebay, but I'm sure there are many other places!

tethersend Wed 19-Mar-14 15:07:20

this is nice

tethersend Wed 19-Mar-14 15:08:38

or this

LadyVetinari Wed 19-Mar-14 15:09:07

Oops - that'll teach me not to preview my posts... blush

Here's the link: Backless.

HorraceTheOtter Wed 19-Mar-14 15:19:02

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SauceForTheGander Wed 19-Mar-14 15:21:30

I'm starting to get dress envy

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