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Feel fat and frumpy but I need to shop for a dress for a wedding. Please can anyone help?

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Crumpledandcreased Thu 13-Mar-14 20:01:02

I bought a dress in Coast today and love the style but wasn't sure it suited me. Dh confirms that it doesn't.

I'm a size 16 with big boobs and hips, I've got a bit of a waist still and my legs are ok. I'm not wild about my arms but don't mind them being on show.

Here's the really tricky part. It has to be from Debenhams and under £100.

I need help so badly. I can't face trailing round the shops trying on stuff that makes me look like a badly stuffed sausage anymore.

TisTheSeasonToBeUnreasonable Thu 13-Mar-14 20:11:03

I have no advice I'm afraid but I feel your pain sad I too am looking for a dress for my vow renewal, similar budget and I'm a size 16/18 sad

Maverick66 Thu 13-Mar-14 20:20:24

You need to send out an SOS for a mums netter such as TETHERSEND or RONALDMCDONALD these two ladies always come up trumps on these kind of threads.
P.s Feel your pain ladies I am a size 20/22 looking an outfit to wear to a wedding and it really isn't happening sad

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:28:59

I think this satin print could suit your shape? Below mid-thigh length helps confused

http://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_008010231647_-1

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:29:18

Oops here it is

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:31:24

Navy daisy thing - neckline too high? Like the skirt

What shoes etc do you have?

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:34:22

Navy lace, quite nice and structured but this model's skin looks dead against that very dark greyish navy - probably good if you're a redhead/strawberry blonde

storynanny Thu 13-Mar-14 20:39:10

I have just bought a Jacques Vert outfit for a wedding new on ebay. Try them on in debenhams for size and then search ebay for last seasons designs. I got dress new with tags for £39.99 and matching jacket from another seller for £60. The sizing is generous I am a big up top 14 with no waist and their 14's are generous on me.

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:40:20

( www.navabi.co.uk/dresses-verpass-draped-dress-pink-17763-9000.html Maverick, what's your budget? ) sorry for hijack!

Crumpledandcreased Thu 13-Mar-14 20:41:34

I like the navy one a lot but I've tried a few similar dresses and they didn't look great. The first one is a nice style but I'm not very keen on the pattern. I think the trouble is that I just really like styles that suit much slimmer figures than mine.

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:42:31

What sort of style is the coast one that you like, and what's wrong with it on you?

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:49:19

Butterflies - the 16 is out of stock but I guess you could call them?

joanofarchitrave Thu 13-Mar-14 20:50:42

Skirt - do you have a top you like this could go with?

OiMissus Thu 13-Mar-14 20:55:51

Phase eight ?
They have pretty tunic dresses that fall neatly from the chest, covering the bumps, but hinting at the curves wink - and showing the legs.
And the gathered waist/ wrap dresses can be flattering to a fuller figure too . There are quite a few in the sale. [[http://m.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Navigate?langId=-1&storeId=10701&catalogId=10001&txt=Phase+eight+dress&pn=7here ]] scroll through the pages.

Good luck!

OiMissus Thu 13-Mar-14 20:56:56

m.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Navigate?langId=-1&storeId=10701&catalogId=10001&txt=Phase+eight+dress&pn=7here !

Crumpledandcreased Thu 13-Mar-14 21:13:28

I like the butterfly one, think I'll go and try it on tomorrow.

The Coast dress has a tulip skirt and a black and white graphic pattern on it. It was 85.00. Apparently the skirt adds extra inches onto my hips and the high neck is not as flattering as a v-neck. Shame, I really love it.

Crumpledandcreased Thu 13-Mar-14 21:15:33

The phase eight link doesn't work on my tablet. I looked at a couple of their dresses but didn't see anything in store that I liked.

BobPatSamandIgglePiggle Thu 13-Mar-14 22:09:07

m.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_017010238143_-1

I'm the same build by the sounds of it. Not easy to shopfor. How about this ^

Crumpledandcreased Thu 13-Mar-14 22:21:19

Two votes for the Jasper Conran one! I have other dresses in that style and they are very forgiving. I'm just not that keen on the print.

Maybe the flattering style trumps the pattern. I'll try it on tomorrow and see.

Do you think there's any chance I can wear black tights with it?

Rocket82 Fri 14-Mar-14 07:01:28

These?

www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_020010229143_-1

www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_008010230560_-1

polkadotdelight Fri 14-Mar-14 07:07:28

If you really love the dress then I'm going to go against the grain and say keep it but buy some supportive undies. I'm a 14 and have been bigger, I think it's better to stand out in something wonderful and look your size (be proud) than blend into the background by trying to hide your curves.

AnythingNotEverything Fri 14-Mar-14 08:07:09

I'm a similar shape (but tall - I didn't see your height) and I think phase Eight dresses are really flattering. Particularly the wrap or gathered styles

What about this: m.phase-eight.co.uk/fcp/product/phase-eight//Hearts-Print-Dress/202566281

I would ignore any suggestion of a dress which hangs tunic style from your boobs. One should always see the curve under the boob otherwise one looks elephantine shock

AnythingNotEverything Fri 14-Mar-14 08:11:06

Or this:

m.phase-eight.co.uk/fcp/product/phase-eight//Molly-Print-Dress/202455816

A statement necklace can create a v neck effect for you

m.asos.com/mt/www.asos.com/Lipsy/Lipsy-Statement-Opaque-Flower-Collar-Necklace/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=3918343&cid=11408&sh=0&pge=1&pgesize=50&sort=-1&clr=Silver

AnythingNotEverything Fri 14-Mar-14 08:11:56

Phase eight dress again: m.phase-eight.co.uk/fcp/product/phase-eight//Molly-Print-Dress/202455816

Veins Fri 14-Mar-14 09:02:49

What dress did you buy in Coast? Maybe if we see it then we will know what defo not to go for.

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