Shop, shop shop! Enough already!(41 Posts)
Since I've been here I've spent a fortune on the 'next best thing'!
It has left me feeling inadequate, a bit of a sheep and frankly vain and self-obsessed. My life hasn't been the same since I was HoC'd.
My remedy is to have February off. No more shopping for me, no more winterness and no more bloody lipsticks.
I do have a couple of days of January left though.....
Anyone else hitting the brakes for February beauty/style-wise or are all the new must-have Spring things making you itch?
Sorry if that was a bit deep.
Pinterest is a great way of getting a shopping fix without parting with any cash. I've got an amazing wardrobe on there! (And a gorgeous house, perfect meals and fantastic holidays. )
Coumarin I think you were spot on actually. I lost my dad just before xmas and my online shopping has got a bit excessive lately. I realise it is a form of escapism and addiction. I had decided no more and then a day later I was sucked in by the concealer recommend on here that I just had to have. I wouldn't mind if I was rich I would not beat myself up over it but I am not so really need to stop. Excellent idea about pint interest am off to add to mine.
coumarin and kerstina I totally agree. My hounding of beauty forums is because I'm bored and I think if only I looked 'just so' then I'd be ok.
In truth, I'm about to be 50 and am totally obsessing over having the right hair/skincare/make-up and wardrobe in place. That's totally nuts though as it evolves over time and rightly so. I just NEED to have it all in place and then I will stop in theory.
I'm also looking for light relief, usually because I'm bored/tired/stressed out. Excessive purchases are a byproduct of the process. Winter is a bad time as you are stuck indoors.
Very sorry about your Dad Kerstina
Yes, when I miscarried after our fifth ivf attempt I suddenly became convinced my skin was awful and bought all kinds if things to try and correct it. I spent £££ on stuff that I'd use once and then decide it wasn't good enough and so on. Truth is my skin looked how it always did, just fine. But I guess worrying about that was easier than worrying about something I couldn't fix.
I do love make up and clothes and it's a brilliant way of taking your mind off things but if it gets to where it's vexing a stressful thing in itself then I think a step back is wise.
Again, apologies for getting so deep.
Don't apologise, these are all very valid reasons. I may choose to step away from these type of forums as well as not shopping in February
You could still browse Escargot <enabler>
Window shopping and dreaming about what you'll buy if often the best bit.
Coumarin sorry to hear you've had such a bad time if it. I've been through bad times in the past, and I do get tremendous feelings of anxiety, which is heightened by the fact that I'm such a control freak.
I've always liked clothes, but I can pinpoint the time that my buying too much became an issue. It was about 15 years ago, and I started to gain quite a lot of weight (started going out with someone and we drank a lot and ate out a lot - all quite decadent). I suddenly encountered clothes not fitting that well, and in fact was on the verge of being a size 16, which in my mind then equalled 'Evans'. So I clearly remember having the feeling if, if it is from a 'normal' shop, and it fits, I'd better buy it because god knows if I will be able to find anything to fit me again. I mean, that's kind if mad! My weight has stabilised, and I never actually did have to buy anything from Evans, and in fact there were enough clothes left in the world to still fit me. But I remember the almost panic buying if it, and I know it still affects me today.
I also have a much vaguer feeling of 'what if I lose my job in the future and can't afford to buy clothes any more?' I better buy this now just in case. When if course if I lost my job I would a) have sufficient clothes to keep me going for around 3-5 years, b) I would most likely get a new job at some point and c) if that didn't happen, and I was indeed jobless fir 3-5 years, clothes would have fallen low in my priority list.
I'm not going to pretend it makes sense
Thank you Saurus Yes it was an anxiety and control thing.
That does make sense. Not sure I've bought things just in case but I know someone who does that. She has a really secure very well paid job too.
I've decided to take a little break - it seems right for me to step back a bit - see you in march x
See you in March with all the extra £££ you've saved.
Wow escargot - are you me?! Reading this thread is like reading about myself. Turning 50 and fighting this compulsion to spend money on things I don't actually need in pursuit of something elusive/unnecessary that isn't me anyway. I'm not quite sure when I started being defined so completely by my clothes and I don't like this "crutch/obsession" in my life.
That said, I do like having a bit of money to spend on clothes for the first time in my life and I have taken on board all the points up thread re wise/investment buying. Same old adage of less and better for me with a healthy sprinkle of real life in between .
Courmarin thanks for expressing that sentiment. I'm exactly the same. I think is easy to be drawn in the "the counters" as I'm ageing (all at once, it seems) and it's so tempting. I really believe that this or that shade of lippy/blush will be the Grail I'm looking for. It never is. It does not exist.
Shopping is a creative outlet. It's very accessible these days, but the downside is that it easily empties your bank account and overfills your wardrobe/home.
If you want to stop shopping, you need to find some other way(s) of fulfilling your need to express your creativity.
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