Advanced search

I am sick of being fat and frumpy

(37 Posts)
ReculverTowers Wed 01-May-13 18:44:07

can you help me change please sad

I lost 4 stone a couple of years ago but I have put a stone and half back on and just cannot motivate myself at all but I really need to do it. I feel old and fat before my time.

I am only 35 but I am so short of money all the time I hardly ever get my hair cut/spend time or money on myself. How do you do it all on a budget?

I feel like i am having some sort of mid life crisis. This morning I bought myself some ripped jeans confused as I guessed I am not really that old and can get away with it. Yet I look at other women my age and they seem so much younger and care free. Is this my punishment for having teenage children in mid 30s.


ReculverTowers Thu 02-May-13 09:54:05

you are all very good getting to a size 8-10. I am not sure that is acheivable for me though as I am 5 9 1/2 5 10. i am quite happy with a size 12-14 tbh! but atm I am in a tight 14 and a size 16 and it's bloody depressing.

yy re swimwear <sigh> I contemplated buying one of those costumes in m&s with the skirt on but then decided I would just look silly

MonkeyingAroundTown Thu 02-May-13 10:00:28

You don't need to be a size 8/10 just whatever size you feel better about yourself with. How much do you currently weigh?

ReculverTowers Thu 02-May-13 10:03:13

13 stone <sigh>

ReculverTowers Thu 02-May-13 10:14:30

Right I have made an appointment to have my hair done and eyebrows waxed and shaped at my local college salon on Tuesday !

she couldn't fit me in a for moustache wax at the same time...

so that's a startsmile

BiddyPop Thu 02-May-13 10:24:58

I'm 38 and stuck between 11.5 to 13.5 st for the past 10 years. Occasionally I manage to lose a bit and move back towards the 11 (I want to be 10.5 ideally), but then life interferes and I get back over 13.

With a coccyx problem, swimming might well be a great way to move without putting pressure on it. And not just doing lengths (I used to plan my current garden needs and design my dream house as ways to overcome boredom doing lengths - I don't do underwater music!!). But do some other exercises when in the water - sideways stretches, running on the spot (a lot less pressure with the water buoyancy) etc. If they have an aquafit type class, go once to get an idea of what would be good and then do it yourself on your own trips. And don't worry about your swimsuit - everyone (even those who have great bodies) have some hangups about it and most people are too busy concentrating on getting their own stuff done to look at other people anyway. There's all shapes and sizes in the pool at my gym grin

Add lots of veg into your food if you can - if you're having pasta with a tomato sauce and chicken, add in some mushrooms, peppers, courgette and peas for example. Or cauliflower chunks and carrots and mushrooms to a curry sauce, along with your meat. Do you eat salad at all? Add a bowl of leaves to the side of meals, or a few tomatoes, or nibble on olives rather than crisps.

My lunches at least 3 times a week for work are a salad bowl - but I hate dressing and am hungry, so it's: 2 carrots in large rings, half a pepper in pieces, handful each of sugarsnap peas, olives, cherry tomatoes, handful of lettuce shredded (I like romaine for a bit of flavour) and half an avocado if i have some (i only buy when on special). Avodado has some fat, but it's very good for you. If' I need more than that, I have packets of breadsticks in my desk to nibbble on.

And if you are hoping to lose weight, perhaps don't buy too many clothes for now - concentrate on accessories instead if you are buying anything. A nice scarf over plain white t-shirt and stright jeans makes a plain outfit look chic, some nice earrings or a belt can also change the look of something. Find things about you that you are happy and comfortable with, and highlight those with jewellery (doesn't have to be expensive) or other accessories, and that will often minimise bits that you don't like.

And on clothes, try to dress for the size you currently are (and suiting your body shape). Not the one you hope to be (and if possible, not the larger one you were). Dressing the right size and shape can actually take POUNDS off how you look (I had a suit once in a size that fitted me well rather than pulled tight or hanging baggy, but was also long line so drew the eye up and down rather than sideways - a few girls asked where I'd bought it as they loved it (chainstore) but were ASTONISHED when I said what size it was, thinking it was 2 and sometimes 3 sizes smaller!!)

BiddyPop Thu 02-May-13 10:27:54

Just realised you had your sizes there - I am currently wearing size 18 clothes (and have had 20) but aiming to get back through 16 to 14. My DREAM would be a 12. But meanwhile, I will stay as healthy as I can, get what exercise I can fit in (I hate gym and don't generally have time, but I swim a few lengths once a week and do a fair bit of walking), and dress to suit what I am NOW. And work on getting better over time - but I know I need to be happy about current things or I will end up eating for comfort and that is no help at all.

Fluffycloudland77 Thu 02-May-13 10:30:52

At 5,10 you'd look a bit too thin at a size 8. My gorgeous-every-man-stares-as-she-walks-by friend was 5,10 and a 14. She was slim but her frame was too big to be an 8 or a 10.

Eyebrow shaping is brilliant imo.

paintyourbox Thu 02-May-13 10:39:05

Wow, 4 stone! What an incredible achievement! Pat yourself on the back that you've cut your risk of type 2 diabetes and our risk of heart disease massively.

How about yoga?! There are lots of cheap DVDs out there and it's great for toning and strength, I have a yoga DVD that I don't use anymore (going to classes bow) so if you would like it, PM me your address and I will post it.

I find that applying a body moisturiser every day makes me feel really great. It doesn't matter what I weigh, having smooth skin makes so much difference.

Since summer is coming up, how about a DIY pedicure to get your feet flip-flop ready?

I make a homemade foot scrub by mixing olive oil and a teaspoon of brown sugar. I rub it onto dry feet then soak them in warm water for 10 minutes or so. Then cut/file my nails, remove any stains on the nails with a little lemon juice and apply a colour. Follow that with a moisturiser and go to bed with cotton socks on- wake up with gorgeous feet!

minimumthebare Thu 02-May-13 10:57:39

Also Superdrug have a brilliant range called Make Up Academy (MUA) where everything costs £1-£3, so you could have a completely new make up look for less than £10!

Eyebrow pencil-£1
Nail varnish-£1

Make Up Academy

ReculverTowers Fri 03-May-13 15:12:33

Thank you for all of the advice smile

I am going to get a bit of sun this weekend (ha!) and start the healthy living ....Tuesday but I am being good, today i have had salad and strawberries

I think the new me begins on Tuesday all round!

busyboysmum Fri 03-May-13 17:30:57

Above tips all brill, would also recommend boot sales for clothes, I go every Sunday and always get bargainous stuff. Jeans are often £1 or £2 a pair, tops 50p. Have a look at some current trends you think would suit then look out for them.

1duffy Mon 20-Mar-17 19:42:18

I wouldn't be seen dead in a swimming cossie now. Just lack of confidence. However i just bought a 'boys shorts' cossie as i feel so guilty when my son asks me to go swimming and i am running out of excuses.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: