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Honestly - am I being unfair to ds3 by dressing him in this?

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MandragoraWurzelstock Thu 18-Apr-13 19:29:36

I found what I think is a super little matinee coat. It's red, very sweet and lovely to use. It's like this - well quite similar, not lacy or picot or anything.

Today I put ds3 in it (he is 3 months) and TWO people thought he was a girl! He was also wearing plain white tights I should add, so maybe it was that?

Is it wrong to dress baby boys like this? I mean maybe he looked a bit Victorian but I didn't think he'd be mistaken for a girl. he looks like a potato anyway

MandragoraWurzelstock Thu 18-Apr-13 19:30:02


BackforGood Thu 18-Apr-13 19:37:28

erm...probably not what you want to hear, but if I saw a baby in white tights and that coat, I think I'd assume they were a girl too. Sorry!

Ujjayi Thu 18-Apr-13 19:39:24

Not so sure about coupling it with tights but that jacket is adorable. Worn over a babygro I wouldn't think anything of it or even some lovely soft chambray dungarees.

DefiniteMaybe Thu 18-Apr-13 19:39:45

I'd also assume girl.

Makinglists Thu 18-Apr-13 19:39:48

Its lovely -he is never go to know whether someone thought he was a girl. My mum dressed me in blue as a baby (late 60's early 70's) on the basis she liked blue she used to get remarks about what a lovely boy I was!! Haven't been scarred for life!!. For what its worth I think its lovely.

purpleroses Thu 18-Apr-13 19:40:18

At 3 months he's not going to care if people think he's a girl. If it doesn't bother you, then dress him how you like! Enjoy - in a few years, he won't be having any of it, but right now he's yours to dress as you like smile

pizzaqueen Thu 18-Apr-13 19:42:40

You can dress your DS in whatever you want. It doesn't shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.

However, if I saw a baby wearing that coat and tights I would definately think it was a girl.

But who actually cares, why should we gender a 3 month old baby. If you like the coat then put him in it, at 3 months does it actually matter whether complete strangers think he is a boy or girl.

BeanoGrigio Thu 18-Apr-13 19:43:35

Well if I saw a baby dressed in that coat and white tights, I would assume it was a girl, but I'd only do this so that I could say 'isn't she lovely?', 'how old is she?' or something similar. I don't think it's a bad thing or clothes that shouldn't be on a boy or anything, just down to lack of a non-gender specific third person singular pronoun.

Anyway ime babies always get mistaken for boys when they're girls and vice versa, even when they're wearing clothes that traditionally scream one gender or another.

They all look like they could be both so I think people just look to clothes as a clue, instead of saying 'is it a boy or a girl?' (which would probably cause offence to someone somewhere anyway).

I wouldn't worry about it.

MandragoraWurzelstock Thu 18-Apr-13 19:44:16

Thankyou, I can totally see how a girl would look great in it too - but it's not a frock, just a little knitted coat. And I want him to be able to wear this because it's so blooming easy to put on! Unlike the myriad 'boy' coats and cardis I've had from Boots and mothercare, which have all got tiny teeny arms and loads of buttons and they ride up as they're too short.

The tights too, I really like - they wear them in Germany a lot I think, on baby boys, and toddler boys and they are just so useful.

It's a bit like putting a girl in trousers |I suppose, just the convenience of it! smile

louisianablue2000 Thu 18-Apr-13 19:44:17

Iwouldn't worry about it. My girls always had people assume they are boys because they weren't dressed head to toe pink I still buy 'boys' jeans because I hate the tight cut of 'girls' jeans. DS is 7 months and his grandmother is continually saying how masculine he is despite me putting him in pink sleepsuits (because I refuse to but new ones for 3 months) and sleeping bags and hand-me-down T-shirts that are rather feminine.

Call me radical but I don't think wearing a red coat as a 3 month old is going to affect your son.

EleanorFarjeon Thu 18-Apr-13 19:44:22

Whilst I hate to see babies in jeans, jackets & trainers, I would also think he'd look a bit of a nancy in a red matinee coat & white tights!


ZolaBuddleia Thu 18-Apr-13 19:44:39

The tights and the fact that the coat is the same shape as an adult woman would wear would make me think he was a girl.

ZolaBuddleia Thu 18-Apr-13 19:45:37

Aren't trousers easier to put on than tights though?

louisianablue2000 Thu 18-Apr-13 19:46:07

Oh, as far as the tights issue goes, you can get some fabulous 'boys' tights which are far better than socks for babies.

MandragoraWurzelstock Thu 18-Apr-13 19:46:08

I think I was worried that maybe I am deluded, and part of my brain is trying to MAKE him into a girl since he is my third and last baby and they';ve all been boys!

I don't want to be weird or something

I do draw the line at pink but then he did have a purple hat when he was tiny as nowhere had any in blue/grey etc. And it did have some tiny flowers on. blush but I was desperate at that point. It doesn't fit any more.

MandragoraWurzelstock Thu 18-Apr-13 19:48:09

Trousers are slightly easier At the point of dressing BUT though he has plenty of trousers, I avoid them as you need socks with them and the socks won't blardy stay on! I am sick of picking up fallen socks and my baby having cold feet.

So often it's tights UNDER trousers or just tights as frankly, he's a baby and doesn't care - but I still feel a bit worried that I might be, you know, breaking the rules a bit.

LadyKinbote Thu 18-Apr-13 19:48:45

It looks lovely! I wouldn't worry about it, they're only little and cute for so long...

MandragoraWurzelstock Thu 18-Apr-13 19:49:09

Louisiana - do you have a linky please?! Am running out of non pink and grly tights!

LadyKinbote Thu 18-Apr-13 19:49:38

And there are no rules with baby clothes!

MandragoraWurzelstock Thu 18-Apr-13 19:50:49

thankyou smile

BreasticlesNTesticles Thu 18-Apr-13 19:52:07

Babygrows are the way to go imo, much easier than any "proper" clothing. Would have def thought he was a girl in that outfit but it doesn't matter to him as long as he is comfy!

deleted203 Thu 18-Apr-13 19:52:08

I don't suppose your DS cares. But it is definitely a girl's outfit, IMO.

ReluctantlyBeingYoniMassaged Thu 18-Apr-13 19:53:13

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! You cannot be serious, OP!

landofsoapandglory Thu 18-Apr-13 19:53:14

I'm not sure TBH, but if that's the sort of price people will pay I'm bringing out my knitting needles!

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