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'You look really good!'

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BadSpellersUntie Wed 03-Apr-13 21:07:45

For your age....

I get this quite a lot. I'm 42 this year and I just find this profoundly sigh making. No longer do I simply 'look good' ... it's always ' you look good/ your skin is really good ....' followed by ' for your age '

At work this week I got ' I'd never have thought you were that old ' and ' Well, you dress in a young way considering you're over 40 '

I'm very sensitive about my age < obviously> Would you just take this as a compliment? Or mourn the days when a compliment wasn't immediately followed by ' for your age ...? '

OneLittleLady Wed 03-Apr-13 21:08:53

I still get asked for ID and I turned 30 this earlier this year. hmm

ellesabe Wed 03-Apr-13 21:12:44

I don't think that's what badspeller was wanting to hear... grin

LittlePandaBear Wed 03-Apr-13 21:13:20

It's a compliment - they don't have to say anything nice about you at all or comment on how you look. But someone makes the effort to say that you look good so you should be pleased!

I think people say 'for your age' becuase there's the assumption that everyone looks good when they're young/20's, and people let themselves go as they get older, so basically if you look nice when you're over 30 then it's surprising grin

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Wed 03-Apr-13 21:15:52

I'd take it as a compliment.

The "I'd never have thought you were that old" would particularly grind my gears though for some reason.

At the moment I get "wow - you don't look your age" quite a lot, which is a much politer way of putting it.

OneLittleLady Wed 03-Apr-13 21:18:08

Might not be what anyone wants to hear but I wish I did look my age grin it's very embarrassing trying to buy a bottle of wine and being eyed suspiciously by every cashier in town! I may think otherwise though as I get older......

BadSpellersUntie Wed 03-Apr-13 21:20:24

< clobbers onelittlelady with her bottle of wine >


BadSpellersUntie Wed 03-Apr-13 21:21:26

Yes, it's not quite what I was after, have to say.

OneLittleLady Wed 03-Apr-13 21:21:38

Ok, maybe I deserved that with my unsubtle boast there wink

Emo76 Wed 03-Apr-13 21:21:38

It is a compliment. Funny how the older one gets the less "old" ages are! I remember when people who were 30 seemed old to me (as a teenager) - how things change!

BadSpellersUntie Wed 03-Apr-13 21:23:10

I can clearly remember aged 21 saying to a woman who i worked with ' Will you have to have specialist ante natal care during your pregnancy, what with you being an older mum?

She was 32.

Hopefully Wed 03-Apr-13 21:25:09

Trust me, it's worse when people think you are older than you are every single time. It started when I was about 6 and was entertaining until I hit about 25. Now it's just depressing.

CitizenOscar Wed 03-Apr-13 21:27:05

Bad - my DM did get specialist antenatal care when she had me, as an older mum of 31. Was a while ago though!

BadSpellersUntie Wed 03-Apr-13 21:27:59

Hopefully... and are you about 26? I have NO sympathy if so smile

Yes, i know it could be worse. I think it's linked in to the whole depression about growing old. I dress nicely, wear nice make up, have a beauty regime that involves christ knows how many expensive lotions and potions but deep down I know that you can't hold back the years forever.

Christ, how maudlin!!

minibmw2010 Wed 03-Apr-13 22:11:56

I'm 40 on Friday and keep getting 'no way, really ???' which does help me feel better about the whole thing smile.

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