Do you worry about looking 'mutton'?(40 Posts)
I'm no fashionista but I do like clothes and making an effort with outfits.
I overheard a bit of a bitch-up this morning at school about certain women dressing inappropriately for their age - I don't know if it was directed at me, but it did make me look at myself and wonder if my choice in clothing is a little bit off.
I don't think I dress outlandishly or particularly young - today's outfit is skinny khaki trousers, t-shirt, black and cream striped jacket and Ash wedges. Nothing amazing, but I like it and it looks better than it sounds - well, in my head it did.
So, at 37, with 2 children, what am I supposed to be wearing?
It doesn't sound mutton in the slighest, though if someone was going to complain about my dress sense I would rather be called mutton than mumsy any day of the week.
I am the same age as you and doing an arty degree at uni, I have fallen into dressing like everyone else, but the face lets me down
It,s the wedges!There is a mum at our school who wears those bright coloured wedges and they are fab-u-lous BUT they look incredibly out of place for the school run.It doesn't help that she has a lovely lively little boy who zooms around and she has to shout at him to stop.I always tell her they look amazing ( and they do and so does she) but so out of place that they make her look a little silly.Thats an opinion I have never shared in the playground nor have I heard comments.She always looks lovely but very silly when she has to hurry.The rest of your outfit sounds amazing.How do you stop the children from wiping their hands,noses, bags e.t.c. On the cream blazer?Maybe that's what the mums meant cause I don't see how the outfit you have described could be " mutton" unless its cropped or see thru.....ooh those were the days.....sounds like a lovely outfit to me and I am one of those dowdy mums.
Yeah, I'd hate to be called mumsy as well
It's not even that I'm some amazing trend setter or look like I've just stepped out of Vogue magazine. I live in a very sailing obsessed area and there's a sort of uniform that most mums wear
I hate sailing so I'm in between the mum uniform and PJs/tracksuit bottoms gangs
Sorry, crossed posts - I don't have nose-wiping little ones anymore, mine are 7 and 11 and are past the age of me having to leg it after them when they make a run for it.
I feel exactly the same as you OP. I always make an effort and wear clothes that I think are nice but then look around the playground and wonder whether I should be wearing trackies and an anorak.
Don't think I'd risk high heels on the school run, what with pushing a pushchair too, its too risky.
When we had the bad snow the other week and it had turned icey, there was me in moon boots walking like a snail and this mother with about 4 inch wedge ankle boots! I could hardly bear to look at her in case she went over.
Of course I still had full slap on but I think the moon boots and walking like an old lady, showed my true age
I'm 42 (v nearly 43) and I wear similar - eg today was skinny khaki trousers, biker jacket and heeled ankle boots. I often wear v short skirts too - I have good legs and intend to wear them for a while longer yet!
Gosh, it's this sort of thread that makes me so glad I used, because i worked full-time, just to drop my DS off at school most morning, in smart but work-y clothes, and not linger. Sounds like these women who make these catty comments have nothing better to do, to me.
Your outfit sounds excellent and not at all too 'young'. Couldn't hack the wedges for evryday life myself, but know people who can. i used to commute (including dropping off DS) in reasonably smart but comfortable flats, and keep shoes with heels in a drawer at work to change into!
"What am I supposed to be wearing?" Whatever you like! Your outfit sounds really nice and who cares what anyone says. I love it when women pickup/drop off in clothes that are stylish and a bit thought-out/different, I look carefully at what they're wearing, really admire them (silently), then wonder what their shoes/boots/top/skirt would look like on me and where can I get one... haven't managed it yet but I am sometimes on the verge of going up to them and asking them where they got their <thing I like> from. Then it all goes a bit mental - I start wondering if their husband/partner is stylish too, what they like about their wife's/partner's style and wonder if anyone might fancy me if they thought I was stylish too - I'm single (not that I am considering pinching a husband).
Keep wearing nice things to the playground! I'm enjoying it!
The look I hate the most in the playground is the track suit bottom, it not only looks awful, but is says either "I'm just on the way to the gym
because I can afford not to work because my husband pays the mortgage ", or "I was too busy to shower and dress before school so although I smell a bit now, I'll do all that preening when I'm home - and yes, I can do that because my husband pays the mortgage. "
Other things it might say are ....
I'm on my way to the gym as I'm a shift worker or work part time
I'm just going out running or walking the dog
I'm a PE teacher or personal trainer and I'm on my way to work
I've just had major surgery and its the only thing that's confortable
I'm a carer for a disabled child or elderly relative and find these clothes confortable and pratical
I'm struggling with depression and can hardly even get my kids out the door, let alone worry about what to wear
.....so please don't judge me
Your attire sounds quite classy to me. Keep it there and ignore -the biatches--
Kristina I wouldn't give anyone the satisfaction of explaining or apologising for myself. You are what you are.
No because my taste wouldn't put me at risk of it really, although occasionally something appeals to me, like tartan trousers, and I have to gently console myself, nearly 43 + tartan trousers,, no no no.
I had a similar "am I mutton dressed as lamb" moment at uni this week. I'm a
very mature student at 35 years old. One of my 20 year old classmates came into class wearing the same shorts and same coloured tights as I was wearing!
That's the point though, if you don't feel comfortable in it don't do it. Wear what you feel good in.
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