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What to wear for my 40th?

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Oblomov Fri 28-Dec-12 14:04:14

I normally wear dresses. I feel lovely, if I get the right one. But I need to find a stunner of a dress, this time.
But i have put on quite a bit of weight in the last 2 years, and I have the worst cankles ever, and now I'm just not sure I can carry it off.
I have until the end of Jan to find something.
I am only 5'2'', size 14. I saw some lovely dresses in Hobbs in the sale a few days ago. They were a-line, which does suit me, becasue I have huge boobs, small wait, but very big thighs, and bottom. But the dresses were quite boring. And I need a 'wow' dress.
What do I do, other than lose a stone? wink

TapselteerieO Tue 29-Jan-13 14:48:34

Sounds fab, I was ill, had an upset tummy too, at the end of a flu bug, could hardly bring myself to eat, think it is the only alcohol free birthday I've had since, well a long time ago, it was on a fairly miserable Monday too! Hoping to make up for it in the summer, planning a party/gathering.

I really do like that dress, how was the length on you? I am a bit shorter than you are!

Oblomov Tue 29-Jan-13 13:28:08

I have been to 3 other 40th's in the last 2 months. Has been fab.
One a boat party up to london, I danced and danced. Another a local meal. Was lovely. One in London, at the Barbican. And mine was a fab cheesy Greek, plate smashing place, that Chris Evans likes !!!!!
So I have been having a good time wink
Tap, I'm sure you had a good time. It doesn't need to be on a grand scale.

Oblomov Tue 29-Jan-13 13:21:50

Thank you both.
Tap, my 40th was actually on saturday, the night i went out for the meal. Its just the Barcelona bit that comes in April - seemed sensible to wait till the spring and really enjoy our long weekend.

TapselteerieO Tue 29-Jan-13 13:20:54

Oops just read your post properly! Glad your birthday went well, our 40th birthdays are v close together, but I didn't celebrate in style like you did.

TapselteerieO Tue 29-Jan-13 13:15:00

I love the jade dress, think it is a stunner, well done Oblomov and to your dh! Happy 40th when it comes.

HavingAnOffDAy Tue 29-Jan-13 12:34:10


Just wanted to say that the Hybrid dress that GoldPlated linked to is half price on their website now.

I know as she recommended in on a thread I started last week & it arrived yesterday grin

You look fab in the green though - very glow-y smile

Happy birthday

Oblomov Tue 29-Jan-13 09:28:05

Just to let you know that MsArsebiscuit was so very kind as to send me her dress. Which was lovely. But, becasue the material was very shiney, it semed to clingy in the wrong places.
So, I ordered the green Swing dress from the Pretty Dress company, green that ClaudiaWinklepants suggested. Thanks Claudia.

I actually ordered it in the Green and also the black. Dh told me that they were so lovely I was to keep both. smile He suggested I wore the green, kept the balck, for other occassions. "I'm going to make sure you have plenty of opportunity to wear them", he said. Bless him. He then booked us a 3 day break to Barcelona, in April, with my sil looking after the kids. This is my 40th present and what I REALLY wanted. "Now your'll get the chance to wear the black one", he said.
The boy done good smile

So, finally to my 40th. I wear the green. I now realise that my bra was showing a bit too much, so will have to get them both adjusted, this week. (It did not show when I tried it on. Typical. But not to worry. But I did feel fab. And I had the best night. TOTALLY FABULOUS.

So, I just wanted to thank you all. For all the support. I know I was very difficult to 'fit'. wink But we got there in the end. So thanks very much.

I've put up a photo of me in the green dress, on my 40th, on my profile. I scrub up well. smile

Sparklegeek Thu 03-Jan-13 17:54:40

I shall have to play a waiting game then as the wedding isn't until July. It is the sort of colour that may get reduced as it gets warmer so fingers crossed!

Chewbecca Thu 03-Jan-13 17:51:54

Oh no, I am so sorry, you are right. When I clicked on midnight the price didn't change but on clicking on a size it goes back up again. Oh dear. Maybe coz it is still winter, perhaps it'll get reduced as we head towards spring.

Sparklegeek Thu 03-Jan-13 17:44:37

Chewbecca £54, where, WHERE???? What am I doing wrong?! I click on your link on the last page & the only £54 is the hot pink? If you can link me to the midnight at that price I'll love you forever grin

Chewbecca Thu 03-Jan-13 17:39:21

Says £54 for midnight ? (not the long sleeved version?)

Sparklegeek Thu 03-Jan-13 17:13:04

Gah, I sooooooo want that Pied a Terre dress in midnight for my cousin's wedding this year but that colour is still £180! Don't suppose it's likely to go into the sale now though? sad

Chewbecca Thu 03-Jan-13 17:12:53

I do think since your DH said that you'll never feel entirely comfortable in that dress, especially since he can be trusted and is kind.
Don't want to be a bore but did you look at the pied a terre dress in HOF I linked to unthread? Seeing you in the black dress makes me even more convinced that it'd look fab on you and flatter. Try it! It's even cheaper now too, you can always send it back.

MsArsebiscuit Thu 03-Jan-13 16:44:36

Thank you Remus, I'm thinking about going to the VW shop in Manchester as, even if they are dead posh and intimidating, I'm on home turf so will feel better able to stand up for myself !

MrsArse - Liberty and Selfridges stock VW too, if those seem less scary than the VW shop. smile

TapselteerieO Thu 03-Jan-13 12:42:46

Have you seen the Get Cutie dress? It is made to order, you can have a look at the sizing chart and choose a fabric. They have a gallery on the website so you can get more of an idea of what the dress is like. I think they might have a shop too.

Northumberlandlass Thu 03-Jan-13 12:41:47

sad Ok - so the aim is to make you look fabulous & find an awesome dress.

I haven't had any experience of John Lewis or Debenham's fashion consultants. I had a personal shopper at Debenhams once and it was ok..... but I did it in a blind panic when I didn't have anything to wear....

I usually know what I want to look like.....I just find it problematic to get there smile

Oblomov Thu 03-Jan-13 12:25:51

I don't see my Gp for my diabetes. I see the Consultant. She is the top consultant in the country and she admitted last week, that after all her efforts and mine, for the last 8 years, so almost knows not what to do with me!! Great.
I do e-mail the pump specialist nurse, atleast onece a month - she works for the consultant.

Thanks. IAm I your mission ? wink I appreciate your support. I am sure we will get me sorted. Eventually.
I have never been known to be that 'easy' in anythng I do !! wink

I will look at your links Northumberland.

By the way, for my 40th an appointment has been booked for me, to go to Debenhams and also to John Lewis for one of thiei fashion consultations. free. But was booked for me. I thought that was a really nice thought.

Northumberlandlass Thu 03-Jan-13 12:11:49

Ah thanks Oblomov smile

Have you looked at Deadly is the Female site ? It's where I got my stop staring dress...
what about this one ?

Alika Dress

Emma Dress

I am determined to help you find something !!

I am sorry you are feeling so down, it sounds like you have a lot to deal with. Do you see a dietician aswell as GP for your diabetes ?

Oblomov Thu 03-Jan-13 11:58:51

Northumberland, You look AMAZING ! smile

Claudia. Thank you for the link. But I think maybe the Wiggle dresses are too clingy. I thought maybe a Hourglass Swing swing might suit me better.

Tethers - thanks for your links too. The first two, and the fourth are too clingy.
You all keep wanting to get me into clingy dresses. Do you think I am foolish to re-sist your efforts wink
I am scared by the clingy dresses, but honestly don't think they suit me. Do you think I am being stubborn and this really is where I am going wrong?
Thethers -the third - black and white, and the fifth, I thought was not glam enough. I also think it doesn't show enough chest, which I think is one of my best assets to show my curves. Thats why I normally go for a v at the front, to show some clevage.

The Green over budget, I truely LOVED. I thought it was beautiful. This is a possibility. I will talk to dh about the cost of it!!

The cheap lace one, I did not like.

Your last link, did not link to a specfic dress.

The asos dress that Goldplated linked to, at the start of the thread arrived last night. I wanted the oxblood colour, but they did not have, but a navy did arrive.
I am feeling very very fat and unattractive at the moment? sad
I have never been this big. Even my diabetic consultant commented on it,last week, saying we need to get my weight down. I seem to have no will power.Plus, losing weight is hard, I can't just cut down on food, without havign to work really hard at reducing my insulin and tryin got stop me from plummeting down so low that I have a hypo. Is a tricky balancing act anyway, on a daily basis, without trying to cut down on food aswell. I did try last year, for 2 months, cut out all wine, chocolate and crisps, keep going low so having to consume lucozade, thus presumably undoing all my hard work, and despite my efforts, lost not 1lb in 2 miserable mths. Anyway, I have started today and am going to try hard for the next 2 mths.

I tried on the dress. Dh, who is fab as choosing my clothes, and is very sympathetic, said it was " not flattering on the derrier, I'm afraid, my lovely"

I have put photos on my page.

Talking about diabetic,and I am really sorry to drip feed, but I wear a pump, so often buy dresses that have a tie at the back, so I can clip my pump, pump which has a metre of tubing, out from from tummy, up and under my bra, and out the back to clip onto the ties at the back of the dress. This always means that dresses never quite fit properly, but it is the way it has to be. If there are no ties, I clip my pump to my bra, under my arm, most uncomfortable!

I have also pm'd MsArse, after her very kind offer, to ask to borrow her Ava dress. She has the jade in a L, so am hoping that will fit me. I really like the jade alot. But would prefer the plum. But atleast I can try her's on, and maybe wera the jade. And also trying hers for size, will tell me if the L fits. and then I will know whetehr to keep trying to get hold on the L in plum, or to try and get the XL in the plum.

What do you all think.
Give it to me, hard and straight.

Northumberlandlass Wed 02-Jan-13 14:00:15

Oooo Chewy, LOVE that dress....<adds another to my list>

tethersjinglebellend Wed 02-Jan-13 13:57:28

Over budget again and green again but gorgeous

tethersjinglebellend Wed 02-Jan-13 13:47:34

Green over budget

Suspiciously cheap lace

Chewbecca Wed 02-Jan-13 13:39:56

I wore this to my 40th recently and felt fab. There's a variety of colours available and it's reduced to £90 too. I'm 5ft nothing and size 16 so I think it's a pretty special dress to make me feel fab!
Btw, your legs look great in your christening dress, really nothing to worry about there.

ClaudiaWinklepants Wed 02-Jan-13 13:37:34

Sorry, meant to suggest Embassy corset dress or the wiggle dresses from the PLDC. Can't get the link to stay but if you don't mind cut & pasting its worth a look grin

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