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herethereandeverywhere Sun 09-Dec-12 21:56:40

I've been invited with DH to go to a glitzy TV event/awards evening-type thing. The dress code is "lounge suits and cocktail dresses". Anything I have in my wardrobe from past Xmas parties and the like is too small. I have just shelled out on this:

(which was going to be for my relatively low-key Xmas nights out to wear over skinny jeans).

I have some old but comfy gold heels and clutch or a pair of black Laboutins (classic court style) and little black bag - do you think if I wear these with it it would pass as a "cocktail dress"?

JaxTellerIsMyFriend Sat 15-Dec-12 23:02:05

have a lovely time tomorrow evening herethere

CockBollocks Fri 14-Dec-12 21:33:47

Oh sorry - missed your last post!! That dress is lovely - I love a good print smile

CockBollocks Fri 14-Dec-12 21:31:01

Some lovely dresses on here, I have seen the Bardot in store and its gorgeous.

FlourFace Fri 14-Dec-12 01:47:55

Oh no I loved your original dress! But this one is the second best (after your VW dress) on the thread, so good choice!

I would do straight and fringe for the hair.

herethereandeverywhere Thu 13-Dec-12 21:42:52

Thank you ladies!

I love that bag notMarlene envy - might look for something leather, in a colour, in my budget and see what I come up with - really fancy a coloured clutch! My best earrings are pearls with little diamonds which won't go so I might look for some believable costume ones that aren't too OTT.

Love that hairdo it but might just make me look a bit messy! Will have an experiment.

Anyway, even if I end up doing the matching shoes and bag shocker shock I feel in pretty good shape for Sunday!

notMarlene Thu 13-Dec-12 20:43:59

Love it!

Hair wise, straight in a messy chignon? bit like this?

'fraid matching bag and shoes is frumptastic, whatever the brand IMHO. this bag would be just the ticket, over budget though. The right shade of purple or a tealy-turquoise would work too.

Earrings are all you need for jewelery, surely? Have you got any dazzyly studs or drops?

JaxTellerIsMyFriend Thu 13-Dec-12 19:38:08

I love that dress! Yes to the black shoes and bag - because trying to match the print color on the dress will be hellish.

Get your hair whichever way you like to have it. grin

herethereandeverywhere Thu 13-Dec-12 19:33:40

Well ladies I'm here to report back on my shopping trip to Harvey Nicks!

Firstly, there's 30% of clothes and 20% off accessories in store and online. Whoop whoop! Glad I didn't purchase earlier in the week!

Secondly, I got a dress which I think breaks all of the rules you helpful ladies set me <sorry> BUT I had the best time with the assistant bringing me dozens of dresses to try and my two DDs causing a bit of havoc in there grin

So, what did I choose? Well, 1) it's black (mostly) 2) it's a print! <crosses fingers for approval, awaits slating.....> THIS

My reasoning was this: It looks amazing on, really suits my shape, so flattering and really comfortable. It's quite short, even on me, but not indecently so, so it feels and looks "cocktail" not "day" or "office" (or middle-age woman per her classic 'wrap') and 2) I'll get quite a bit of wear out of it, esp. as it feels so good on. I tried loads of stuff, Alexander Wang, Philip Lim, McQ, Kenzo but that one ticked all the boxes. Also I forgot to say, when the passes for the event came, the paperwork said the dresscode was "smart" and went on to say "we suggest cocktail dresses/loungesuits", so I was a bit less comfortable doing sequin for "smart".

So, was thinking the black louboutin courts plus little vintage gucci bag (unfortunately also black...)

What's the verdict? And if you want to accessorise me up from shops I can get to in London tomorrow during my Xmas shop then please do! DH had set me a £550 budget and with discount the dress came in at £250ish - I'm a cheap date wink

Oh, and I'm booked for a blowdry. Straight with fringe or wavy and swept fringe? Or up <won't I look like a bridesmaid though>?

I'm grin smile grin !

Right, need to do bedtime stories, back later!

DonaAna Tue 11-Dec-12 16:16:54

OP, Definitely use this as a chance to get something new!

I really like you patterned VW dress (to me it is a superb day dress, but I might not wear it at night). In my experience it's a good idea to have a solid color or black one as well. For the reference, I have at least 10 cocktail dresses in my wardrobe wink

About to start getting dressed for the cocktails tonight...

herethereandeverywhere Tue 11-Dec-12 16:00:49

Thanks Jax/thanks all. Particularly like the first one in Jax's post!

The event is on Sunday so I'm running a bit short of time - DH has promised a shopping trip on Thursday to get me a dress (that has never happened in the history of ever!)

I'm out tonight but tomorrow going to get the accessories and the VW dress out and decide if it's that or something new! Will keep you posted!

JaxTellerIsMyFriend Tue 11-Dec-12 13:47:48

ooh I like those two RSVP

RSVPforChristmaslunch Tue 11-Dec-12 11:47:03

I love these two
I am similar size/build/color to you and this is the sort of thing I'd go for in the off-chance I ever get invited to an award party

cathyandclaire Tue 11-Dec-12 09:05:34

That blue one is absolutely stunning! Surely you could wear it again it is wearable but also fabulous...
Feeling a bit envy I want to go to glam TV awards in blue sparkly dress!!!

JaxTellerIsMyFriend Tue 11-Dec-12 08:27:37

standard cocktail dress
or this
or DVF

JaxTellerIsMyFriend Tue 11-Dec-12 08:24:40

found this

I know you like patterns. grin

JaxTellerIsMyFriend Tue 11-Dec-12 08:22:37

sorry, wasnt finished! The blue one, although short would work - following the boobs or legs rule and I think would be very flattering on you.

The black one with chiffon is nice, but bit shapeless and the last one is just dull imho.

JaxTellerIsMyFriend Tue 11-Dec-12 08:20:19

I agree with donaana The blue sequin one would be my choice for you. Or if you can get into Harvey ??Nichols or Selfridges Victoria Beckham dresses are very nice and I saw some beautifully cut cocktail dresses when I was in a few weeks ago.

Doesnt have to be black - but should be knee length or slightly above not a mini.

DonaAna Tue 11-Dec-12 07:54:44

Of your dress choices, the two first ones would work (I like the blue although I'm not into sequins - it has great clean lines and good visual impact), the last one is a bit dull and unflattering, could look ageing.

I often wear color rather than black for cocktails. Black is fine for blending in but color gets much more attention.

DonaAna Tue 11-Dec-12 07:41:52

Your VW dress might work for an award thing - people will pick items that maximize visual impact.

I go to a lot of cocktails (next one tonight), they are more conservative than your ceremony but here are the rules:

1. To fit in, wear knee-length black. Many others will too - it's the safe look. The simpler cut, the better.
2. Wear a standout color. In the parties I go to, this is often cream, nude, red, cobalt blue or any jewel tone. You can wear something more adventurous to your party if you wish.
3. Most people avoid pattern - it can look busy and dodgy in photos.
4. Pashminas, cardigans, sequins and ostrich feathers are provincial unless expertly done - better steer clear. Big swarowski crystals on designer dresses are fine, but anything that says office Christmas party is not.
5. Pick shoes that you can actually walk and stand in - I've ruined too many parties with shoes that hurt.

notMarlene Mon 10-Dec-12 23:21:49

But, please don't discount your VW dress. Can you get hold of any photos of previous events?

notMarlene Mon 10-Dec-12 23:20:49

You know I fear you'd risk looking provincial in traditional cocktail without any sort of edge or twist. LOve the black and I bet the blue is stunning IRL. Could you order both and return?

The KG shoes would be fab with the black job (did you see the silver version, possibly subtler. great with the blue). If you love em it'd be worth giving the a shot, you'll only end up wishing you'd made more of the last remnants of youth your 30s wink

herethereandeverywhere Mon 10-Dec-12 23:08:26

notMarlene, really like the style of all of those! Thank you smile I'm 5'3", size 10 on top, verging on 12 on the hips. Good little waist, 32 D boobs (that need a bra due to bf deflation) very saddlebaggy thighs, slightly wobbly tum, chunky arms although this is not terminal. Dirty blonde hair past shoulders (highlights) and brown eyes - suit the natural browns etc in the salon print VW dress but black and navy looks fine too. Red isn't really me.

You are so right about matching shoes and bag, I think it's a comfort thing, I automatically go for it. Love the studded shoes - so me back in the day but not sure if I'm confident enough now.

I had a little surf on the Harvey Nicks website and came up with these:

Too tarty? I secretly love this

Bit shapeless?

too much like office wear?

The black VW one you linked to is the black version of my dress. If I say so myself the salon print looks great on (the pic I linked to doesn't do it justice) and goes fine with the black courts and gold bag - just concerned it didn't look traditionally "cocktail" as confirmed by others upthread.

Got to go to bed now, will pop back tomorrow - thanks for listening!

notMarlene Mon 10-Dec-12 22:48:56

much glam, no bling required, add seamed stockings. like this more actually, same deal. Sorry, one last one, also in black.

notMarlene Mon 10-Dec-12 22:22:01

I've no idea of your size, shape, height colouring. So stabs in the dark really, but:

art deco


This could be quite versatile

this (with these and your gold bag) almost certainly isn't your thing. Love em.


can't go far wrong with a wee red dress

Any of that anything like?

In any case, you really shouldn't be matching shoes and bag. Is dated, ergo aging.

I think your VW job could well work, the quality of the cut and drape makes a wee bit of added glam go a long way. Have you tried it with some of your accessories?

herethereandeverywhere Mon 10-Dec-12 21:46:01

Thanks for the suggestions but they all look like something that someone in their 50s or 60s would wear, except the coloured one which looks like a bridesmaids dress. (I'm 36). I don't want to look so dated or that I've raided the racks and racks of "every Xmas we roll out the same old occasion wear". I could spend more if it's going to get some more run outs but it would have to be something I'd want to be seen in not something worn under sufferance of dress code.

Gah, I know I'm sounding mean and moody - sorry, I should be excited about this. Will have a trawl and see what I come up with.

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