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Am I to round/big to go and do spa like things....
Have decided to totally change my eating habits, and never diet a gain, I have about 25 kilos to loose and have lost 6 so far, I have started to update my wardrobe and really want to start feeling good about myself again. So have been considering a haircut, leg waxing, peidcures etc....but is it ok for a rounder size 16/18 person like me to go and get my legs waxed etc...or am I just too fat..., I am feeilng a bit uncomfortable at the thought that the beautician may laugh at me or think oh she's so fat etc....and advice ...
Er yes I do probably believe the ads - I am entirely lacking in self confidence and working really hard to fix this, and I haven't been in a changing room in years.. . I am also going on a short break in the sun in a few weeks so trying to look a bit like I belong, although I will still be a bit of a beached whale.
The last time I went to a spa I took my 78 year old mother who is a size 18. She had a massage. I am 50. I go fairly often. No one cares what you look like. People either don't care because they are having a nice time and couldn't care less what anyone else does/looks like. Or they don't care because they are too busy worrying what they look like. But either way, they don't care.
Beauticians, just like their clients, come in all shapes and sizes. And just like doctors they see people of all shapes sizes in various states of undress on a daily basis without so much as batting an eyelid, it's their job and in most cases they're very professional about what they do.
Of my beautician friends (some of whom are bigger than you) I've never heard one of them comment on a clients size. They might pass comment (outside of the treatment room) about clients who appear to have forgotten to shower in a while, but never about their size and they would never dream of saying anything derogatory within ear shot of a client.
Put your fears to one side and go enjoy some pampering!
When you have your legs waxed its a service YOU are paying for so YOU call the shots.
If the beautician makes you feel uncomfortable, don't go back, find a different one. If they are rude, then they are in the wrong job (and you should have a gentle word with the manager - along the lines of "love the salon, not very keen on the service").
Any good business wants return customers ie. happy customers. If they have rude staff they won't achieve that. As a paying customer you have as much right as anyone to be there.
Don't forget they will be doing lots and lots of leg waxes every day (and bums, and armpits etc), you will just be one in a long line of women in all shapes and sizes that they have seen that day.
People that do that kind of work are just different. My uncle is a chiropodist and to get his required hours he spend weekend after weekend at old people's homes tending to feet that hadn't been looked at in years. That to me is about as unappealing as a job gets but he genuinely is completely unphased by manky feet.
Not that I'm saying there is anything wrong with the way you look but I don't think you work in a spa if you're funny about people's bodies. I remember one massage where the therapist gleefully pointed out I had some blackheads on my back before humming to herself as she squeezed them
Thankyou all for the support will start making some appointments, the problem was I did use to do all these things but was younger and very fit, trying to be fit again, but I know it will take a while, and would like to look as good as I can in the process.
You may find that if you just go with it, relax and enjoy, that it actually helps boost your self esteem in the long term - particularly as you say it is something you used to do. Please don't let this stop you. You are not saying "sod it, I am staying the size I am because there is nothing I can do". Rather, you are actively seeking to make positive changes and I see no reason why beauty treatments needn't be part of that.
I trained as an aromatherapist and there was a range of shapes & sizes of trainee therapists....ditto the clients. It never bothered me - I just enjoyed working with people and helping them with whatever their reason for treatment was.
The only time I have ever felt a little queasy about touching someone is when they have been less than diligent with their personal hygiene, and even then a good therapist has ways of dealing with it tactfully to make it appear part of the treatment!
Thankyou ujjayi - you are right there is everything wrong with my size, and I just want to be fit and healthy, and feel good again - it's an all over approach I am taking rather than a crash diet. I will be brave and venture into the world of beauty and grooming, thanks for all the tips on hygiene i am very over zealous in that area.
I went on a spa day earlier this year, I'm knackered and flabby and a size 18. I had a full body massage, facial & manicure. I also spent a good hour in the pool and some time in the sauna & steam room.