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I have stopped dying my hair (short bob) how can I detract from the grey and the half dyed half not look- hair band? scarf?

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reddwarf Sat 22-Sep-12 08:20:30

I've dyed my hair for a good 10 years or so. ALways tried to stick to my natural colour, but the dye always seems to get much lighter with time. I have decided to go back to nature shock shock shock

I'm in a horrible in between phase actually where I have about 2" of normal hair (roots) which are salt and pepper mixture of grey and darkish brown, then about 6 inches of dyed hair, which although brown at time of dying has lightened and lightened to the point of being practically blond.

Anyway, thinking long term when it is all grey, as well as now to hide the abismal mix of brown grey and blond, what can I do. All hair bands seem to feel tight and give me a headache, must have a big head.

Want to still look youngish! But also smart ish.

I don't really understand where you get these headscarf things that some people wear like giant their bands and they seem to look stylish, but maybe you need big hair?

My hair is very thin and fine and at the nape of my neck at the back and about an inch below the ears at the front.

Any suggestions? I wish I could just wear a hat all day every day.

Plus is there a non chemical way to help with the colour on my path back to nature?

cybbo Sat 22-Sep-12 08:22:49

Can't you go to a salon and get a mix of hi lights/low lights that will tie the two layers in? That's might work better than tying headscarves on

reddwarf Sat 22-Sep-12 08:27:18

I don't want any more dye as i will be at some point again at the point where I have roots. I don't want to put any more chemicals on my head. (hate hairdressers with a passion too - the experience not the people)

Plus once I am past this in-between stage I want to be able to put something in my hair so you don't just see silver and write me off as an old lady (am 42).

But don't know what works with such thin hair. Sunglasses are good. When it's sunny. Otherwise you just look stupid....

talkingnonsense Sat 22-Sep-12 08:28:25

But not exactly back to nature! Can you try a couple or decorative clips or slides to break it up a bit? Is there any way or getting it up into a bun? Or possibly put a semipermanent brown on the lower half to darken it, but any due on the new hair will just prolong the agony ( am growing my dye out too!)

talkingnonsense Sat 22-Sep-12 08:29:08

Sorry x post that first sentence was to cybbo.

twooter Sat 22-Sep-12 08:32:12

My mum did it cybbo's way. Helps merge the ends to the roots colour so there isn't tramlines and as the hair grows it blends into the natural grey.

MagicSeeker Sat 22-Sep-12 08:36:36

Have a look at Aveda's Clove shampoo and conditioner. Every time you wash it leaves a little colour on your hair. Really works! Great reviews on Makeup Alley.

reddwarf Sat 22-Sep-12 08:43:39

ok, will look at the shampoo, thanks.

I'll never be able to do a bun or anything, but clips and slides, possible, though am worried about looking like my 4 yr old dd.

DOes no one wear scarves, or are they just shit idea? I am looking for long term solution rather than the in-between stage, even though it seems to be lasting forever. hmm

MissWooWoo Sat 22-Sep-12 09:05:21

these cuts are very stylish



I think as long as you keep you hair in good condition and have it cut regularly you'll avoid the old lady look

Not sure what you mean about scarves ...

this is a bit hilda ogden

this might not work with your hairstyle

do you mean something like this?

it is getting colder so you could definately get away with wearing a hat for quite a lot of the time! my great aunt who lived in colder climes all year round pretty much didn't take her hat off unless she was in bed!

would love to see pics periodically if you're brave enough to post them ; 0 )

KellyMarieTunstall Sat 22-Sep-12 09:19:52

I keep trying to grow out the grey but always succumb to the lure of dyes after a few weeks of struggling to cope with the line of shame confused

Where can you buy Aveda stuff on the high street? I dont go to hairdressers -do they stock it? I am fired up to give it another try with the help of this product.

reddwarf Sat 22-Sep-12 11:07:44

wow miss woo woo, thanks. ok, pictures - 1st one of Jamie Lee Curtis is way too short and severe for me, though she does look gorgeous doesn't she? The second one is very glam ! My hair is currently about an inch shorter and very thin , so will never look as voluminous and fab like hers, but I guess that's what I'm heading towards (in my dreams!)

The hilga one of Kylie - yes, she manages to look chic and fun and young and stylish - I would deffo look like Hilga unfortunately sad The Nicole Richie one Is terrifying. , but I guess something a lot slimmer and further back off the face is what I had in mind, but like you said, not sure it work with my short hair.

so what hat can a 40 something wear indoors without looking weird or that they have something to hide?

i would not dare to post a picture, though if it meant someone who could be bothered to do it, and who would be totally impartial could help me out, maybe it would be worth it...?

I'm not sure I can buy that shampoo here. Had a look without success.

MissWooWoo Tue 25-Sep-12 12:16:27

well I quite like this but you may not



I absolutely love these Louis Vuitton hats but not sure it's a look us ordinary folk could pull off wink

reddwarf Wed 26-Sep-12 18:59:03

I Like the M& S one, I like all of them tbh, though I think the LV would raise some eyebrows smile The cloche one and the one you like are nice, but too smart for me and I can't imagine keeping them on indoors.

I reckon i do need to just hide my hair away now but how?

Apart from the huge dark circles under my eyes, I think I have actually aged quite well and have def. fewer lines than someone I know 10 years younger than me, but my hair ages me massively.

MissWooWoo Wed 26-Sep-12 20:29:59

in no way meaning to offend you I wonder have you considered asking any of the ladies on the crepey thread? I think some of them have possibly taken the plunge with going natural on the hair front so they might be able to advise you of some suitable ways to do it gracefully - good luck!

kiwigirl42 Wed 26-Sep-12 20:38:08

I stopped using permanent and started using semi permanent - the 8 wks ones that will eventually wash out (easier as my ends were similar colour to the grey coming through.
Then I gave in and started dyeing it properly again. Couldn't bear looking at all the grey! Look so much younger with coloured hair.

brass Wed 26-Sep-12 20:42:54

I think hairdressers can strip the colour so you don't have to live with badger stripe.

I'm sure my hairdresser friend told me this once when I queried it.

Maybe a colour specialist will come along soon.

reddwarf Wed 26-Sep-12 20:43:02

crepey thread?

MissWooWoo Wed 26-Sep-12 20:48:12

crepey I have only skimmed it every now and again but it started out as a thread for ladies of a certain age (40+ I think?) who wanted to swap tips/share finds on how to look/feel good ... grey hair being a biggie for most of us in the 40+ bracket I thought you might find some growing out gracefully advice there, although maybe most of them still dye (like me!)

notMarlene Wed 26-Sep-12 20:58:04

I wear scarves like in your second link quite a bit, my hair is fine and silky too so I susually use a couple of hairgrips to keep it in place. Do the hilda ogden thing too, red lippy and 50's ish make up makes it pretty easy to pull off. Can even look a bit glam shock

You know, the obvious solution to going gray quickly and gracefully would be a fab crop...

Mum2Fergus Wed 26-Sep-12 21:01:16

I find a zigzag parting helps as I approach touching up time, so to speak lol

reddwarf Wed 26-Sep-12 22:37:00

My older sister went for the drastoc crop and i was shocked at how old and butch she looked tbh. Mind you, her hair is gorgeous and thick and grows quickly, and in a short space of time, she had a lovely thick bob. She does look older though.

I on the other hamd have pitiful, slow growing thin hair and I do not at allsuit a crop. Not at all.. But i can live with having a shitty mix of gray and die, but while i'd love some top interim tips, my eyes are fixed on the long term, as frankly, for the resy of my life i will be grey, but i don't want to look like an old lady for the whole of that time.

I really just noticed and appreciated today i tink how relatively youthful my face looks. She might have given me crap eye sight and crap hair, but my mum did pass on good skin. So some youthful hair band/ scarf/ tips are what i reckon i need. Without looking like mutton. Notm, i ish i could pull it off. I couldnt possibly wear red lippy. I'm a bit of a shrinking iolet. I cn't rememer the last time i put makeup on. My only lippy is sort of lip colour. Not nude. That's too brash for me....

Thank for crepey link, searched but didn't find.

Am attending uni course and am easily 20 years older tah all of the,. Think hair is a big bad factor.

OttillieRidiculous Thu 27-Sep-12 07:57:05

OP - no matter how youthful your face and skin look (you lucky thing!), grey hair is going to age you dramatically. I'm not saying it can't look good because it definitely can but it's not a look I'd want to try at your age (am older than). It will put you in a category that you're too young for.

Why not have a mixture of highlights and lowlights which, in my experience, add a depth to fine hair. And take yourself off to the Bobbi Brown counter and get some make-up tips smile

Ungratefulchild Thu 27-Sep-12 08:05:10

Aveda black malva conditioner really helped me through this stage. My hair is fine, a bob and I've just come through the dyeing transition. It's expensive but you don't need to use it each time.

reddwarf Thu 27-Sep-12 12:02:48

So otille you're telling me to forget it and take myself off to hairdressers? Not sure I can. Why does dye always seem to get lighter and lighter? I dyed it darkish yet it looks blindfish now .

What does that aveda conditioner do? I haven't seen it anywhere unfortunately.

Is the scarf/ headband idea a total non runner then?

Ungratefulchild Fri 28-Sep-12 08:12:37

No persevere, it's totally worth it.

The conditioner sort of darkens your highlights and blends them in and does the same to your roots. The Aveda conditioner can be bought online or I get it in Frasers.

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