I'm a previously slim person who is currently overweight, and I am losing weight having come to the realisation that being this size is having a negative impact on me, not just sartorially.
I am currently trying to find a dress that doesn't look just awful on me. I'm 5' 4" and I'm a 16 at the moment, and the problem is that it is mostly on my bust and tummy, so if I do find something that I feel comfortable in, it looks OK from the front but if I stand sideways it looks like a tent, far too big on the hips and waist and makes me look shapeless and dumpy.
However, when I try something more fitted I just look pregnant. Additionally, fitted things are always too small at the bust when they fit elsewhere.
So anyway, for a one off special occasion (one which is something you have to endure rather then will enjoy), is it better to wear something that is perhaps not ideally flattering but you feel comfortable in - and let's face it the point here is that just because you put on a frock it is not going to instantly transform you into looking good if you don't already look good, is it?
I'm sort of thinking I just need to admit that I'm shapeless and dumpy and nothing will "look good".
Does anyone know of any place that might sell magic dresses?
Jenny thanks it's a good suggestion but I can't do empire line - my bust is always too big. In order to get the chest bit above the empire line I would need a 22 or something so the lower bit of the dress would be mahoosive.
Your figure sounds a lot like mine. IMO baggy stuff looks dreadful when you have a big bust. I tend to go for dresses that are made out of a stretchy material. Often in a sort of shift style but with sleeves. I also do wrap dresses but am very picky about the material as they can do as much harm as good if the print isn't flattering.
Have a look at COS online. Some of this season's stuff is great. I have just bought this. It's very flattering and looks lovely with opaque tights, big jewellery and heels.
I'm a passionate believer in the 'don't wear baggy if you're large' rule. I avoid like the plague anything that drops straight from my large bust, with no definition, making me look like a ship in full sail. I have an hourglass figure, in proportion, and am tall with long legs and do appreciate that in those respects I'm really lucky.
Thinking about how you describe your figure, I'm sure it isn't true that 'nothing will look good'. Keep looking for something comfortable but also flattering. In a Size 16, there's a vast choice.
Not sure what dress shape to suggest but perhaps a wrap (Boden have some with 30% off today). Or, as bat said, a shift - but one that doesn't just go straight down from the bust like a sack.
An alternative for a special occasion would be a nice top or tunic, preferably with a bit of elastane/ stretch in it, to ensure it skims the figure, neither just hanging nor fitting too snugly. I have several of these from Boden, who might be worth a look, and other tunics have been suggested above, including that JL one (difficult to tell if that one has enough definition without trying it). You could wear it either with slim/skinny trousers, to show off your slimmer lower half, or just fabulous opaques, if the tunic is long enough (your height is an advantage here). And great accessories, of course.
Sorry but all those dresses that you posted are horrible and would do absolutely nothing for your figure-and you would look dowdy as hell in them! Cant do links but phase 8 have some nice wraps dresses-I am a similiar shape to you and I have never found a more flattering dress shape on me. Also Monsoon have some nice wrap or tea dresses on which are flattering on a bigger bust.