Beatnik

[catswipe]

What do you associate with this style? TIA

[Havingkittens]

My mum was a beatnik. I would say mostly dressing in black, tight jeans, polo necked jumpers or long baggy jumpers, pointy shoes. Jeans sometimes rolled up. I'm thinking 1960s french coffee shop, poetry ready, folk listening, gitanes smoking. Lots of black eyeliner, pale lips, simple hair often centre parted.

[Havingkittens]

Oh, and berets, striped tops, scooped necks, neck scarves, capri pants/cigarrette pants/pedal pushers.

[ghostofstalbans]

polo necks and berets, a line skirts, leonard cohen

[Havingkittens]

I meant trousers rolled up rather than jeans. Not sure where that came from.

[kendalmintcake]

[Havingkittens]

Love it when someone asks a question, people all come and give answers and then you don't see the OP for dust .

[catswipe]

Sorry have I failed some sort of manners test? THANK-YOU TO EVERYONE WHO KINDLY RESPONDED TO MY QUESTION IN A HELPFUL FASHION.

Having Kittens - your offering is what exactly?

[Havingkittens]

Having Kittens - your offering is what exactly?

Come again?

It is quite nice to acknowledge when people take the time to answer your questions. They/we are, after all just trying to be helpful and taking their time out to think about information to give you or finding links to help you out. There really is no need to reply in such a stroppy way. I was trying to make a point in a friendly way.

Just sayin' that's all. No need to shout!

I wasn't really asking for any kind for fawning thanks or anything like that. I just find it strange when people start a thread or conversation, others get involved and then the OP doesn't really show any further interest.

[catswipe]

No, you seem passive/aggressive.....
I contribute to plenty of threads but I do not expect a response. I would not consider nil response as unkindly. If you resent taking the time out to reply, kindly refrain.
Sometimes when somebody starts a topic -it is just that, rather than a personal request for information.
Please note- TIA. Thanks In Advance.

[Technoprisoners]

That's a bit rude to HavingKittens. She did give you a good, considered reply and then a gentle prod to come back with a comment. It's usually what an OP does - just a brief acknowledgement.

[catswipe]

I find people who feel the need to 'remind' others rude. I think the prod was unnecessary given the open topic nature. I had thanked in advance.

[Havingkittens]

Of course I don't resent taking the time to reply, if I did why would I bother? Whether a person is putting out a personal request for information or merely starting a conversation, I personally think it's strange to show no further interest once others have entered into the conversation or exchange.

I wasn't being passive/aggressive, I was being cheeky and sarcastic. If that's the same thing in your book then sorry, but it wasn't really mallicious. I'm not the first person to comment on the fact that people do this, I just felt like saying it that's all. I have seen lots of people write long and helpful replies on other threads, and have done so myself, and then not even know whether it has been of any help, or been read even does sometimes make one wonder if was worth trying to be helpful.

The fact that I said it in a non aggressive way with a winky face at the end was meant to be friendly but make a point.

Your own response, juxtaposed by the fact that others have expressed what I have in the past, just go to show there are split camps on how people like to interact on forums. Let's just leave it at that and agree to differ shall we?

[catswipe]

I don't need you to make any point to me. I know how to behave appropriately.
It seems as if you have carried issues over from the previous forums you have contributed towards without receiving, what you perceive, as appropriate thanks.
That is what is meant by 'passive/aggressive'.
If I give I do so without expecting to receive in return.
The 'worth' of being helpful is an interesting point when you consider it in the context above.
So yes, we differ considerably and yes we'll leave it there.

[LeBJOF]

Ooh, a proper fight in Style And Beauty- we haven't had one of these for ages

[Havingkittens]

Maybe it's something to do with something that happened to me in my childhood. You seem to be trying to psychologically assess my response.

Although, not you're probably not physchologically inclined as if you were you'd know that Passive/aggressive behaviour is a personality disorder which involves being resistant and obstructive as a way of having control over others around you. Not being cheeky and sarcastic.

Blimey, I was only being flippant. To be fair, if anyone's being aggressive here I don't think it's me, thanks! You're well arsey!

Technoprisoners thank you for your support.

[Havingkittens]

Bloody hell..... I wasn't even trying to have a fight.

[catswipe]

[tethersend]

HavingKittens has done nothing wrong.

It's beyond annoying to contribute to a (somewhat cryptic) thread, particularly on S&B where you may have searched for links etc., and not have the OP come back to acknowledge this.

catswipe, I'm afraid that you are the one who comes out of this badly.

[tethersend]

Shit, ignore me if you've made it up

[TattyDevine]

LMAO

[Havingkittens]

tethersend no, this was a bonafide scuffle it seems. Thanks for backing up my opinion I was starting to feel a bit battered there!

Slightly confused by Catswipe's last input. I'm hoping it's a truce, but I can't be sure.

[TattyDevine]

To answer the OP the only association with the style I have is <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?q=ned+flanders+parents&um=1&hl=en&sa=N&tbm=isch&tbnid=RfHXf2uBMLPIvM:&imgrefurl=www.websters-online-dictionary.org/definition/beatnik&docid=igdncj0SMAjhbM&w=250&h=189&ei=RltWToXWNJOt8QPBsb2WDA&zoom=1&iact=rc&page=1&tbnh=151&tbnw=200&start=0&ndsp=8&ved=1t:429,r:2,s:0&tx=120&ty=84&biw=1093&bih=491" rel="nofollow noindex" target="_blank">Ned Flanders' parents in The Simpson's who were apparently Beatnicks.

[tethersend]

This is so not cool, cats.

[LeBJOF]

Go beatnik, OP, and be ...

[Pandalaw]

"Your offering is what exactly?". Rude cow