I have had this problem for years. Its a poser thats for sure. I have tried everything. Ysday i went to the hairdressers and i went lighter (definate improvement for me and very flattering to my skin tone) and weirdly jaw line (or in my case, no jaw line) looks less apparent. Less hair round the face helps me. Hair pushed behind my ears and layered. Mine is short but with alot to play with on top.