My mum died on Saturday (after a long, hideously drawn out illness - so there is relief mixed with sadness) and as I was driving home this am, having spent the last couple of days with my father, I got to thinking about the funeral. It struck me that I have absolutely nothing that is either suitable or that I want to wear.
Now my mum was a pretty stylish lady and I don't want to let her down, so does anyone have any suggestions for me? I would prefer trousers (have quite chunky legs) though I'm happy to wear a dress or skirt. I don't want to wear black particularly - I don't recall Mum ever wearing black in her life plus I feel funerals should be about celebrating the life of that person and black can be a bit depressing. I have a budget of around £100 for clothes and shoes, I'm a size 10/12, 5'6", reddish-brown hair, pale skin.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I would wear something you feel comfortable in and that you think your mum would like. I lost my mum last year and I wore a dark grey skirt suit (my mum would have been horrified if I'd worn trousers to a funeral, bless her) and a fushia pink blouse as that was her favourite colour. Stay strong and I hope the funeral goes as well as these things can. x
Thanks everyone, I like those dresses, but I was thinking of something a little lighter and brighter. Do you think it would be wildly inappropriate to wear something like one of these dresses with a dark cardi?
Very sorry for your loss and the tough time that preceded it.
You should wear what you feel most comfortable and right in, but must say I do prefer the two Ruprekt posted - which were both very smart and classy, yet feminine and youthful. They could both be teamed with brighter/lighter acccessories.
Don't think your suggestions are inappropriate, but, to me, that first M and S one doesn't look quite special enough and the second perhaps a bit too shiny and pale (though very hard to tell online). I think the Monsoon ones are OK - the second perhaps a bit wintery? I just really like the other two. But you know what sort of thing your mum would have liked.
If you want to clebrate life then ditch the black and dark colours. I have been to a funeral like this. However you should be sure to brief the other attendees as to what the dress code is and why, otherwise you risk that some will wear black and judge you as disrespectful or else wish they had worn a colour themselves.
So sorry about your loss! Did your mum love a particular outfit / style or shape of dress / color on you? Or did she like your hair in a particular way? I'd dress in something she admired or wanted to see me in.
The patterned dresses Callisto linked to looked a bit too everyday to me. I'd probably pure black just because its both conventional and convenient. But it sounds like autumn colors might suit you really well, too, or perhaps rich jewel tones. I'd probably do solid color, unless I could find a really pretty patterned dress.
Hi, Callisto, really sorry about your Mum. Check out kettlewell colours, from your description of yourself aubergine might be good, they do a v elegant maxi skirt, I'm 5'6 too and it covers as much as trousers but is more um skirty! There's a variety of tops, I like the 3/4 sleev crossover ruched in Aubergine, if you have a good waist it will look great, if a tube like me it creates one. You will need a camisole and a lighter colour would add a bit of brightness without being too much. You cd pick up a pashmina style scarf. I really hope you find something that you feel good in as it will make the funeral day so much easier for you. Hope this is a bit of use, good luck, Colourfairyx
And if I did buy this one, what colour shoes and cardi should I wear with it? I do have some brown wedge sandles that are smart, very similar to the shoes worn with the blue silk dress, would they do? And if I go brown shoes, what colour cardi would go with brown and navy? Arrggg, too confusing.