just watched stepmom, i take my hat off to all you step parents

[carriedababi]

must be a bloody tough job

excellent movie btw

[Surfermum]

Thank you! It is a hard job, harder than being a mum I find. And I love that film, but I blub every time I watch it. At the end and at the bit where she picks the daughter up and doesn't let on that her mum forgot, then the mum doesn't say thank you.

[FourShour]

I watched it when I was 8 months pregnant

I remember having a heated debate with a (childless) friend about stepmothers

As a mum now I know I was completely out of order

hats off to all the stepmums and dads

[Doodlez]

As a step-daughter, all I can tell you is:- we do get it and we are grateful, once we hit adulthood and especially when we have children of our own

My SM was a bloody saint to be honest. I don't know how she didn't swing for me on more than 500 occasions.

[giddykipper]

Definitely more difficult than being a mum, especially when your step-children are in their puberty years! I am dreading the day that DSD (who lives with us) throws "you're not my mother" at me when we disagree on something, thankfully it has never happened. And it's so hard remaining pro-mum even when her actions are a little suspect.

[owlandpussycat]

This movie really hit home for dh, whose mum died when he was only 5 and she wasn't really talked about much.

He had a lovely stepmum too.

When we watched it I was blubbing away and thought he was taking the mickey copying me, but he saw for the first time quite sililar circumstances to his own life. It really upset him for a long time afterwards.

The silver lining was that it made him ask his dad about his mum and started a great dialogue with him. His dad had felt disloyal in speaking about her in front of his second wife so didn't. Typical man, being non emotional about it. However, it is now openly discussed and a lot of questions were answered for dh. He was about 40 at this time.

When his mum was dying, he and his sister were sent away on holiday with their gran, so had no involvement, and were simply told when all over.

[carriedababi]

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