I have 2 x s/DD 25yrs and 22yrs both of whom have left our home and currently at Uni or looking for work. They are very cold with DH and I since we had DS 3yrs ago and will only communicate via email or text, normally to ask for money or slide in caustic comments about how much they are having to pay out to get qualifications to get work.
I don't begrudge anyone the fact that it's tough getting jobs, or that indeed qualifications aren't generally free. What I do find rather frustrating is that at their respective ages, they expect to live the high life, going travelling, holidays to various beautiful locations, partying (students rights, I know!!) and then become beligerent when we are reluctant to stomp up £100's at a time when they hint in our general direction.
I feel guilty, and no idea why (??) and DH is fed up with them both.
I know every situation is different, but when should they really stand on their own two feet? Our budget is tight and they look down at us when we say we're having to go camping. I want DH to be happy and included in their lives, but am I banging my head needlessly on a brick wall? Should I just let them get on with it and ignore their snipes?
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2 x step children: 25yrs and 22yrs...still demanding everyone pays for them. Is that normal?
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SwissCheese · 14/09/2009 21:37
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