My son was born 1 year ago. On the exact day I came out of hospital, my SD, 14,came to live with us as her mother could not ? cope ? with her anymore and they have agreed that she is better off with her dad.
From that moment, my relationship with my DH went down the hill. From two free, independent people, we suddenly had to learn to cope with a new born baby and what turn out to be a very stroppy teenager.
SD has started lying to us, throwing tantrums, not interested at all in studying, hanging out with the ?wrong ?crowd. Her values are very different from ours. She hates reading ( apart from Jordan's Autobiography), thinks that Libraries are the most uncool and sad place. She is very lazy and doesn?t like doing anything apart from putting make up on and doing her hair.This frustrates me soo much as I work full time, look after a 14 mo, do all the cooking and housework. I work hard and love my books and feel sad to see so much disrespect to things I treasure.
In our house, there are constant arguments between her and DH who is very frustrated. However, if I dare say anything to her, my DH takes her part, shouts at me and even swears at me.
I feel that I have not fully enjoyed my baby so far, the way 1st time mothers do.
In the past year, my DH has been too busy arguing about room tidiness, homework etc. He is always stressed out and the cosines a baby brings has gone out of the window.
I am concerned for my son growing up in this environment and taking her as an example of how to behave. I
I am also concerned about myself, as an individual who has to take all the crap without being allowed to say what they feel. I do feel like a prisoner in my own house.
Most days, I hate leaving work and going home ( how sad!!). The only thing that keeps me going is the smiling face of my baby. I realy have nothing else to look forward to. ( feeling guilty as this should be enough).
I had made up my mind to leave them but I am worried that I am a bad mother by taking my son away from his daddy. Of course, he will be allowed to see his daddy as much as possible.
I am so sad and don?t know what to do.
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Monkeysmom · 02/06/2005 13:31
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