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Positive stories please..........

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yummymummytobe · 18/08/2009 11:10

Hi, i'm about to be a single mum and have been thinking about what a new partner would be like with my child, how they would bond etc. I have read through some threads on here and unfortunately haven't been able to find any positive stories on step-parent bonding. Does anyone have any they can share with me? Would be greatly appreciated.

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terrier141 · 18/08/2009 12:07

Hi, my new husband is excellent with my children, however there is an obvious difference between how he feels about my children to how he feels about his own. Saying that I think its a really hard situation for anyone who gets involved with an existing family and my dh really does try his best (hes way better than their real dad in every aspect).
Hope that helps, good luck x

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mrsjammi · 19/08/2009 22:43

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 19/08/2009 22:53

My SIL was fabulous with her stepkids, she is the reason why they are all doing well today and all happy (most of the time), she adn my brother split up 18 months ago, my niece still stays with her, my nephew although living with brother still sees her regulalry.

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Jaquelinehyde · 19/08/2009 22:59

Hi let me see if I can be of assistance.

My Mum and Dad seperated when I was 4 . My Mum met and remarried very quickly. My stepdad is a wonderful man and we have had nothing but a lovely upbringing. We are all very close and even though I never called him Dad in my eyes that is exactly what he is. (we also kept a good relationship with Dad dad, so it wasn't a replacement thing). My stepdad was 28 when he married my Mum and took on us 4, and then went on to have 3 more children, and the 7 of us would never ever except from anyone that we were halfbrothers/sisters. Technically we are but I would never say, I have brothers and sisters nothing less.

I am also in a new relationship (well not that new) after my marriage ended, and my DP has 2 girls that he has full custody of and we have all intergrated perfectly, I am Mummy and DS is their brother and vice versa. I couldn't be happier and I think the same is for everyone.

Do not panic or buy into the wicked step parent fairytale. You will be fine

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 19/08/2009 23:01

My half sister also says that withour my mother she would never have a relationship with my father.

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jud2905 · 20/08/2009 20:17

Hi I have 2 sons of my own and 2 step daughters who i have known since age 1 and 5. I consider myself to have 4 children not 2. there are lots of brilliant examples of extended families- dont panic just take it slowly and one step at a time.

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yummymummytobe · 24/08/2009 16:08

Thanks everyone for your stories, I feel a lot more optimistic about it now!

Lovely to hear how happy you all are and agree with mrsjammi- should of thought about papers never printing the happy stories!

Thanks again everyone!

x

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