I know people will have mixed views on this but here goes, need to get it off my chest.
Today DOH gets his payslip and there is a mysterious deduction of £218. Turns out X has got CSA on to him.
So he is taking home a grand total of £950 a month now.
It's a nightmare. We simply can't cope on the money we have left.
It's a complete waste of time her doing this - obviously vindictive.
We buy EVERYTHING for DSS as she is on benefits (and she gets the child benefit despite us having equal care).
We buy school uniform, all clothes, most food, furniture for his room at both houses, do all school runs so petrol and car upkeep, holidays, days out etc etc etc.
She pays nothing. Not a dime. This has always been the arrangement and we have been happy with it.
Now because she is on benefits, the CSA money doesn't actually go to her. It just offsets her benefits.
So she is worse off (as she is going to have to buy all clothes, uniform etc etc).
We are worse off (£218 a month to be precise).
DSS is worse off (he will have hardly any treats - swimming lessons will have to stop, days out, holidays, parties).
It's not like we were avoiding paying for the child, we were doing everything. But now she has gone and put a giant spanner in the works by crippling us financially.
We are going to have to live on about £20 a week now after all our bills. £50 a week is a LOT of money in these times.
DOH was going to go back to Uni in Sept and retrain as a teacher (he works in factory) but I just don't think it's going to be possible.
We were putting aside £50 a month into DSS university fund (not a lot but it'll help) - that will have to stop.
So upset, this has ruined both our present and DSS future. Don't know what to do.
DOH even talking about giving up work as not worth all the hours to have £20 a week to live on and also about moving into shared lodgings. This will massively impact our quality of life as a family. We already live in 1 bedroom.
So sad and distressed. Hope someone can identify.
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Ex has got CSA on us
guaranagal · 07/07/2009 20:54
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