Sorry don't know where to start.
Have 2 dsc (14 and 13) they live with their mum (Dh's exW) about 90 miles away from us.
Last 12 months their mum has been having problems with depression, heavy drinking and a violent bf. Culminated in her taking an overdose last July when they were on holiday with us. She rang the dsc to tell them what she'd done and that she wanted to die .
We rang police who got her into hospital overnight (was a small overdose apparently). SS were informed at the time and took it evry seriously as she works for them. Someone senior talked to dh and said the kids weren't at risk as they were old enough to walk out of the house if they wanted.
Since then (and before really) dsc have told us very little about what is going on. They visit infrequently and have said they can't leave their mum (recent visits have ended with her ringing them in tears saying she misses them and can't cope).
Dss has started getting into trouble at school - 2 exclusions in last 6 months. Dsd has been very withdrawn over the last few weeks when dh has rung her - saying she feels sick all the time.
ExW and DH have a bad relationship (she'll ring and be abusive to him/us periodically) but last night she talked to him when he rang the kids and said she was likely to be sacked from her job today for drinking at work (due to be at a disciplinary but she wasn't going to turn up). She was very tearful and said she coudln't cope. Her friend rang dh this morning and told him to come down and sort everything out. He's no idea what on earth he can do. Kids obviously don't want him involved as they haven't told him anything is wrong.
Neither she nor the dsc want them to live with us. We're due a second baby in 4 weeks time. Dh is very upset and worried that his children are coping with so much at such a young age. He's tried to speak to them and said he will offer them support.
ExW is seeing her GP again today (believe she's already on AntiDs and had counselling).
What on earth do you think we could do to help?
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silkcushion · 19/05/2009 16:45
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