I have been coming to this site for a few months now and it has really helped. However things never stay the same. Everyone situation is different but I would like a few thoughts on this. I have been with dh for over four years and in that time ex have been really nasty and underhand but has also been very nice... When I talk to her she is extreemly friendly but also questioning at the same time ensuring that I know about all of the lovely things that are going on in her life. Then if it takes are fancy she will either b**tch about us to any one that will listen or do something that she had said that she wouldn't do or phone up to rant. I am so confused. For instance, my dh and I had a really hard time recently and she got to hear about it, called to tell me that she supports me and that she would always encourage me to continue my relationship with SD. Then the next day she called dh and asked him if it was ok that I see sd as if he didn't want me to then she would tell me that I couldn't...what is that all about? There is loads more stuff like that.
The delema that I have is what is the best place to place myself. I waver between answering her calls and trying to get to know her and being friendly as many of you have done. So that my sd is happy that everyone is getting on. To totally ignoring her calls and letting dh deal with it all. However when I do this she doesn't like it and I worry that she talks badly of me making me out to be unreasonable. I just feel that I do not trust her and that is my problem....what do you think? I hope that this all makes sense but I'm letting it all out.
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reflection · 09/03/2005 08:41
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