Hello all,
I wasn't sure where to post this and who to ask but I wonder if anyone could help.
I've been with my partner for around a year and a half. We don't live together. He has an 11 year old daughter who I haven't been introduced to yet as she took her parents split very hard and has only recently accepted that Dad might have a new girlfriend. We had planned to introduce me after Christmas.
Sadly her mother (partner's ex) died this week (unexpectedly, not going into details) and my partner is her sole carer now.
She obviously has to be his priority right now and I totally support this, but I am/we are left in the weird situation of me being with her dad, and have been for quite a while now, but to introduce me so soon now would be unfeeling and hard for her to accept having just lost her mum.
I can't be there physically to support him during the time because of causing the daughter hurt.
Additionally, my partner will always have his daughter at the house and at weekends now so we won't be able to meet up anymore without her there - which isn't a problem for me but I don't want to put the daughter in a uncomfortable or traumatic situation. I don't however want to end my relationship with my partner as I don't feel that way and want to make it work, including the daughter when the time is right.
Has anyone experienced anything similar and does anyone have any advice?
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sianlou31 · 23/10/2020 10:42
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