I've been 'step mum' for about 6 months now to 2 lovely kids, both under 6. We have them 50% of hols and 2 out of 3 weekends.
I am really really struggling (usually the first day they are here, breakdowns, crying, unhappy). I love the children- they're lovely and well behaved, they are not the problem, it's everything surrounding them that I struggle with
- One of them wakes up every 2 hours every night
- The 4hr return journey most weekends
- The expectation that I'm just stepmum
- The chaos the house is in (I work from home)
- The noise levels
- Their late bedtimes (after 9pm most nights)
- the expectation that I do lots of fun trips with them, no thought that I might need some time to myself
- no understanding from partner about why this could be hard
- the lack of attention from partner (I know this is a silly thing to say, obviously he needs to give them 100% of attention- it's just hard adjusting)
- he can't do anything with me over hols or weekends like visit my family or friends as he always has the kids.
I need some happy step mum stories to get me through. Please don't need people telling me to run. I'm giving it a good shot, and in another 6 months if I am still struggling then I will walk away.
I want advice and good stories- did anyone else really struggle at the beginning?
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