Any of you having step kids back as lockdown eases?

(9 Posts)
chocolatesaltyballs22 Thu 28-May-20 18:55:16

For those of you who made the decision not to transfer kids between households, are you still not having the stepkids over to stay? We haven't had my husband's kids in 10 weeks. He is shielding, as is his oldest son. There are 2 weeks left to go on that (I think?) But his ex is now making noises about returning to previous arrangements. My husband is nervous about this as we have no control over what her and her partner are doing with respect to social distancing etc.

Was just interested to know what others have done/are doing?

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aSofaNearYou Thu 28-May-20 19:02:40

We've had my step son for the first time last weekend, but none of us are shielding and we are all off work. We know his mum has been very stringent, as well. I think it's a judgement call at this point.

Helspopje Thu 28-May-20 19:08:26

In realistic terms, shielding for the highest criteria could go on for 6-12 months.
When are you planning to have him back?

rosegoldivy Thu 28-May-20 19:12:26

Husband has an underlying lung condition. We have had DSD here more often than usual. He felt the risk was worth it rather than not see her at all.

chocolatesaltyballs22 Thu 28-May-20 19:20:53

I guess we planned to reassess after the 12 weeks. I don't believe for one minute that the vulnerable will be shielding for 6-12 months.

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HelloViroids Thu 28-May-20 19:22:57

We’re having DSD to stay for 2 weeks. I’m 31 weeks pregnant and nervous as her Mum is a key worker. confused

Helspopje Thu 28-May-20 19:29:46

Why ever not?
What has miraculously changed 3 months in?
I look after a cohort of shielding patients as a hospital consultant. That’s what the powers that be have asked us to plan to


MeridianB Thu 28-May-20 20:28:36

Not yet. Luckily DSC’s mother has been strictly observing lockdown but I can imagine many have not and it would be a real worry for some NRPs.

alphabetti Fri 29-May-20 19:49:43

We have my partners son for the weekend for the first time since lockdown. My partner is a teacher who has been in school (on a rota). I am working from home and my 2 have been at home following rules and they don’t have contact with their dad.

DSS mother doesn’t work and she decided that my partner was a risk as he worked in a school so said better no contact. He didn’t want to be the reason his son got ill so went along with things. He was so excited today with thought of seeing his son but he was dropped off an hour late just with her saying oh was busy, and he’s turned up looking a right state - T-shirt too small and dirty jacket and he’s lost loads of weight. We are not happy at all but not going to say anything so she doesn’t prevent any future contact.

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